Hale_Bopp's "tear apart my okcupid profile" thread

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its okc category there's reply often, replies ok and replies selectively ie not very often so sounds picky though i suppose it could be getting alot of sex messages either way 99% of the red replies selectively never reply so its just heartache and waste of time for me but yeah they are like at-least 50% of okc and i'd say 85% of them are what i'd cal gorgeous and thin i've found that the two things are like 90% in common as in i can look at a woman's picture guess they red scroll down and 90% of the time i'm right its a sad depressing right though but i guess it is what it is, i mean i surpose if i was super hot i would be demanding too maybe its just a growing up being told your better then everyone thing idk unfortunately i find 95% of women gorgeous so i'm limited to the 5% i'm not attracted to thus doomed

okc's quick match and pof meet me apps are quite sad but i guess i can take some little satisfaction in by reading thier profiles and rating them high they end up on some picky guys search and maybe find someone

The only women I saw who had "Replies often" (green) were very overweight or foreigner Asian maids/house workers.

:D

Those don't show up on my screen and I have ticked interested in Everyone Everywhere. I could totes do with one of those, my house is at tip.

that was nice to laugh a bit been down tonight


theres a few thin ones but they still don't reply and here there are curvy women who do and i care more about face then looks

Some of those Filipina nanny/maids I've chatted with on Okc are often surprisingly much smarter, more cultured, more modest and more down to earth than many local college-graduated women I've encountered.

oktrends actually explained how the replies selectively works. The color doesnt denote how often they reply it denotes how close to full their inbox is i.e. it is trying to scare people off from messaging someone already inundated with messages.

Oh, that is very interesting. I have only initiated contact with one person so far. He replied, but his ad lib conversations were not as interesting as his profile. So, I haven't really looked at the red/green bars as anything relevant up to this point.

I've sort of lost interest in okcupid now.

I don't know if I want a relationship unless they're the right guy.

I couldn't agree more......however, I did once meet the "right guy" on a dating site, so I guess I'm optimistic enough to hope it could happen again.

I keep having these interesting conversations with people on OKC. However it's only been a week and I've already noticed myself starting to fall into popularity contest trap. And this without a photo ! I may have to shut down my experiment pretty soon as my ego will go on a rampage otherwise. It's weird though, I think in some way people like not knowing what you look like because they can then pretend you are whatever they fantasize about. Nobody likes reality. lol

I'm about ready to give up on it myself. The majority of women I see in my matches aren't remotely my type and the few messages I actually get are usually just "hi" or some obvious fake ( asking me if I want to "trade pics" or text them with no picture or profile info... ). I have yet to find a single dating site with anybody I'd actually be interested in who might actually consider giving me a fair chance....

I just don't think sites are a good way to meet people. You can't judge properly on a site. It seems more like random luck than actually meeting someone you really click with.

I think this sums up online dating perfectly. It is random luck, people can say or claim anything in their profiles and use fake profiles.

Hale_bopp, that is why I gave up on okCupid a couple of years ago. I came to the same conclusion you did. Most exaggerate their profiles, and you don't really get to know that person unless you see them in real life. Thus, the reason why I do not and will not internet date. And I can also relate with you on choosing the "right" one. Don't give up searching though, Hale_bopp. He's out there. It used to be simpler in my day when all you needed was a club (i.e. cavemen)...lol jk. Now you have to use a laser pointed tranquilizer gun, and a GPS to find her...just kidding! Try going to places that you're interested in; if you meet someone there, at least then you'll have a common interest.

Like Boo says, the best way is through real life. The best way is likely have a friend point a dude that you might be compatible with. It's possible to find someone online but it's better to find a dude through real life. With aspies though, this is tough but obviously not impossible.

I quoted my profile before, and people said my pictures were bad. I changed them without any luck. I changed them back to the old ones and am now having more success (5 girls liked me in the past week, doubling my previous 2 month total).

I'm using zoosk, not sure what people's opinions are, seems like a college site, but there's way more people on there then okcupid.