16 Dec 2011, 8:12 am
Sweetleaf
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16 Dec 2011, 11:10 am
B3astM4n wrote:
MR20 wrote:
B3astM4n wrote:
DetestableInsect wrote:
B3astM4n wrote:
Whether your goals are realistic or not, you NEED to try and you NEED to fail sometimes. Yeah, it blows but (And I'm not going to go with the whole, you learn from your mistakes thing here) you need it for personal growth. It's like rich kids who have beamers, live in a big houses, parents pay for everything, then suddenly they got cut off and need to get a job. I never had that, had to work and earn everything, be it better skills, money, whatever. Then I meet guys my age who have that rich kid situation and they don't know jack sh**. 25 years old, NT's, and they can't budget, save money, lazy workers, hell I could go on for pages about the stuff they can't do or don't know. All because they never had to try, and they never failed because someone was always there to pick up the pieces or bail them out.
You need to fail once in awhile, it's good for you.
You need to fail once in awhile, it's good for you.
Good speech to give at the soup kitchen during holidays
It's also the speech that saved me from turning into some unemployed, pill popping, never leave the basement mess. Well, at least you're fluent in sarcasm. That's a good start.
just.... wow
Uh, why wow? Also I love the Soul Eater avatar dude, that's rad.
Sweetleaf, I wouldn't be so hard on yourself. First off, I've seen a lot of your posts and you seem very intelligent, well read, and to be honest, quite sweet. That's a good start to anything. Honestly, I don't think it has much to do with luck. This job I have now, first off, I only do it cause it pays well and I get a pension and am unionized, I've stayed at this job longer than any other (2.5 years) thing is though, due to my issues, I've been on leave of absences for about 11 months (6 months or so last year, and I'm currently off till the New Year since September, so 4 months), only reason I still have the job is it's union based. I lost all my vague friends and acquaintances because on Sept. 4th (My 25th Birthday) the assistant manager called me into his office and completely ripped me apart for taking a couple extra smoke breaks (My Grandfather had just passed and I've never had a death in the family), they had to call my dad in (He works in the same store) cause I had an anxiety attack so bad that they thought it was a heart attack, so they laid me on the floor in front of all my friends/co-workers and customers and I got carted off in an ambulance.
Seriously, I didn't want to go back. I grew up being bullied and publicly humiliated almost every day cause I was really overweight from some meds. The last thing I wanted to deal with was a manager who was a bully. I'm 6 feet tall and 225lbs of muscle, I got that jacked just so people wouldn't bully me, then this guy did and I couldn't deal. I thought about the whole situation, my apparent "friends" refusing to have anything to do with me after my incident, this boss who ripped me a new a**hole while everyone heard and threatened me to boot, and I came to the conclusion of, I want to move out and I want a new car and I can do that easier if I go back to this job, hard as it may be, and I figured, you know what, f**k that guy, and to hell with my pretend friends, I'll go back, do my job and go home, that's all.
Sorry this is so long, it's just my point is, luck is for other people, we have to put our hands down and sometimes walk through the sh**. I've just left so many jobs cause I couldn't deal, I left school cause I couldn't deal, I didn't leave my house for a year cause I just couldn't f***ing deal. So, I gave up on giving up and just decided, I'll work my ass off, and see where it gets me, and at this point I'm not an unemployed, pill popping, never leave the basement mess. I'm an employed, sometimes pill popping, don't let me near your weed, chain-smoking, live in the basement but pay rent mess, and that's good enough for me for right now
f**k luck, just do what you can and hope it turns out in the end, and live by this, "It seemed like a good idea at the time".I don't feel like I am too hard on myself, I mean I seriously have not accomplished anything.....failed college twice, have never had a job for over a couple months except my work study job during my first year of college. And now I have no clue what I will do or can do for income......sure I might not be a pill popping mess who never leaves the basement, I don't even have a basement but even so I still don't feel like I have much going for me, so sometimes I wish I did have a basement to myself and a large amount of drugs so I could just forget about everything.....but yeah such is life.
16 Dec 2011, 11:19 am
16 Dec 2011, 2:13 pm
B3astM4n
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16 Dec 2011, 3:44 pm
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16 Dec 2011, 7:17 pm
RICKY5 wrote:
Adam82 wrote:
myth wrote:
I personally know of several spectrum males that got their very first girlfriends in their 20's.
What about 30s? I turn 30 next year. If it's best to just give up looking, I'd rather hear it straight, now, than find that out later.
Get a well-reviewed GFE escort.
My most memorable experience with the opossite sex, actually the only experience :p, Just to say that a couple of them didn't do this to anyone and I got lucky.
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No we can't get rid of this forum. Everyone that complains about it (*i hold my hands up*) seems to be addicted to it. Without wanting to speak on anybody's behalf we can neither live with it or without it. Oh sorry, am I going a bit off-topic here?
well, this forum can be said to be some sort of a joke, wether we can't get rid of it or not and wether we keep visiting it or not.
19 Dec 2011, 4:20 pm
spongy
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19 Dec 2011, 4:59 pm
Surfman wrote:
We could fake a huge disagreement and start abusing each other?
I'm pretty disagreeable, offensive and vitriolic
so throw some abuse my way....
I'm into ending it if you are
I'm pretty disagreeable, offensive and vitriolic
so throw some abuse my way....
I'm into ending it if you are
Unfortunately my abusive skills stop around the "You're dumb"
Quote, and I don't think that will cut it so you may need to find someone else. 
