Would you ever date a fat or obese person?

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When I was in my early twenties I tried an experiment. One of my friend's girlfriends had a sweet friend that I did not find attractive. However, she was in good shape--volleyball player, runner, etc... I decided to date her to see if I could have emotions for someone I don't find attractive. Long story short- couldn't care for her. I didn't want to hurt her, but I couldn't hide my lack of feelings for her. Kissing her was very awkward for me, I drank a lot before we did. She was a virgin at the time, so I didn't have to worry about going far with her. I knew she was a virgin before I decided to date her, otherwise I wouldn't have since sex comes soon nowadays.

Now to the plus size women... No, I cannot date them. If there is such a thing as a soul-mate I found mine last fall.
She was perfect in every way except size. This was a long distance relationship that started, but once I knew our meeting was coming soon I had to end it. I knew she was plus size from the beginning, I just enjoyed our conversations so much that I kept it going as long as I could. Most men would probably refer to her as thick, not fat. To that I say BS, just check her BMI!
Don't get me wrong, she was attractive in the face, though British. You know, she had that British look to her. By the way, never tell someone they look British because they consider it an insult, even if they are. Haha.

Soul-mates are easier to find than body-mates for me.

I don't understand lazy people. I don't know why one would let their body go... I can understand if you have some medical condition that keeps you large, but otherwise c'mon! Why would any sane person want to be with someone who doesn't care about their health?

All I can say is that if the way a person's body looks is more important to you than the actual person inside I feel sorry for you.
You seem to have no depth of personality and as a result I can't see you ever making a deep connection with anyone. How on earth can a person be your 'soul-mate' if you don't even want to meet them because they're too overweight??! You have no conception of the term and make a mockery of it! Did you tell this 'soul-mate' of yours exactly why you didn't want to meet her?

Also what exactly is 'a British look'?

Ironically, I'd say 'an American look' is a very obese person as America is the home of obesity ie your country started it and we inherited it!

Also, if that avatar photo is an up to date one of you, you're not exactly slim yourself!

You don't understand lazy people - well I don't understand insensitive people with no sense of irony!

All I can say is that if the way a person's body looks is more important to you than the actual person inside I feel sorry for you.
You seem to have no depth of personality and as a result I can't see you ever making a deep connection with anyone. How on earth can a person be your 'soul-mate' if you don't even want to meet them because they're too overweight??! You have no conception of the term and make a mockery of it! Did you tell this 'soul-mate' of yours exactly why you didn't want to meet her?

Also what exactly is 'a British look'?

Ironically, I'd say 'an American look' is a very obese person as America is the home of obesity ie your country started it and we inherited it!

Also, if that avatar photo is an up to date one of you, you're not exactly slim yourself!

You don't understand lazy people - well I don't understand insensitive people with no sense of irony!

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I don't feel better for pointing out your shallowness and insensitivity. Sometimes the only way to get through to insensitive people is to give them a taste of their own medicine.

I think being overweight is good in one way as it certainly sorts out the wheat from the chaff ie the shallow people from the people with more depth who are likely to stick around even if the person doesn't look 'fit'. There are a lot of reasons for a person to not look their best eg illness, mental health problems such as depression and because they are getting older. You are far more likely to be abandoned at a time of great need if you have relationships with people who are overly focused on how fit and good looking their partner 'needs' to be.

That's the problem, you think I'm all about the physical-- not even close!
I could easily find women that suit my physical requirements, but there must be much more to them...
Integrity, compassion, commitment, intelligence, etc... I don't get turned on by people that aren't physically attractive.
Intelligent conversations stimulate my mind, not my d_____!

According to you, I'm insensitive and shallow for wanting someone I'm physically attracted to... Sure, okay. GUILTY!
I also want someone that stimulates my mind as much as my ______! But you wouldn't consider that shallow....

Go find someone else to troll.

The British look I'm referring to is the facial structure a lot of Brits have. I personally don't think there is anything wrong with it. Thanks for knocking Americans though, and blaming us for your choices(inheritance).

British people don't look a certain way.

Agreed, there's no real British 'race', it's a mix of Celts, Angles, Saxons, Jutes, Romans, Vikings, Normans, Scots, etc, and even more mixing in recent times.

I'm not trolling, I'm expressing my opinion on your attitude towards people who happen to be overweight

I fail to see why you couldn't meet your 'soul-mate' - does meeting someone only occur if you are attracted to them?

Soul-mate implies you liked the person for themself and were interested in them. Not wanting to meet the person at all
after having such 'deep' conversation with them does not reflect well on you at all.

Your perfect match is a person as shallow and insensitive as yourself - the trouble is you'd probably find that person really unpleasant. Do as you would be done by.

You attacked me, I never attacked you. I'll report your name calling, and let the moderator(s) decide, though they probably wont do anything about it. Just because you might not be comfortable with your weight/looks doesn't mean you need to take it out on others.

There was more to the story which I went back and edited hours ago.

I guess you'd date a man no matter how he looked so long as you two had a strong connection. Give me a break!
That's why all you ladies are lining up to date 400lb men with winning personalities! I knew a redheaded guy in school that weighed about 400lbs, funny as can be, and no woman would date him-ever. I know he was a virgin(not by choice) well into his mid twenties, if not still.
Ladies loved being around him because he's hilarious, but he wasn't their type. So since this woman wasn't my type I'm automatically shallow and insensitive. Your logic is flawed, and you're clearly unhappy with your looks and years of rejection.

How did I attack you?

As far as I'm concerned I just correctly labelled your behaviour

you admitted yourself to being insensitive and your posts do nothing to disprove it

I get fed up of overweight people being devalued when it's usually the people devaluing them who are in need of personality transplants, as demonstrated commendably by yourself!

I admitted to being insensitive at times, not shallow (if I did, it was sarcasm)-- there's a difference. For example, you're being insensitive right now, and in every post you make in response. Don't act like you're all holier than thou.

You definitely don't believe in the "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"... Because your actions show otherwise.
I personally don't practice that as I think it is nonsense.

I didn't devalue overweight people, I'm just not physically attracted to them-- I'm entitled to my opinion! Some people wont date redheads for the same reason! I guess they're all shallow and insensitive too!? What about women who wont date men shorter than them?
What about men who wont date women taller than them? Are they shallow and insensitive as well? And what about those people who wont date outside their race? What about people who just aren't physically attracted to another person? I could go on and on...

You've avoided my questions because you know I've made valid points.

Go start a PAC if you're so concerned overweight people aren't being heard.

You're aggressive and unpleasant - I've had enough of interacting with you