Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough

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Yep. Plus, large breasts are a hindrance during sex. You have no idea how frustrating it is for a guy to be rocking her bones while at the same time dodging double uppercuts. The damn things even do left and right hooks too! Small breasts are awesome.. they stay in place and jiggle merrily

I believe that some of your problems might be caused by the prudity in the USA: So as far as I know from this forum, the only breasts you normally get to see are in magazines, where the photos are made from professional photographs, photoshopped, ... I´d call them cyberbreasts. ^^ So if these are the only breasts beside your own one, you ever get to see, these are also the only one you can compare your own one. And sure loose real, natural breasts against modified, non existing cyberbreasts.

If you would live in my country, i think the easiest way to help you, was going to the normal spa. So you are a young woman, which normally means everything tight and so on. So normally just being a young woman allows you to have some of the prettiest breasts around. ^^ Its really making me sad, that you are so sad about that and cant see yourself how nice your completely natural breasts are compared to normal average other natural breasts. I think one hour in the spa with everyone from 3 years up to 90 being naked, could show you, that there is no "problem" you have. I mean I am 33, eating healthy, doing sport from time to time...so sure they look a little different from the time i was 20, but still compared with the average population, I am in the top 10 of 100.

So sure, compared with cyberbreasts I loose... but the thing is, you seem to be afraid because of your partner might like other womens breasts more. But you have an absolute advantage all these woman cant match: You are for real. You are there, right in front of him. You are no picture, done by an photograph after an hour of playing with the shadows and the lights, so everythings looks perfect. And you are not photoshopped. So I dont know your partner, but I really think, that a look at your real boobs, will exite him far more, then a look on some bodypainted pictures can.

If you dont believe me, you could test it. Go through the streets, show men a picture of this bodypainting women, and then show them what you´ve got. Then compare their reaction. ^^

So the last one was a joke, and I think in the USA you could even get to jail for doing so, but what I wanted to say is that most men know the difference between reality. So they know, that these pictures really look pretty nice but most men also know that they are not reality and dont compare reality with this photographs. When you compare fruits and their tastes, you also choose fruits that are in reach for you, that are real. So sure in an incredible large universe will be better fruits. But who cares, they are not real for us, as long as we dont have a chance to ever reach them. And the same it is with pictures. They are nice to look at, but normally people know that they are showing something non existing and dont compare reality with these. Reality I have in austrian spa, and as said, even with 33 I am clearly on the winner side.

So they might have any advantage you want, but you have the ultra advantage of reality. And reality normally is quiet nice to young women. ^^ Even to me its still nice.

Shneekugel, thank you for that insightful response. I don't think I can go to a spa, as I was sexually molested on a school but at twelve and have a fear of strangers seeing me naked. I understand your point though. And the bit about my breasts being real to my boyfriend was very kind.

Why does your mom not want you to see a therapist exactley?

You have a disability, childhood abuse trauma and body dysmorphic issues. As someone who has suffered under all three of those issues at one point or another, I can tell you I wish I had gotten proffesional help sooner. It's fairly normal for people to want to talk to someone and most of them don't have it as bad as we do.

You really should try and talk to your mom about this or find a way to get help despite her. Frankly, if she's trying to keep you from getting the help you need, then she's part of the problem.

Does your boyfriend have a car? Maybe he can give you rides.

I don't want to call it abuse, as abuse suggests a pattern, but I was molested ONCE by another student on the bus. But my mother is one of those people who thinks dysmorphics "do it for attention." Last time I made a comment about it - a girl on the new season of Dallas has boobs not much bigger than mine - she laughed and said "If you don't shut up I'm gonna MAKE you get implants." She isn't mean, just kind of clueless about it. I will look into getting counseling at the university - I'm free 3-3:30 on Tuesdays.

Tbh I'd definitely prefer extremely small perky boobs over large saggy and shapeless milkbags.

This thread needs pictures....desperately.

Agreed.

I posted some a few pages back, on page 9. It's a link to one.

Sounds like a good start, but also try to think about the difference between saying "most guys are jerks and my boobs wouldn't be good enough for them" and "most guys are jerks and won't appreciate how wonderful I am." They both imply negative perceptions of men, but one also implies a negative perception of yourself.

And by the way, I saw your picture on pg 9... WOW you're beautiful.

10000$, it would be foolish to miss out as such guaranteed bet.

First of all, I went back and looked at the pic, you are gorgeous, and I would love to look like you. I also love your dress.

Secondly, if the university counseling doesn't work out, you could always tell you mom you need therapy for a different reason that she would accept. Depression, anxiety, relationship issues, whatever will seem legit to her, a therapist can't legally tell her what you really discuss. If your mom is against therapy categorically...idk.

Just went back, saw the pic and have to say you definitely have nothing to worry about Emo your bf probably said what he said as a guy without thinking. He's not unsatisfied with what you have, though I can understand you want a bit more reassurance. I think that's got to come from within in this case.

Emo!! !! O_O Didn't notice it in the username before.

NOW EVERYTHING MAKES SENSE!! !

Thumbs up for the counseling.
You will be happier with your body as you age,really.I always hated that I was so short.But I'm fine with it now.
And my daughter had small breasts at your age,hers are bigger now at 27.
You are still developing.
My daughters friend got breast cancer at age 21,surgery,chemo,lost her hair
She would give anything to have small healthy breasts.
If you look up pics of women that have had double mastectomies you will be thankful for what you have.
And my sister in law had breast reduction surgery,trust me she needed it,and she was so happy with the results.You can have to much.
good luck with your therapy.