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08 Nov 2019, 9:12 pm

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Most women do NOT have "model looks."

Otherwise, you would have millions of women working as models.

Most people are of average looks.

I could send you their pictures
Your just trying to be nice but that’s not the reality.
Most women here are super gorgeous and thin. We get attractive women from all over the world that come here for college too.

No you wouldn’t as there’s only so many model and acting jobs.

She’s not average looking and she’s what 90% of the women here look like
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Come on man! That picture is so ridden with make up! It probably took her like 2 to 3 hours to get her face looking like that(if she even did it herself)! If mirrors got paid it'd be rich off that face. I'm pretty sure once she took off the make up, didn't have her hair completely done and take off the earrings she wouldn't look that well. Kraftie is right, most women are average just like most men.


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08 Nov 2019, 11:39 pm

She looks like she’s high on drugs, too.



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09 Nov 2019, 1:30 am

AquaineBay wrote:
sly279 wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
Most women do NOT have "model looks."

Otherwise, you would have millions of women working as models.

Most people are of average looks.

I could send you their pictures
Your just trying to be nice but that’s not the reality.
Most women here are super gorgeous and thin. We get attractive women from all over the world that come here for college too.

No you wouldn’t as there’s only so many model and acting jobs.

She’s not average looking and she’s what 90% of the women here look like
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Come on man! That picture is so ridden with make up! It probably took her like 2 to 3 hours to get her face looking like that(if she even did it herself)! If mirrors got paid it'd be rich off that face. I'm pretty sure once she took off the make up, didn't have her hair completely done and take off the earrings she wouldn't look that well. Kraftie is right, most women are average just like most men.


Pretty sure most women wear makeup. So I don’t see how that changes anything

Most spend 30 mins to hour getting ready every day.


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09 Nov 2019, 3:44 am

She wears TOO MUCH makeup.



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09 Nov 2019, 3:52 am

Makeup-shaming much?



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09 Nov 2019, 4:31 am

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She wears TOO MUCH makeup.

I don’t think so. I can pm you the many other women similar to her.

I think you’re Just lying time try to make me feel better, jr doesn’t change thst I’m not good enough for good looking thin women like her and majority of women in my area,


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09 Nov 2019, 7:46 am

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Sorry you're having no success with suitable women, Sly. You need someone with the personality and outlook of SharonB - someone really caring who has er priorities right - but such women are unfortunately few and far between and she's already taken! Ideally you need someone who's on the spectrum as they are more interested in their special interests than how much they, or a potential partner, have in the bank.

Perhaps your search will be rewarded when you're least expecting it.

Such women are always taken, lots of poor loser men like me not enough women who’d date such men. Worse here do to there being 2,000 more men then women, it inflates women’s egos even more. Most women won’t date long distance either so I’m limited to half my city.

Half or more of the women in wp have expressed thwt they won’t date a guy unless he makes as much or more then they do. I don’t think aspies are special we are more alike nts then we’d admit. But we aren’t different species so makes sense.


Most people are probably looking for a partner, not someone they have to support. It's not necessarily about wanting money, just equality.

There are probably many people out there who would date you, but they can tell you consider yourself a loser, so they look elsewhere. I think your profile experiment was more about confirming your view of yourself as a loser than learning anything about people. You enjoy self-loathing and want to be single. I went through a period of this, but it's gross. You'll be much happier--and find someone--once you move on.

Also, why do so many here try to systematize men and women and then wonder why they're single? People are not systems.


True. Perhaps the reason Sly got more matches with his new profile was because while pretending to have more money he also projected more self-confidence. Women find that sexy.

What women do not find sexy is men who talk about what losers they are and how sad they are. You may never be rich Sly but you can be rich in self-confidence. Try it Sly.


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09 Nov 2019, 8:19 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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Sorry you're having no success with suitable women, Sly. You need someone with the personality and outlook of SharonB - someone really caring who has er priorities right - but such women are unfortunately few and far between and she's already taken! Ideally you need someone who's on the spectrum as they are more interested in their special interests than how much they, or a potential partner, have in the bank.

Perhaps your search will be rewarded when you're least expecting it.

Such women are always taken, lots of poor loser men like me not enough women who’d date such men. Worse here do to there being 2,000 more men then women, it inflates women’s egos even more. Most women won’t date long distance either so I’m limited to half my city.

Half or more of the women in wp have expressed thwt they won’t date a guy unless he makes as much or more then they do. I don’t think aspies are special we are more alike nts then we’d admit. But we aren’t different species so makes sense.


Most people are probably looking for a partner, not someone they have to support. It's not necessarily about wanting money, just equality.

There are probably many people out there who would date you, but they can tell you consider yourself a loser, so they look elsewhere. I think your profile experiment was more about confirming your view of yourself as a loser than learning anything about people. You enjoy self-loathing and want to be single. I went through a period of this, but it's gross. You'll be much happier--and find someone--once you move on.

Also, why do so many here try to systematize men and women and then wonder why they're single? People are not systems.


True. Perhaps the reason Sly got more matches with his new profile was because while pretending to have more money he also projected more self-confidence. Women find that sexy.

What women do not find sexy is men who talk about what losers they are and how sad they are. You may never be rich Sly but you can be rich in self-confidence. Try it Sly.

