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It is great that we are different. We all have different characters. It is sad that society tries to make everyone the same. We are not all the same. All our quirky ways and differences are really needed more then we can know!
And where a marriage is concerned, sometimes the differences blend together in harmony in a way that can't be broken... Like a physcological weave set in the foundation of love.
Other times similar thinkers can work with a combined depth that nothing can shake their ability to draw from the depth of love they have...
We are all different, and this is good... Not only good... It's great!

And it is not only where two come together as one... It is in society too. When a society is led into communistic slavery the extremes of thought are subdued, and the whole system is caught in a stale state where no one prospers...
But in a free society everyone is free to bounce ideas off each other and appreciate our extremeness and differences and we all feel part of life and thrive. Everyone thrives!

When we feel cast aside and alone... We realize society has become slave like. Lets change society? Lets steer from behind! The front of the ship does not see the rudder. The rudder is only a small part. If the rudder breaks the whole ship drifts... Lets be that rudder! The countries leaders maybe the captain, but without us, the ship drifts and hits rocks and breaks. Lets be that rudder. Lets raise to the challenge! We are the "Hands on" people who get right into the seas! We are not the seas (As in seas of NT's), but we are the ones who can see from the outsides of society, and so can be the ideal rudder of change that we need...

No person owns any other person.

I always think that you are selfish and rude, then when I am with you, you are so giving and caring I am left breathless, only you never ever soothe me with words.
You are an enigma to me, your brittle exterior conceals the softest of hearts.
I hurt you because I am unaware of the depth of your feelings. I feel undeserving of such a gift as you. You speak to me in emojis, for you don't trust the way I will interpret your words. Your thoughts are verbalised, unfiltered, razor sharp and I am sensitive and vulnerable, you make me defensive. I am careful not to show you how much I want you.

Only you could say matter of factly: "I am always right, and if I am wrong then someone has mis-led me" and cause me to smile, it is after all an appaulingly arrogant statement. You are impossible, but you have conquered my old and bruised heart.

Ah. Makes sense.

I am an extreme introvert and my wife is an extreme extrovert.

When couples come together be aware of their introversion/extroversion personality. About half the world are introverts and the other half extroverts. Introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries. Extroverts charge their batteries by communicating with others. The more people the merrier. They talk and bounce from one person to another, each time gaining more energy and vitality. But introverts are not always socially adept. The extroverts in the group wanted inclusion, they wanted everyone to succeed. So their idea of inclusion was to throw a party and bring everyone to it. [Dumb idea]. A party is the exact place an introvert does not want to be at. We are not broken and we do not need to be fixed. We are just a different normal.

So respect each others personality. If your partner is an introvert, allow them time to decompress - alone time. If your partner is an extrovert allow them time to socialize. If you take an extrovert and deprive them of the opportunity to socialize, you will damage them.

But let us flip this around. Extroverts have a weakness. They are afraid of being completely alone. It causes them great distress. You can help an extrovert by always being there for them. As an Aspie, my word is my bond. I am honest. If I take a marriage vow, I will be with my wife till the end of time. Since an extrovert’s greatest fear is being alone, I will always be there for her as long as I live.

I understood since my wife is an extrovert, she would need to socialize. It is important for her to be the best she can be. If I lock my wife away in a house and restrict her from developing new friendships, I will break her. So it is important for me to encourage and expand her social network. When we moved into a new housing development, none of our new neighbors came by for a visit. I could see that they were all waiting for someone else to break the ice. So when I got home from work each day I would take my wife in tow and walk over to a neighbor and knock on their door and introduce ourselves and invite them over for a cup of coffee. About half of our neighbors were glad to meet us and they immediately invited us in for a chat. They became instant friends. This may sound like a strange thing for an introvert to do. But I am fearless but my wife is not and besides I didn’t really need to socialize, I just needed to introduce ourselves and then stand back and let my wife do all the talking.

For those who use online dating and require endless of months months before meeting up with the guy who’s they’re chatting with, and sometimes even wait months before even showing up their face photo to the guy:

- Your reasons for this are always unreasonable, if it’s for safety concerns: the first dates always happen in a public place unless you are stupid, so it’s not an excuse, and a dangerous guy will remain dangerous even if you chat with him for 10 years before meeting him. The online communication’s length will not make him less likely dangerous nor more dangerous, it is the meet up setting what matters. And oh... you will never really know the person via online communication only.

- If you’re feeling too insecure to meet him (and usually this is the real reason for the infinite postponing) because you think you’re ugly or fat or weird, then you have bigger problems to address before starting to date anyone. Stop wasting the guy’s time and either meet him or let him go, you are not entitled to waste his time just because “You are not feeling ready yet”; time is even more precious than money. The “I don’t feel right ready yet” with no timeframe is stupid.

- (for those who message guys with no face photo) I know you would not have messaged me if I was not putting any photo, so don’t be hypocrite and show your face already.

- If you are just seeking for an online-only buddy or entertainer on a dating site then say so; again you are not entitled to the guys’ time.

Ladies, please stop trying to give me heart failure.











Never mind, at least I will die with a smile on my face.