Serious issues with L&D Forum

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The thing is with red pill, is it isn't even a metaphor it is a symbol in the film.

It is a lot simpler to say they are realists but most of the time they aren't. It is pseudo-profound.

I take of these, what that makes me?

I have never seen them before, 2500% vitmain D, impressive! will have to check the supermarket next time.

From the WebMD website:

while we're on the topic of the forum, can we add the page number thing to the bottom of the page again?

scrolling down to browse a subforum and having to scroll back up to get to the previous or next page gets annoying quickly.

I think this subforum should mostly be about getting and giving advice pertaining to romantic relationships. Sometimes someone will reply and try to make the topic about themselves, but for the most part, those kinds of threads are fine. I'd also say some of the threads asking if something was acceptable or normal are fine. Same with threads asking for people to talk about their experiences with things or situations.

It's the other kinds of threads where things can unravel. Most of those threads, even if they pertain to love and dating, belong in other subforums. The rants don't belong here at all. If someone is venting about something that happened or their current state of affairs, then it should probably go in the Haven. They're probably just looking to blow off steam or are looking for some positive emotional support. If they're looking to have a discussion about behaviors or characteristics, then I think it should probably go in PPR. Threads that are basically asking "Why do women/men do this?" or "Why are men/women like this?". I'd also add threads that are either stating or implying things like "Online dating is a scam/no good." or "Men/women only want ____."

Tl;dr: Love and Dating should mostly be about advice, support and encouragement, not about debating or venting.

If you did thst there be very very few threads in l&d.

I will toss this into the brainstorm another possibility:

Two L and D subforums, one for men and one for women. That would not mean that the rules don't apply to either. Both would need a matching set of guiding principles - a total ban on posts that make sexist pejorative statements to the effect that "all men are.." or all women are.." and no posting of categorical sexist supremacist statements like "men are naturally better at thinking" (this kind of blanket statements has hidden intimidation power, implying men's thoughts are more valid than womens) - these kinds of statements are loaded with baggage and of course they will be divisive. The same standards, rules and conventions would need to apply equally to both sub forums. Men could discuss topics raised in the womens forum on the men's forum and vice versa, within the parameters of civil communication. PMs offer a venue for discourse beyond that for debate between members on issues they wish to explore outside the two subforums.

A lot of the past conflict has issued from the regrettable fact that some men tend to automatically devalue women's statements and even their right to express them, and vice versa.

I question the assertion earlier in the thread that WP could never be made safer for members. It can potentially be made unsafer or safer depending on whether we develop strategies to implement principles that regulate forum content and perhaps also structure. It's not rocket science. Where there is a will there is a way (if there's good will) and where there isn't a will then there isn't a way because then a spirit of illwill invades to corrupt the discourse.

But venting or ranting about difficulties related to love, dating or a relationship is a love topic, those don't necessarily include "women are...".

What is this nonsense?