11 Apr 2012, 5:01 pm
Bloom wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Oddly enough I've never referenced some ones looks in their profile.. I don't think it needs to be done.. considering if I'm reading their profile its partly because I found them interesting to look at in the first place..
Two points!
1. Oddly enough, yes. I do the same thing... I realize others might view me as shallow, but ... whatever. Like I said previously, when I date someone, I do it for the long-haul, and that means I'm going to have to look at them for a LONG time. If they have another eye growing out of their nose, or a foot coming out of their forehead, I'm not likely going to be able to tolerate looking at them for long
Also, if their *significantly* overweight, they're not going to be able to keep up with me. Then, I'm not noted for dating any supermodels, so... maybe I'm not as shallow as some would think. *shrugs* 2. Yes! This is a good point... I suppose if someone has decided to talk to me, I have passed the initial "look test"
HA! 
I hadn't thought about it that way.... I can be so rigid sometimes Thanks for posting
B_loom
Thank you, you are one of the first people on here, or at least the first Female posters on here, to not seemingly get offended by what I said. I've been told over and over again, by various and assorted posters, that my entire problem comes down to the fact that I'm shallow and mean.. regarding some one's looks. I don't consider myself to be either. What I do consider myself to be is honest. As you said, they need not be super models, but I'd like them to at least be healthy and attractive to me. If they aren't attractive now in their 20's.. they most certainly won't be in their 30's, 40's and beyond. Simply put, if it's not some one I can see myself being with for the rest of my life, I don't have very much interest in them, regardless of how great of a personality they have.
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11 Apr 2012, 6:22 pm
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Bloom wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
Someone who references my looks in the first message (or the next few) gets ignored. Same with lots of spelling errors.
But you ARE beautiful
I hope you're posting ugly photos! >.>
*I* would have a hard time not saying something about how pretty you are in the first few chats/messages.
And I like to think I'm pretty on level. I certainly wouldn't be after you for just one thing... of course, we know MEN. <.< Except Vig. he's a gentleman. *nods*
Anyway, my thuppence (again).
Bl_oom
What the hell is that supposed to mean?
No? Anyone? aww shucks you know cause theres no such thing as male hate around here, its only misogyny and lost souls. Ohh wait no. Instead of just judging the men that come up to you why dont you judge yourself on what makes those guys approach you and not the good ones.
I always hear women complain "ohh theres no good guys left". And thats a simple answer really, surprising nobody sees it to be so. Theres nothing wrong with having standards and with being offended by what an individual says. But theres plenty wrong in judging a group for something your own has started
11 Apr 2012, 6:40 pm
MXH wrote:
I always hear women complain "ohh theres no good guys left".
Hey, she mentioned at least one...
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11 Apr 2012, 6:44 pm
Vigilans wrote:
MXH wrote:
I always hear women complain "ohh theres no good guys left".
Hey, she mentioned at least one...
my point exactly. Most girls know plenty of good guys. friends, friends of friends, etc. You cant pretend to simply take what comes to you and then complain. Reminds me of the saying beggars cant be choosers. Why not take one of these good guys and approach him? And i dont mean throw a subtle hint and hope he comes to you. I mean do what youd like him to do to you.
11 Apr 2012, 6:57 pm
11 Apr 2012, 8:52 pm
MXH wrote:
MXH wrote:
Bloom wrote:
ValentineWiggin wrote:
Someone who references my looks in the first message (or the next few) gets ignored. Same with lots of spelling errors.
But you ARE beautiful
I hope you're posting ugly photos! >.>
*I* would have a hard time not saying something about how pretty you are in the first few chats/messages.
And I like to think I'm pretty on level. I certainly wouldn't be after you for just one thing... of course, we know MEN. <.< Except Vig. he's a gentleman. *nods*
Anyway, my thuppence (again).
Bl_oom
What the hell is that supposed to mean?
No? Anyone? aww shucks you know cause theres no such thing as male hate around here, its only misogyny and lost souls. Ohh wait no. Instead of just judging the men that come up to you why dont you judge yourself on what makes those guys approach you and not the good ones.
I always hear women complain "ohh theres no good guys left". And thats a simple answer really, surprising nobody sees it to be so. Theres nothing wrong with having standards and with being offended by what an individual says. But theres plenty wrong in judging a group for something your own has started
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11 Apr 2012, 10:44 pm
Adam_Raki wrote:
Sorry I'm late on this (long and difficult) topic!
In Europe and more particularly in France, dating sites (e.g. Meetic) are a pain in the... as far as I'm concerned!
I mean, it's loosing your time. I was there during years... Two possibilities:
In Europe and more particularly in France, dating sites (e.g. Meetic) are a pain in the... as far as I'm concerned!
I mean, it's loosing your time. I was there during years... Two possibilities:
Hey, Adam, I was on Meetic, too, for a while. I was doing a stint in Nice, and would travel between Nice et Lyon frequently. When I visit, I usually stay in Nice. You're right about Meetic, though, it was ... blah.
rabbittss wrote:
Bloom wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Oddly enough I've never referenced some ones looks in their profile.. I don't think it needs to be done.. considering if I'm reading their profile its partly because I found them interesting to look at in the first place..
