05 Apr 2011, 5:40 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Yes dude, I can tell where you're looking. *eye roll*
It's difficult. So now I simply ignore women as much as is possible on the sexual front and just leer when they're walking away.
It seems there are like two modes - don't look and letching. Aaaaaggghhh.
05 Apr 2011, 5:48 pm
Tequila wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
Yes dude, I can tell where you're looking. *eye roll*
It's difficult. So now I simply ignore women as much as is possible on the sexual front and just leer when they're walking away.
It seems there are like two modes - don't look and letching. Aaaaaggghhh.
I actually don't mind, but pretending you aren't doing it seems rather stupid to me.
And yes, I have learned to stare as women are walking away because not everyone is okay with a female looking at them in *that way*.
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05 Apr 2011, 7:06 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
It's not as great as it seems. It's impossible to find pants that fit, and wearing a belt just wads up the waist and looks silly.
I know, right?
I think that's true for all women of different shapes and sizes....for one pair of pants to fit in the waist AND the butt AND the thighs AND be the right length...not happenin'.
05 Apr 2011, 7:09 pm
Bethie wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
It's not as great as it seems. It's impossible to find pants that fit, and wearing a belt just wads up the waist and looks silly.
I know, right?
I think that's true for all women of different shapes and sizes....for one pair of pants to fit in the waist AND the butt AND the thighs AND be the right length...not happenin'.
It's the price we pay for cheap, mass produced clothing.
05 Apr 2011, 7:13 pm
Bethie wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
It's not as great as it seems. It's impossible to find pants that fit, and wearing a belt just wads up the waist and looks silly.
I know, right?
I think that's true for all women of different shapes and sizes....for one pair of pants to fit in the waist AND the butt AND the thighs AND be the right length...not happenin'.
Maybe that's analogous to my big stomach being in the way when I bend down to tie my shoes to clip my toe nails.
05 Apr 2011, 7:18 pm
RainingRoses wrote:
trojan51 wrote:
Maybe because they fell in love with the rest of her and looked past physical appearance and liked her for who she was on the inside
Oh ... the horror.
I'll tell you, for most (all?) of my eight-year marriage, my wife considered herself overweight. (I always wondered, over-what-weight?) She just couldn't accept herself as she was; and worse, she couldn't accept me for accepting her as she was. She always doubted my feelings for her. Eating disorders, dangerous diets, all sorts of mood-altering pills, and several weightloss surgeries later, she was still a "failure." And so was our marriage. Her body image, which led to horrible self-esteem, wreaked havoc on our relationship. It was far from the sole cause of our breakup, but it certainly contributed. I like to think that I was really there for her in this regard, but it took a toll on me, too. I really felt like being supportive, accepting, encouraging was enough. I just got sooo frustrated that I couldn't seem to come up with the grand gesture that was going to make her weight issues disappear for her -- if not physically, then at least mentally. But, it was never enough. I saw her last week, and she looks great. She's lost weight (not enough, of course), and she has a new boyfriend (who she believes must think she's too fat). So sad...
Anyway, sorry for the downer of a story. But friends, this is what we're doing as a society to perfectly wonderful, lovable women. I think a few people who participated in this thread would probably do well to reconsider some of the things they posted.
yes, agreed.
05 Apr 2011, 7:38 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
And yes, I have learned to stare as women are walking away because not everyone is okay with a female looking at them in *that way*.
Alright then, here's one for you.
Would you be all offendeds if you knew a random fella was fapping over your picture if you had, say, posted it to Flickr? A lot of people would be sickened and horrified by that and don't want their photos taken as a result as it steals their soul.
(N.B.: I'm not fapping over your picture.)
05 Apr 2011, 7:41 pm
Tequila wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
And yes, I have learned to stare as women are walking away because not everyone is okay with a female looking at them in *that way*.
Alright then, here's one for you.
Would you be all offendeds if you knew a random fella was fapping over your picture if you had, say, posted it to Flickr? A lot of people would be sickened and horrified by that and don't want their photos taken as a result as it steals their soul.
(N.B.: I'm not fapping over your picture.)
I actually couldn't care less, and assume someone somewhere is doing it right now.
05 Apr 2011, 7:47 pm
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05 Apr 2011, 8:43 pm
Tequila wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
And yes, I have learned to stare as women are walking away because not everyone is okay with a female looking at them in *that way*.
(N.B.: I'm not fapping over your picture.)
I am.
05 Apr 2011, 8:58 pm
05 Apr 2011, 9:04 pm
Bethie wrote:
Tequila wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
And yes, I have learned to stare as women are walking away because not everyone is okay with a female looking at them in *that way*.
(N.B.: I'm not fapping over your picture.)
I am.
Sexy.
05 Apr 2011, 9:06 pm
Hm. You're not helping.
05 Apr 2011, 9:09 pm
What makes you think I was trying to help?
05 Apr 2011, 9:19 pm
05 Apr 2011, 9:21 pm
RainingRoses wrote:
trojan51 wrote:
Maybe because they fell in love with the rest of her and looked past physical appearance and liked her for who she was on the inside
Oh ... the horror.
I'll tell you, for most (all?) of my eight-year marriage, my wife considered herself overweight. (I always wondered, over-what-weight?) She just couldn't accept herself as she was; and worse, she couldn't accept me for accepting her as she was. She always doubted my feelings for her. Eating disorders, dangerous diets, all sorts of mood-altering pills, and several weightloss surgeries later, she was still a "failure." And so was our marriage. Her body image, which led to horrible self-esteem, wreaked havoc on our relationship. It was far from the sole cause of our breakup, but it certainly contributed. I like to think that I was really there for her in this regard, but it took a toll on me, too. I really felt like being supportive, accepting, encouraging was enough. I just got sooo frustrated that I couldn't seem to come up with the grand gesture that was going to make her weight issues disappear for her -- if not physically, then at least mentally. But, it was never enough. I saw her last week, and she looks great. She's lost weight (not enough, of course), and she has a new boyfriend (who she believes must think she's too fat). So sad...
Anyway, sorry for the downer of a story. But friends, this is what we're doing as a society to perfectly wonderful, lovable women. I think a few people who participated in this thread would probably do well to reconsider some of the things they posted.
Sadly, this is not likely to change anytime soon. The weight loss industry makes so much money on women who are trying to attain that perfect image and things don't die out until they are no longer profitable.
