Why are you still single ( one reason)

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Because I lack empathy.

Either I'm friendzoned by the stable guys, or chased by the psychotic ones.

I'm extremely repulsive.

I'm rather a paranoid type of person.... and i let that influence conversation and social activity within the relationship... Not that im crazy jealous or anything like that but..... i circle around the same topic to make sure of something... even though i dont need to.... I have a tough time knowing when to do something as well... that and i dont know exactly what i want out of a women who is really right....

Thank you. I wish everyone else the best of luck too. I will say that she hasn't called back yet. I gave her my number, instead of getting her's, so that I can leave it up to her to make the next move. That hasn't happened yet, but it's out of my hands now, so I think it's best to try and keep my mind off of it.

Geography.

i see your break didn't help to lift your depression.

I mostly have attraction for men from my culture

I'm cold and unsympathetic or so I've been told in the past.

I don't talk to strangers, for the most part.

Yeah nothing's really changed. I'm sitting in the same place I sat last time I visited this site.

I've become really angry, frustrated and jealous at people who are better looking, functioning better, and is just plain better at succeeding at life than me. (which is quite a lot of people)

I don't think that is really healthy psychologically.

Still don't have any friends.

Heck I might be a worse place than I were before.

The main reason would be that I have som many distinct personality traits that clash with at least one thing of everyone I know. If someone won't date me cause I listen to "extreme" music, another won't because of this or that. People like me but are too afraid of me. Recently one person I had admired for the past 2 years told me she liked me and we became somewhat emotionally intimate despite totally different lifestyles and religion. But that didn't work out because to date an athiest goes against her religion (which she was fine with) but her family isn't ok with that and basically is her whole life and they would never accept me

Basically I AM the reason I am alone

I don't like making myself vulnerable, which is required for a romantic relationship, sharing feelings and whatnot. Besides that, I don't see my life as "in order" enough for a girlfriend, my house is a mess, my room is a mess, my cars are broken, I have very little money, no job, etc. I don't feel like a girl would accept me for how I really am. I know I'm able to "get my foot in the door" with quite a lot of girls, but I don't see a point in it, as after a short while, it'd probably crash and burn, or be a long drawn out bit of misery.

That, and some of the "easy" girls that I could have gotten with in the past turned out to be manipulative, etc, and though my instinctual social skills suck, I err on the side of caution and/or know how to tell when people are trying to take advantage of me. IE, one of my sister's friends was living with us, and she'd hit on me. She was awesome looking, no question about that. But she was also using my mom by living in my house for free, and would complain when living in my house for free. She was also living in my house for literally no reason, she said her dad was like, mean to her, but no actual abuse occurred at all, it was just jealousy over her father marrying some other (selfish) girl. But anyway, the girl living in my house, I overheard her talking to my sisters, I coulda sworn she said "(Me) is so f*****g dense, it's like I'd have to walk up to him and go 'I wanna have buttsex with you.' for him to notice." She'd utter random sexual things when I'd walk by sometimes, etc. Besides being 18 and having some girl hit on you strongly in your own house, which was terribly awkward and nervewracking in itself, I figured if she was using and taking advantage of my mom, she wasn't above using me. So I thought with my brain instead of my dick, and just kept giving her the complete cold shoulder. I turned out to be completely right in my actions, under a year after she got kicked out of my house, she was married at like 18 years old. Anchor marriage... So things like that make me VERY skeptical of any girl really who expresses interest in me. I feel like some girls like that see me as easy "prey."

So, it's not that I CAN'T do it, it's just I've sorta weighed the costs and it seems to cost more than I'm willing to give, more than I'm willing to be vulnerable with, and more importantly, while there's many things in life I'm willing to fail at a gazillion times to learn at, dating isn't one of them, as the emotional pain or whatever is too much for me to take when you fail at it. It's unlike failing at cooking, working on a car, sports, etc, it hurts way more. So...quite a combo of stuff, huh?

I'm too fond of my iPad.

I'm completely Incel and have no idea how to attract a woman to save my life

Ha ha I know what you mean. Am using my mine right now as i write this sentance