emlion wrote:
Moog wrote:
Ah, well if he's liable to get violent(!) then I can see why you should perhaps tell your boyfriend.
He has hit me before. But only once.
& Yeah, I will only tell my boyfriend if things seem to be getting bad or tense. He knows the friend is a bit prone to violence...
"Only once" is totally unacceptable, and the fact that this young man went on to get drunk and put you in such an uncomfortable position leads me to believe that he is not as much of a friend as you perceive him to be. My personal rule with anyone is that there is no opportunity for a second time with physical violence - the relationship ends immediately following the first time. Sadly, I know of someone who did not follow this rule with tragic results.
Abuse is not exclusively about a dating relationship, it can be any relationship - but I'm doubly concerned that your friend seems to think there is a romantic relationship there, and is ignoring the boundaries of your existing relationship and your friendship. Please get help - are you still in school? See a counselor, tell them the story of the original incident where you were hit, the "violent tendencies" and this situation where your friend got drunk. I would not talk to either your boyfriend or your friend about it until you have worked on a plan of action with a professional that you trust.
You can find more resources here:
http://seeitandstopit.org/pages/index.htmlI agree that when one person hits another needlessly (unless it's in self-defense), there is absolutely no justification whatsoever for it!
17 Jan 2011, 5:17 pm