Self-confidence isn't conjured up out of thin air though. It comes as a byproduct with the perceived or demonstrated ability to achieve whatever one is confident about. Someone who has had long-term dating failures and no success probably isn't going to have much confidence with dating unless they're given a reason to believe that their current chances of attracting a partner are better than they've been in the past.

The best predictor of future events are relevant past events, so if you've tried for many years to get a girlfriend and never succeeded, there's not much to be confident about.



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09 Nov 2019, 8:42 am

That woman is an average-looking woman who is caked in makeup.

Her eyes aren’t that great. She looks stoned.



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09 Nov 2019, 9:13 am

I have seen that I interview/audition poorly all my life. Although I have not recently written down that I am worthless, it comes across in my interview/audition responses. A bad habit? I am reading Confidence Gap that my ASD coach recommended and it says we all have those thoughts, but some of us get "hooked" by them more that others and the suggestion is to start letting them pass, unhooking ourselves: "it's pointless and hopeless" becomes "I think it's pointless and hopeless" becomes "I notice that I think it's pointless and hopeless" until it dissipates. The book has different techniques. When I was in the throes of my medical hardship, I did something similar with EFT (tried that?).

And yes, the idea is that those thoughts won't go way and we can't "Truth" ourselves out of them ("oh! but I am worthy.... Phooey!! !! !!"), we let the negative thoughts pass and take action in any case. I'll let you know when I do that. I have a job description open on my computer that I've not applied for and am hoping it is soon removed so I can say, "ooops, missed that one". I could have had a shot at that … maybe (having not taken the shot b/c at the time I thought "no way" --- I need to let others make that choice, not me). I notice I am thinking "no way". Fine, do it anyway. Harrumph. One day. In part, I think I am waiting for "The One". Or so I tell myself. The shared Interest.



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09 Nov 2019, 10:09 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
That woman is an average-looking woman who is caked in makeup.

Her eyes aren’t that great. She looks stoned.

I agree with most of that. She’s pretty, but not wildly beautiful. Her make up is quite heavy. Look how smooth her skin is - no pores. Her eyebrows are drawn on as is the style. I think rather than stoned, she is trying to look “dreamy”. And if 90% of the women in Sly’s area look like her, that makes her average doesn’t it?



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09 Nov 2019, 11:04 am

The real test is to see this person without makeup.



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09 Nov 2019, 11:08 am

^ It's time then for sly to walk around in California with a water-filled bucket.



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09 Nov 2019, 2:56 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
HighLlama wrote:
sly279 wrote:
envirozentinel wrote:
Sorry you're having no success with suitable women, Sly. You need someone with the personality and outlook of SharonB - someone really caring who has er priorities right - but such women are unfortunately few and far between and she's already taken! Ideally you need someone who's on the spectrum as they are more interested in their special interests than how much they, or a potential partner, have in the bank.

Perhaps your search will be rewarded when you're least expecting it.

Such women are always taken, lots of poor loser men like me not enough women who’d date such men. Worse here do to there being 2,000 more men then women, it inflates women’s egos even more. Most women won’t date long distance either so I’m limited to half my city.

Half or more of the women in wp have expressed thwt they won’t date a guy unless he makes as much or more then they do. I don’t think aspies are special we are more alike nts then we’d admit. But we aren’t different species so makes sense.


Most people are probably looking for a partner, not someone they have to support. It's not necessarily about wanting money, just equality.

There are probably many people out there who would date you, but they can tell you consider yourself a loser, so they look elsewhere. I think your profile experiment was more about confirming your view of yourself as a loser than learning anything about people. You enjoy self-loathing and want to be single. I went through a period of this, but it's gross. You'll be much happier--and find someone--once you move on.

Also, why do so many here try to systematize men and women and then wonder why they're single? People are not systems.


True. Perhaps the reason Sly got more matches with his new profile was because while pretending to have more money he also projected more self-confidence. Women find that sexy.

What women do not find sexy is men who talk about what losers they are and how sad they are. You may never be rich Sly but you can be rich in self-confidence. Try it Sly.


Nope I only changed my income. That’s it. Profiles was same otherwise and never talked to any of them. Matching comeinfs before talking so confident isn’t part of it at all. Just looks and descriptions


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09 Nov 2019, 2:59 pm

AnneOleson wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
That woman is an average-looking woman who is caked in makeup.

Her eyes aren’t that great. She looks stoned.

I agree with most of that. She’s pretty, but not wildly beautiful. Her make up is quite heavy. Look how smooth her skin is - no pores. Her eyebrows are drawn on as is the style. I think rather than stoned, she is trying to look “dreamy”. And if 90% of the women in Sly’s area look like her, that makes her average doesn’t it?

Even if true does r change fact that such women won’t date guys like me.
Average looks is t same as math average.
Average =plain. Not attractive or unattractive.
That woman is very much attractive and I’m unattractive. So she and others like her wouldn’t date me.


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09 Nov 2019, 3:07 pm

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Nope I only changed my income. That’s it. Profiles was same otherwise and never talked to any of them. Matching comeinfs before talking so confident isn’t part of it at all. Just looks and descriptions

Tha tells most about your dating app's algorithms.


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