05 Apr 2011, 9:29 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
What makes you think I was trying to help? 
Oh. You weren't. OK.
I don't know why I posted that ^ above ^. Well, I do, but…
05 Apr 2011, 9:34 pm
Erisad wrote:
RainingRoses wrote:
trojan51 wrote:
Maybe because they fell in love with the rest of her and looked past physical appearance and liked her for who she was on the inside
Oh ... the horror.
I'll tell you, for most (all?) of my eight-year marriage, my wife considered herself overweight. (I always wondered, over-what-weight?) She just couldn't accept herself as she was; and worse, she couldn't accept me for accepting her as she was. She always doubted my feelings for her. Eating disorders, dangerous diets, all sorts of mood-altering pills, and several weightloss surgeries later, she was still a "failure." And so was our marriage. Her body image, which led to horrible self-esteem, wreaked havoc on our relationship. It was far from the sole cause of our breakup, but it certainly contributed. I like to think that I was really there for her in this regard, but it took a toll on me, too. I really felt like being supportive, accepting, encouraging was enough. I just got sooo frustrated that I couldn't seem to come up with the grand gesture that was going to make her weight issues disappear for her -- if not physically, then at least mentally. But, it was never enough. I saw her last week, and she looks great. She's lost weight (not enough, of course), and she has a new boyfriend (who she believes must think she's too fat). So sad...
Anyway, sorry for the downer of a story. But friends, this is what we're doing as a society to perfectly wonderful, lovable women. I think a few people who participated in this thread would probably do well to reconsider some of the things they posted.
Sadly, this is not likely to change anytime soon. The weight loss industry makes so much money on women who are trying to attain that perfect image and things don't die out until they are no longer profitable.
Right, and the better women start to feel about themselves, the more aggressive the advertising becomes.
05 Apr 2011, 9:35 pm
Tequila wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
What makes you think I was trying to help?
Oh. You weren't. OK.
I don't know why I posted that ^ above ^. Well, I do, but…
LOL
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06 Apr 2011, 12:46 am
06 Apr 2011, 12:57 am
I have been tempted to shop at the "Big Lady" stores because of problems I have had with buying pants at normal stores. Im a size 12 to 14, but my lower quarters are weirdly shaped and the stores are full of skinny jeans... 
which I didnt even suit when I was thin anyway...
06 Apr 2011, 1:30 am
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06 Apr 2011, 1:53 am
CupcakeBelle wrote:
*helps myself to some popcorn and watches this interesting conversation.*
To the person who talked about tummy getting in the way of shoes: Try putting them on when your in bed just put one leg on the bed and take care of that foot then swap to the other.
To the person who talked about tummy getting in the way of shoes: Try putting them on when your in bed just put one leg on the bed and take care of that foot then swap to the other.
Actually that sounds like a great idea.
zen_mistress wrote:
I have been tempted to shop at the "Big Lady" stores because of problems I have had with buying pants at normal stores. Im a size 12 to 14, but my lower quarters are weirdly shaped and the stores are full of skinny jeans... which I didnt even suit when I was thin anyway...
which I didnt even suit when I was thin anyway...I recall a girl I used to work with. She was short, little over 5 feet, small framed, had a average size "top" for her size, but a very big "bottom", she was a beautiful pear shape. She had wide hips, big thighs, and a huge round booty. She had a beautiful face too. Her face actually looked kind of like Bethie's face, except with brown hair. We were taking the one time and she said she had a lot of trouble finding jeans for her bodacious "bottom" because jeans would ride down because of how small her waist is and how big her "bottom" is. She said that skinny jeans don't fit her properly.
But then I recall someone telling me they do make "big butt" jeans for women, but they are expensive.
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06 Apr 2011, 2:09 am
emuman100 wrote:
I recall a girl I used to work with. She was short, little over 5 feet, small framed, had a average size "top" for her size, but a very big "bottom",
Sounds a lot like me. My jeans were always too long because I had to choose between them going over my enormous @ss and them being short enough.
I gave up long ago. Long hippie skirts are very forgiving, and comfy.
06 Apr 2011, 4:52 am