Thanks for posting
B_loom
Thank you,
You're right, I don't think there's anything wrong with being honest. In the end, it's all about presentation. Mind, not the other persons presentation, but your presentation of your honesty.
We all have desires, and we shouldn't be shamed because of them. Vigilans wrote:
MXH wrote:
I always hear women complain "ohh theres no good guys left".
Hey, she mentioned at least one...
Wow, MXH, you really took that to a dark place, didn't you. It's unfortunate that you read so much into a short snarky comment made to another woman in jest.
It's even more unfortunate that you chose to take it out on someone that's been running around telling all these blokes how worthy they are of someone.
But I suppose we all have our own issues to work out somehow, eh? I wish you luck!
As for you, Vigi! You count for two, at the very least.
These forums are jam packed full of awesomeness, though, so you have your competition Aba, for instance. He taunts people with MEAT CHIPS. I dare you to beat THAT.
HA!
Also, back on topic, I still haven't signed up for this bloody site. I had a date tonight that went ... so-so. Nice guy, really, just ... not very interesting to talk to
I have a conference tomorrow he's going to come to, and "offer support" - whatever that means. I don't mind standing in front of people and speaking so long as I get to talk about my fav subject. Saturday I have a date as well... We'll see where all this goes.
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11 Apr 2012, 10:59 pm
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12 Apr 2012, 8:17 am
Bloom wrote:
Wow, MXH, you really took that to a dark place, didn't you. It's unfortunate that you read so much into a short snarky comment made to another woman in jest.
It's even more unfortunate that you chose to take it out on someone that's been running around telling all these blokes how worthy they are of someone. But I suppose we all have our own issues to work out somehow, eh? I wish you luck!
It's even more unfortunate that you chose to take it out on someone that's been running around telling all these blokes how worthy they are of someone.
But I suppose we all have our own issues to work out somehow, eh? I wish you luck! No, youve not been around here to understand what im talking about so dont try and just throw it back at me. If I went around joking with other men about girls not responding for X or Y shallow reason (looks, money, status, not being a badboy, etc) Id have the same group of women come and attack me for being a misogynist and to stop spreading my hate around. What makes it so that you can joke around freely? As equals you and I have equal rights to be called out on what the oposite finds to be insulting, no?
Ohh now you're trying to make me feel bad? thats a new one, usually they just throw an article and run. Theres no problem with helping, but dont think that means you can say whatever because you helped someone wether joking or not. Take this as the first of many from many if these patterns keep followed.
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12 Apr 2012, 8:22 am
Vigilans wrote:
I am so extraordinary that joining a league would seem rather ordinary
You, sir, are anything but Ordinary.
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Bloom, i made a fake okcupid profile (with a photo of a male model) and he gets a reply every time just by sending a hi, he also gets much more initial messages than my real account. So please spare me the bs, women aren't less shallow.
Good morning, Booooo! Say, can you do me a HUGE favor and copy and paste for me where I put "men are more shallow than women", please? I'd really appreciate it!
You see, I seem to remember only writing - on several occasions - how shallow *I* feel for considering a guys looks when deciding whether or not to respond/date him. Be a sport, would ya? MXH wrote:
Take this as the first of many from many if these patterns keep followed.
Okay! I have been warned! I consider your threat viable!
I will cease my horrible and terrible ways immediately; obviously this pattern of behavior MUST END! It has gone on long enough!
Bloom wrote:
Adam_Raki wrote:
Hey, Adam, I was on Meetic, too, for a while. I was doing a stint in Nice, and would travel between Nice et Lyon frequently. When I visit, I usually stay in Nice. You're right about Meetic, though, it was ... blah.
Hello Bloom, that is funny because I lived in Nice during 8 years and I came back this year. I will leave on August!
So sad we didn't meet "accidentally" when we were both there!
Maybe a pm soon, if you're agree of course!
Best
Certainement! PM is good
I would love to *live* in Nice... it's on my list of places to retire.
Bl_oom
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12 Apr 2012, 8:24 am
Bloom wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Bloom, i made a fake okcupid profile (with a photo of a male model) and he gets a reply every time just by sending a hi, he also gets much more initial messages than my real account. So please spare me the bs, women aren't less shallow.
Good morning, Booooo! Say, can you do me a HUGE favor and copy and paste for me where I put "men are more shallow than women", please? I'd really appreciate it!
You see, I seem to remember only writing - on several occasions - how shallow *I* feel for considering a guys looks when deciding whether or not to respond/date him. Be a sport, would ya? ill do it for him, wether in "jest" or not it is what you said.
"I certainly wouldn't be after you for just one thing... of course, we know MEN. <.<"
edit: ohh aint you a smartass. well thats to be expected.
12 Apr 2012, 12:53 pm
I just got a profile just to try it out. Some of the questions are a little tough since there's not many that offer a "gray area" choice. (some do though) It's pretty easy to navigate, but I'm personally not expecting to get anything out of it. I sure as heck ain't going to be the one to message a bunch of women at random. I really never have been the type to make the first move. I'd say that and my inexperience in relationships and sex are probably going to be issues that would work against me, and all that's BEFORE taking my AS into account.
