I don't want to date poor people

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See I have a different strata. I date people largely on education. I am kind of like an employer that says "bachelors required, master's preferred". Some people can avoid this, Grisha for example would, he has a "smart" job. But for the most part this is true for me. In general I have dated Ph.D.s, Computer Programmers, guys in graduate schools, and people who have bachelors from more to most selective universities.

The reasons why are simple for me, people without the education are probably not going to mesh well with me.

There is a class effect though as well. I have never dated anybody who was not middle class or upper middle class. The truth is education determines class fairly often in this country.

Also while only 1-5% of the US is "rich" (the definition of this can range), about 15% is upper middle class, and about 30% is lower middle class. The rest being "working class" (30%) and working poor (13%) and below that underclass. What she is saying is she is not intrested in people who are not middle class, it is still a significant chunk of the US population, about 45%.

Most people in the upper-middle have very high educations, considering my educational requirements, I am almost more selective. I am not choosing on class because that can be fluid, but the result can almost always result in a class based outcome, often resulting in the upper-middle.

Whether people like it or not the US is a class based society, we just don't acknowledge it as much. Her prefrences in class and stating them as such is only odd because she is stating them as class based. But the fact is people do this in other ways, there is not as much class based mobility as people think. Peoples prefrences often lean towards a class basis. Its odd in that she is acknowledging the class basis as her primary concern, rather than an eventual outcome. For me it is education and knowledge, while I care less about class, the outcome for me and how I choose partners often have a class outcome. I almost always end up with somebody in the upper-middle class.

You people are a bit defensive.

Women all have criteria. Some women's criteria is longer than others. For me education is an easy indicator whether we will get along, its not absolute. I would rather not look look for a needle in a haystack, I would rather look for a needle in a needle stack and pick the needle. The other aspects I can get from dating a person, basically if we share similar likes or dislikes and how well I get along with a person. But education seems to be a good guide about whether or not that will be the case. That is just from my own experience, but dating is a subjective thing you get to pick and choose who you are with. Everybody has standards and things they look for, for me education is pretty important.

What I am saying is dating is kind of like playing statistics. For me finding a person without at least a bachelors degree that will be compatible is much less likely than me finding somebody with a bachelors degree or higher. It is not that I am excluding 50% of the population, but the truth of the matter is that 50% is probably going to be much less compatible with me. So I rather skip the hay to find a needle, and stick to looking through the needle stack.

I think we lost the original poster riight around the page where someone asked had she 'put out'.... don't blame her!

Just trying to bring some humour to an argumentative thread. I didn't mean to scar anyones imagination.

Alright i'm feeling suitably atrophied and belittled now. I'm back in my manbox.