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05 Sep 2012, 7:30 am

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Hear, hear. Though I'd add "the way I think" as what I'd like to be noticed for, just as much as the things I can do.


Good point. I should have not only mentioned but emphasized that. I might struggle reading cues and have zero intimate experience but have very strong 'thinking' skills and am an extremely fast learner that many professors and teachers commented on. It's not immediately obvious but I am rather intelligent: I just don't get the opportunity to express it. Bottom line: it's another Catch 22: everyone wants experience but if they spent a week getting to know me they would realize that my inexperience can be very quickly overcome thanks to my intelligence and caring nature. Unfortunately, nobody will give me that chance because they can't seem to look past my height, for good or bad. This goes for both jobs and dating for me.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not against physical attraction at all: I have made it clear that long, straight, natural colored (preferably black) hair is a huge turn on for me but I want to know the 'essence' for lack of a better term behind that body.



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05 Sep 2012, 8:07 am

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It's weird, the female obsession with tall guys. Anything over about 6'2 creates too much of a difference in height for me. I like around 5'9 - 5'11. But yeah, a good friend of mine would be gushing over your 6'6!

Rugby players then?



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05 Sep 2012, 9:16 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
GiantHockeyFan wrote:
The biggest thing I forgot to mention:
I don't want someone who is ONLY interested in me solely because of my height (i.e. almost every girl I meet). I find that rather insulting as it's something I have zero control over as opposed to my other nice qualities I have spent a lot of time and energy working on.

It's weird, the female obsession with tall guys. Anything over about 6'2 creates too much of a difference in height for me. I like around 5'9 - 5'11. But yeah, a good friend of mine would be gushing over your 6'6!


I also think it weird that women obsess about a guy's height because, as GiantHockeyFan quite rightly points out, this is not something one can control. Height is not something I consider at all when it comes to thinking about who I would date and nor does race, eye colour etc as these are things that we don't choose to have. For example, my other half is the same height as I am and he is Chinese (it just so happens that I find oriental asians very attractive but that doesn't mean I will date them to the exclusion of other races, including my own race). As far as I'm concerned, a guy can be as good looking as he likes but if he's an absolute a**hole, that is a complete turn off for me.


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05 Sep 2012, 10:14 am

What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


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05 Sep 2012, 10:56 am

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What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?

I'd like to know because to my knowledge I can't naturally attract anyone except babies, toddlers and seniors, the three groups you would think would be intimidated by my height. I remember on eHarmony there was a question that asked if you would date someone shorter than you. I was shocked to read that 80% of these 'mature' women wouldn't even consider dating someone shorter and the few that said yes almost didn't want to admit it. Granted, I can possibly see a preference for height but that to me is like saying I refuse to date anyone with darker skin color. I fully admit I like light, almost pale skin best but I would never turn someone down based on something they have no control over, especially when it has no effect on the actual person whatsoever. In fact, some 'negative' things like acne actually make me take notice of a woman because that shows she's not obsessed about appearance (i.e. the dreaded high maintenance chick).



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05 Sep 2012, 12:36 pm

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What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


I don't know why other women find them attractive. I certainly never did. I always lusted after what my dad called "fireplugs" (short guys with muscular builds). It could be my ethnic heritage, the men don't get very tall. My ideal, back in high school, was built guys who were 5'8" at the most. My dad was 6'1" and could never understand the short guy thing.



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05 Sep 2012, 1:58 pm

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What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


Sexual selection influenced by natural selection.



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05 Sep 2012, 2:05 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


Sexual selection influenced by natural selection.

well, i dated one man who was 6'7" , and slept with one who was 6'8" (i also dated one who was 5'4" so height wasn't a specific preference). one of the tall men was wildly successful with women and the other one was a virgin and girlfriend-less into his 20s until i came along. from my own observations in real life and on the forum it seems that height only offers an advantage if the applicable women find the men otherwise attractive. height by itself doesn't do a lot.


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05 Sep 2012, 3:05 pm

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Quite a few women like tall guys because they are assuming that everything is in proportion, if you know what I mean. ;-)


LOL good point. I have many long body parts: legs, arms, fingers as well as certain body parts I only have one of. I just don't get the chance to get that far to show it thanks to being hopelessly oblivious. To put it politely, I have very positive qualities that nobody has yet to see.

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I like tall girls, I don't like tall guys. the big ones scare me...

