Why its too late for me

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Everyone else got to have fun at least at some point in their live, but I never did.

Why should I have to face reality and move on when nobody else had to?

Being realistic is the wrong thing to say?
OK.

as they said in my folks' generation, "there's a time for proust, and a time to skip it."

I had intercourse less than 5 times in my life.
It was a great disappointment.
"Is that it?"
It wasn't something I am into and have a major philosophical problem with doing the nasty.
I have been with women but haven't rubbed wee wees for over 20 years.
And vow never to do it again.

Personally, as someone else said, people make too much about it.
Intercourse is an anti-climatic (pun intended) and a f*****g joke (pun intended), *imo*.
Society simply makes too much about it.

As Shakespeare said, "Much to do about nothing".
https://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/muc ... thing.html

another cliché that has some resonance here, "your mileage may vary." i did have about 2 experiences in the pleasure portal that were sublime. the moon and stars aligned for just those two times. no joke. climax woke the neighbors and other housemates, out of this world. the rest were subpar at best, as you described. i believe you were dis-availed of a good experience. you deserved far better and i sincerely hope that, while you still have your T, you seek out a better experience. life is too short to do without at least one good experience in this regard.

And I said in my response to KK, having intercourse with my partner is important to me.

I had intercourse less than 5 times in my life.
It was a great disappointment.
"Is that it?"
It wasn't something I am into and have a major philosophical problem with doing the nasty.
I have been with women but haven't rubbed wee wees for over 20 years.
And vow never to do it again.

Personally, as someone else said, people make too much about it.
Intercourse is an anti-climatic (pun intended) and a f*****g joke (pun intended), *imo*.
Society simply makes too much about it.

As Shakespeare said, "Much to do about nothing".
https://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/muc ... thing.html

Excellent. Hopefully it’s important enough to motivate you to work for and earn it via increased exercise and healthier diet.

I’m almost 40 years old and I’m still practically a virgin.

My last relationship ended 11 years ago, and in all the years since then no woman has wanted to date me. Clearly, if it was possible for any woman to find me attractive someone would’ve in the past 11 years. And even when I was in a relationship, that was only me because my ex was specifically looking for someone emotionally vulnerable whom she could easily manipulate and abuse. This makes it clear to me that I simply have nothing to offer any woman who isn’t looking for someone she can easily exploit.

I’ve had online conversations with several women who explained what characteristics completely turn them off to a man. Those mostly consist of things like social awkwardness, lack (or perceived lack) of confidence, odd body language and struggling with eye contact, etc. So, basically general characteristics of people on the spectrum. Additionally, many have told me that they would never date a man who didn’t have sufficient “bedroom experience”. This means that the longer I remained single the less women wanted to date me, and I just continue to become less and less desirable as a partner as time passes and the gap in experience grows.

Plus, I’m already past the point where I’m not really interested in women my own age. Not for any shallow reason, but because of the widening gap in life experience. By my age, any woman would have been through at least one marriage and divorce and have multiple kids, some of whom would be old enough to be in high school by this point. And I don’t mind dating someone with little kids, but to suddenly be dealing with teenagers when I’ve never had kids is a bit too weird to me. I’ve never had kids and still spend my time either going to school or collecting comics and action figures. I wouldn’t be able to relate to or connect with someone who’s been handling the responsibility of being a parent for over a decade. I know that some younger ladies like older men. But what they’re thinking of is someone who has an established career, and above-average income, and social status; not an inept loser like myself. And besides, I would just feel really scummy dating a woman half my age.

And there’s the fact that there’s simply nobody left. In the 11 years since my last relationship ended, 99.9% of the women I’ve met anywhere I go are married or in relationships. And on the extremely rare occasions when I did meet a woman in the appropriate age range who was single, at least one of was unattracted to the other. I did try online dating. But in the ten years I was active on just about every dating site you can think of, only 5 women agreed to meet me. Of those, 4 lost all interest immediately after going out with me once. One went out with me on a second date, but there was just no chemistry and it led to nothing.

And finally, as my body gets older it just can’t do everything it used to. I don’t want to get graphic, but let’s just say that certain things don’t work like they used to anymore.

Its already too late no matter what I do.

Then why bother with this thread stating problems and constraints if you have no interest in resolving & overcoming them?

Further, it’s only too late if you convince yourself such & believe what you think while severely depressed.

No woman wants to date or marry a man 15 years older than her. That fact is beyond my control.

No woman wants to date or marry a man 15 years older than her. That fact is beyond my control.

You know, its possible that some of them might be okay financially, just wanting to live in the West. A lot of educated folks want to leave and go elsewhere.

That is not a fact.

Next bs to refute, please.