Do you miss someone right now?

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I miss my cat.
It left our garden in the evening 3 days ago and it didn't show up since then, it doesn't come when I call its name.
A neighbor says he seen the cat yesterday morning. It passed his garden and rested on our balcony for a while then disappeared again. And we found a half-eaten bird later that day in our garden so there is hope the cat is fine and not hungry. But why won't it show up in the house? It pisses me off...
That's true the weather is nice and the cat was showing up only for meals recently (it was meowing for us to open the door and let him in, the cat meals are in the kitchen) but still... I'm worried.

I get the feeling that the cat, once he/she is hungry again, will come scratching at your door again.

I still miss my former girlfriend rather strongly from time to time... times like now.

It's been over two years since she left. It doesn't seem like I'll be forgetting her :/

Yes very much so.
There is one girl who I liked a lot, then I finally was going to tell her how I felt but she one day told me she wasn't allowed to talk to me any more (we knew each other for awhile) because her aunt thought I would ask her out. I don't know if it was all in my head but I thought I loved her

Yes. I miss him so much. This is so stupid.

I miss a boy from my class last semester...
I fell for him even after swearing to myself I wouldn't. I knew he was leaving, but I couldn't help it.
I tried to make myself tell him, but I couldn't, out of pure anxiety...

I miss a boy from my class last semester...
I fell for him even after swearing to myself I wouldn't. I knew he was leaving, but I couldn't help it.
I tried to make myself tell him, but I couldn't, out of pure anxiety...

I miss "M".

Yes: I miss a great deal of people from my past, from a time when things seemed simpler, more fun somehow.

Yes: I miss two particular people. Both of whom are distant from me emotionally at present, and with whom I have shared some pretty good times. Chatting, laughing, singing - just enjoying the company of each other. The distance from each of them is for very different reasons, but hurts about the same. I hope to regain their friendships, in time, but don't know if I will. It is the not knowing that is hard.

Yes: I miss my sister. She died recently. I feel like I should miss her more than I do tho. Not missing her as much as the people mentioned above, makes me feel like I am a bad person somehow.

Loss and grief is hard. I cannot even begin to understand it.

Thanks VegetableMan. The things you said make sense and it helps to have them spelled out. Despite knowing that guilt is a useless kind of emotion, it is hard sometimes not to let it get hold. Kind words such as yours give me 'permission' to let it go.

The closeness factor you mentioned also plays a part. My sister and I were not really that close, either geographically or in terms of our personality/approach to life. I did love her, and know she loved me, but we had a way of winding each other up that was no-one's fault really - just the result of us being so different. In some ways, it is easier now she has gone, as there is now one less person to disappoint! (It sounds harsh, I know, but I may as well be honest here).

In other news, things have improved with one of the two people mentioned in the second paragraph of my initial comment on this thread. The fear of loss has become such a huge thing for me at present, that a friendship resuming that I thought was coming to an end has proved to be really affirming. A balm to my soul, which is pretty raw around the edges due to something so apparently permanent - in the form relationship with my sis - being ripped away. Being thankful for such small mercies really does help.

Thanks again for your kindness, VegetableMan. It is much appreciated.

You are very welcome, Dithra. And I'm glad to hear things are looking up for your other relationships.

Cheers VegMan.

Do you mind if I call you VegMan? It is less of a faff to write!

(How many British phrases that have had you going 'what?' have I included in our discussions so far, eh? )

No, VegMan will do just fine.

Oh pants! Really must try harder to confuse you then, VegMan.