I have recently clued into that within the past few weeks. I'm 6'6", 210 lbs and tend to stand very close to people being a little hard of hearing and my troubles hearing people over the background noise. I guess I never saw that as intimidating because of how much I was bullied growing up and if anything assumed everyone saw me as a wimp. I might look big and tough but until recently I was weak as a kitten. I was even nicknamed Mr. Burns in school because I was so physically weak and tight with money.

"body parts I only have one of."
that's what I was referring to, I'm not a size king at all, the exact opposite.


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05 Sep 2012, 3:23 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


Sexual selection influenced by natural selection.

well, i dated one man who was 6'7" , and slept with one who was 6'8" (i also dated one who was 5'4" so height wasn't a specific preference). one of the tall men was wildly successful with women and the other one was a virgin and girlfriend-less into his 20s until i came along. from my own observations in real life and on the forum it seems that height only offers an advantage if the applicable women find the men otherwise attractive. height by itself doesn't do a lot.


Assuming that its evolution at play, there would be quite a lot of other traits both social and biological that are evaluated at the same time. So, if 2 men are equal in all respects besides how tall they are, that may be a differencemaker.



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05 Sep 2012, 3:24 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


Sexual selection influenced by natural selection.

well, i dated one man who was 6'7" , and slept with one who was 6'8" (i also dated one who was 5'4" so height wasn't a specific preference). one of the tall men was wildly successful with women and the other one was a virgin and girlfriend-less into his 20s until i came along. from my own observations in real life and on the forum it seems that height only offers an advantage if the applicable women find the men otherwise attractive. height by itself doesn't do a lot.


Not like that.

By average, tall men are stronger than short men, hence they were more likely to survive and morel likely to successfully protect their offspring.

Most probably: Among the past variations of past female preferences, females who preferred tall males had more successful offspring in surviving than the offspring of females who preferred short males, hence why this trait became genetically much more common among the females after Xs of generations.



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05 Sep 2012, 4:18 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


Sexual selection influenced by natural selection.

well, i dated one man who was 6'7" , and slept with one who was 6'8" (i also dated one who was 5'4" so height wasn't a specific preference). one of the tall men was wildly successful with women and the other one was a virgin and girlfriend-less into his 20s until i came along. from my own observations in real life and on the forum it seems that height only offers an advantage if the applicable women find the men otherwise attractive. height by itself doesn't do a lot.


Not like that.

By average, tall men are stronger than short men, hence they were more likely to survive and morel likely to successfully protect their offspring.

Most probably: Among the past variations of past female preferences, females who preferred tall males had more successful offspring in surviving than the offspring of females who preferred short males, hence why this trait became genetically much more common among the females after Xs of generations.


Or tall people were the Nephilim!
http://hyperboreanvibrations.blogspot.c ... those.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nephilim

Image

*hopes thread turns into giant discussion about Nephilim*



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05 Sep 2012, 8:11 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


what is it men find attractive about women being shorter than them?

most straight couples conform to the stereotype of the man being taller than the woman

if height is a survival advantage shouldn't it be universally attractive?


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05 Sep 2012, 8:16 pm

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Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


what is it men find attractive about women being shorter than them?

most straight couples conform to the stereotype of the man being taller than the woman

if height is a survival advantage shouldn't it be universally attractive?

hahaha good point! a taller woman would signify health and would be better able to protect offspring from predators.


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05 Sep 2012, 9:04 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
DogsWithoutHorses wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


what is it men find attractive about women being shorter than them?

most straight couples conform to the stereotype of the man being taller than the woman

if height is a survival advantage shouldn't it be universally attractive?

hahaha good point! a taller woman would signify health and would be better able to protect offspring from predators.


I like tall wimmenz.



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06 Sep 2012, 1:53 am

1000Knives wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Tim_Tex wrote:
What is it about tall guys that makes them attractive?


Sexual selection influenced by natural selection.

well, i dated one man who was 6'7" , and slept with one who was 6'8" (i also dated one who was 5'4" so height wasn't a specific preference). one of the tall men was wildly successful with women and the other one was a virgin and girlfriend-less into his 20s until i came along. from my own observations in real life and on the forum it seems that height only offers an advantage if the applicable women find the men otherwise attractive. height by itself doesn't do a lot.


Not like that.

By average, tall men are stronger than short men, hence they were more likely to survive and morel likely to successfully protect their offspring.

Most probably: Among the past variations of past female preferences, females who preferred tall males had more successful offspring in surviving than the offspring of females who preferred short males, hence why this trait became genetically much more common among the females after Xs of generations.


Or tall people were the Nephilim!
http://hyperboreanvibrations.blogspot.c ... those.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nephilim

Image

*hopes thread turns into giant discussion about Nephilim*


lol