Soulmates

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Not everyone values a man based on his income.

Perhaps for the ones that rush into it...I feel like if you've been with someone long enough and have had plenty of intimate activity there is a good chance marriage isn't going to all of the sudden make either person get bored of the other. Of course if that day ever comes in my life its not happening in a church...unless its concluded by the burning of said church.

It seems like normal females base a man on his
Appearance meaning his looks, as well as his income.
I mean most of the girls I likes in school had boyfriends.
Only one of them wanted to take me to the prom. I didn't go..

But as for a soul mate I'm still looking for mine. I hope they are out there.

^I hope so too! To quote something from The Little Prince:

I like the quote from the Little Prince. Science is very important (like the Einstein quotes too btw) but science cannot explain everything. There will always be stuff that cannot be replicated in a lab, logged in a database, etc., but is experientially consistent. There will always be things we just have to take on faith, no matter how scientific and logical our minds may be. We are finite beings; no one can know it all, see it all, experience it all.

Soul mates are a hard one to pin down due to absence of a clear definition. And then there is the disbelief/hostility of those who have not experienced the phenomenon. (I have a smile on my face as i type...i don't mean this as a mean comment.) Very subjective subject to be sure. But interesting to volley back and forth.

Right now I struggle to believe in much of anything. Though I desperately want to.

No but most do

'Most?" There is no most. There are only individuals.

Maybe you haven't experienced problems like that yet, Kura...

Cities, towns, nations, alliances, groups, organizations, political parties, etc all prove that yep people can actually be similar. If we were all individuals different from each other then none of those would exist. I really don't see why it is women get so defensive when it's suggest that a bunch of women could behave similarly or have similar tastes. Like that's humanity we have lots of similarities. Studied and polls also prove this.

Most men love sports, trucks, and food. I don't take offense to that even though I don't love sports. It doesn't suggest some male hive mind, just that like all humans most males do think similarly.

Like how multiple people oceans apart had the same ideal , hive mind or humanity thinking similar? Why did all humanity decide to unit and build cities? You can be an individual and still share same thoughts, likes and ideas of millions of other people.

I understand your point of view. If you dont have much money you can be excluded as an option by a significant proportion of females. More depending on age, whether they want kids, their finances, and geographic location. Women who have less interest in status certainly are out there, and are found in numbers especially within certain sub cultures.
I guess individual women who are not motivated by money in the same way feel more annoyed when being included in 'most' as it can be a more emotionally charged critism of gender, than 'most' men's tendency to be into sport.

I agree that there are only individuals. Sometimes when we have trouble finding someone to connect with, it is because we are looking in the wrong places, or with the wrong perspective.

But why if you know your not one of those women then you would also know that you aren't part of the most. Saying women are individuals comes off as "no women are like that" few women on here accuse us of lying and making it all up, after all they aren't like that so there for no woman is like that. Like them not being like that somehow invalidates everyone else's experiences, then of course they go into the women's section and complain about the same women. 0.o then there's the other women here who are lie that and say a man who doesn't make enough isn't good enough.

Most=/= all. What sub culture has non superficial women? Because i dont know where to find any I'd like to think I have a lot to offer in non material ways.

There you are, I haven't seen you for a while.
It's hard to find women who aren't superficial. Most women just want money, and lots of it.

^Oh, Cockroach. I'm not sure how to help you, even though I really want to. I'll send you prayers and hugs, then.

I agree, to an extent most females that I try to ask out will just say no.
They act like they're better than I am. It's kind of annoying. I'm smart but
They don't seem to care about that. They only care about looks. And I'm seen as nothing.

It's so annoying they don't see the things we have to deal with. And some don't even care
About our feelings or how we may take something they say. If they smile what am I suppose to do?



He has to work some of it out on his own.
But we can help by being supportive of his efforts.