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29 Nov 2012, 3:11 pm

no, most men don't ask out all women in a shotgun approach - some men might, but it seems that most of them ask out *select* women based on certain characteristics, which is why certain women will get tons of attention and others will get little or none.

i agree that men should be happy to have women ask them out. but i have been rejected lots of times, so i know that few men are simply glad to have the attention and go along for the ride!


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29 Nov 2012, 3:12 pm

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Picky guys get nothing.


Bingo, and its why the OP and others shouldnt be counted in situations about dating. They are the ones hurting themselves



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29 Nov 2012, 3:13 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
no, most men don't ask out all women in a shotgun approach - some men might, but it seems that most of them ask out *select* women based on certain characteristics, which is why certain women will get tons of attention and others will get little or none.

i agree that men should be happy to have women ask them out. but i have been rejected lots of times, so i know that few men are simply glad to have the attention and go along for the ride!



...or the ones who would are men you yourself might reject perhaps? :wink:



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29 Nov 2012, 3:14 pm

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But at least they're getting asked! They're getting the, er, feel good factor, - for lack of the word I can't remember- that guys find them attractive enough to even ask. An open mind works wonders


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your idea that women could simply be "less picky" goes for men as well - they could easily be less picky and ask out different women/more women/not the same women that everyone else is asking out.

Er, guys generally do all the above and still get rejected. We have to fire a shotgun in the hope of landing a date, and then see what happens, rather than be picky and get nowhere, ever. Picky guys get nothing.


Well, at least wtfid2 is getting asked, and the same goes for any other picky idiot like him.

I never "fired a shotgun," and I've never asked a single girl out in my life. What I did is send and respond to messages, got to know the women a little bit and planned a date without screwing around online for too long. Then phone numbers were exchanged, we visited each other's homes, and I got asked out every time, or nobody asked, and it was just one of those mutual unspoken things.



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29 Nov 2012, 3:14 pm

why would i reject them, nessa238?


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29 Nov 2012, 3:18 pm

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i agree that men should be happy to have women ask them out. but i have been rejected lots of times, so i know that few men are simply glad to have the attention and go along for the ride!


You probably got a similar ratio of people you asked out: rejections as most males if not a better ratio. Again, women can see this in a different light because they are used to being the ones doing the rejecting as compared to guys used to going through dozens of women for one positive response (response, not even date/sex/etc, just someone who didnt tell them to f**k off)



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29 Nov 2012, 3:22 pm

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hyperlexian wrote:

i agree that men should be happy to have women ask them out. but i have been rejected lots of times, so i know that few men are simply glad to have the attention and go along for the ride!


You probably got a similar ratio of people you asked out: rejections as most males if not a better ratio. Again, women can see this in a different light because they are used to being the ones doing the rejecting as compared to guys used to going through dozens of women for one positive response (response, not even date/sex/etc, just someone who didnt tell them to f**k off)

you actually can't assume anything about my ratio or about the response i've received, though i know you'd like to.

anyway do you think your ratio is the same as every other male? i didn't realise every man had the same exact ratio.


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29 Nov 2012, 3:23 pm

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hyperlexian wrote:

i agree that men should be happy to have women ask them out. but i have been rejected lots of times, so i know that few men are simply glad to have the attention and go along for the ride!


You probably got a similar ratio of people you asked out: rejections as most males if not a better ratio. Again, women can see this in a different light because they are used to being the ones doing the rejecting as compared to guys used to going through dozens of women for one positive response (response, not even date/sex/etc, just someone who didnt tell them to f**k off)

you actually can't assume anything about my ratio or about the response i've received, though i know you'd like to.

anyway do you think your ratio is the same as every other male? i didn't realise every man had the same exact ratio.


and if you read my previous post youd get the answer to this one



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29 Nov 2012, 3:29 pm

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why would i reject them, nessa238?


Presumably there are some men who have been keen on you that you have rejected at some point in your adult life?



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29 Nov 2012, 3:35 pm

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hyperlexian wrote:
why would i reject them, nessa238?


Presumably there are some men who have been keen on you that you have rejected at some point in your adult life?

sure, but if i had asked them out first they may have rejected me. :lol:

the act of asking someone out changes the dynamic. i prefer to be the asker and i tend to reject people who approach me, even if i had been attracted to them. this is because it freaks me out to be approached. so almost all of my relationships (if not all) have been either initiated by me or a mutual start.


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29 Nov 2012, 3:38 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
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why would i reject them, nessa238?


Presumably there are some men who have been keen on you that you have rejected at some point in your adult life?

sure, but if i had asked them out first they may have rejected me. :lol:

the act of asking someone out changes the dynamic. i prefer to be the asker and i tend to reject people who approach me, even if i had been attracted to them. this is because it freaks me out to be approached. so almost all of my relationships (if not all) have been either initiated by me or a mutual start.


Gosh that's unusual

I've tended to find it doesn't work if I approach a man I like first

Tell a lie though as I did this with a work colleague and things happened between us after I confessed to liking him a lot

it's generally more likely to be a 'go on if you're asking then' type thing though if the man doesn't initiate ie it often doesn't progress very far from just sex.



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29 Nov 2012, 3:41 pm

i like having the power to decide who i get into a relationship with. it's only to a degree as i can't change the fact that many people wouldn't return the attraction, but at least i can determine which people i *can* end up with. i much prefer it this way!! !!


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29 Nov 2012, 3:41 pm

I don't even bother asking women out anymore because I know I am going to get rejected not to mention feel awkward thought of as a freak or a creep etc. If a woman wants me to want her shes gotta do the approaching.


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29 Nov 2012, 3:42 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
i like having the power to decide who i get into a relationship with. it's only to a degree as i can't change the fact that many people wouldn't return the attraction, but at least i can determine which people i *can* end up with. i much prefer it this way!! !!


That's a good thing then if you feel in control :)



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29 Nov 2012, 3:52 pm

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i like having the power


And there, is exactly why girls and women don't want dating to change. They like the advantage they have and don't want a fair and equal system.



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29 Nov 2012, 3:52 pm

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hyperlexian wrote:
i like having the power


And there, is exactly why girls and women don't want dating to change. They like the advantage they have and don't want a fair and equal system.

hahaha go and read my post - i like the power of acting like a MAN not a WOMAN....


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