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I know. I'm just making sure I have as many options open as possible just in case if I were to lose my job and end up on welfare that I may have someone to help me along until I get another job. I know if I keep relying on my mom, she'll start to resent me for it like she already has.

That's not the point. We can't help it. We're not normal adults.

Define "healthy."

It's not a healthy way to live for an NT adult, perhaps, if by "healthy" you mean normal.

But it's far "healthier" for an Aspie to be taken care of if, as a result, their insomnia and anxiety and panic attacks and numerous other secondary health problems disappear.

If someone appeared at my front door to carry me away on a white horse and take care of me, perhaps I'd stop worring about facing yet another eviction, how to pay bills, and becoming homeless again and struggle with all these things all alone. There would actually be someone there to light the candles on my birthday cakes, and I'd actually be able to sleep at night for once.

I have a crap load of problems which I'm only just learning are all as a result of struggling with undiagnosed AS all my life and never receiving any support.

That's not exactly very "healthy," now, is it?

Erisad is 21. I'm 30.

At 21 I was still struggling to put on a big act and be a fake confident secretary and rent the right flat and wear the right clothes and say the right things at work, and, guess what? I always said the wrong ones. I never knew why.

Last edited by all_white on 30 Mar 2011, 10:54 am, edited 1 time in total.

i don't know why you're being so defensive...
that is how i live.
you think i'd cope without my boyfriend? i wouldn't.

I understand it, it's a safe way to start.

Because I've had to be defensive all my life, of people saying exactly the kind of thing you just said. No one ever stands up for me. I have to do it myself.

I'm glad for you that you have a boyfriend. I hope he doesn't turn out to be a monster.

You missed the part where I said that is how I live.
How can I judge you for it, when it's how I live now?

I know monsters, he's a good'un.

Was he the one you wacked across the face with a bottle?

LOL

Yes.

And that's the way they treat you when they know you have AS?

I thought mine only treated me badly because they never knew.

Sheesh.

wacking across the face is a laughing matter? Boy, if I have a girlfiend, I hope she doesn't do that.

Then we should never date. >.<

Maybe we should start a new thread called: Attention, all kind, solvent men: Get Your Grateful Aspie bride Here.

There are websites for Russian women and Asian women to set up arranged marriages...why not Aspies?

it actually isn't funny really.
i love him and i hate that i hurt him like that.

It most certainly is not.

I was laughing at Em declaring that he's not a monster, which contradicts the fact that he apparently did something to merit being wacked on the face.

I have only ever wacked a couple of men across the face. One of them was drunk and had forced his way into my house and was trying to get into bed with me.

all_white: Yeah. They knew that I had "autistic tendencies" since I was two. They figure that since my case is more mild that if they treat me like a normal child, I'll become a normal child. I've trained myself to hide my AS to the point where I just appear like an eccentric NT. Sadly, not being able to drive, freaking out when people come up to me from behind, and so on, totally give me away to those that are familiar with AS. To those that aren't, I'm just "weird."

My grades were always higher than my older NT brother's, so I guess they assume that I'm going to be more successful than him because of it. While that's true so far, we'll see how even we are after I graduate. He at least had a job for the past three years, albeit it was at a grocery store but at least he has a job and can drive and owns a car. As far as practicality is concerned, my brother is ahead.

That and my mom believes the whole, "people with AS are geniuses" or have some skill that's been "blessed by God." Riiiiiight. Only a few of us are considered geniuses, like less than 15% last time I checked. >.<