any women here who have never dated, never had a boyfriend?

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He was misunderstood quite badly a couple of times. I don't think it's any wonder that he wanted to argue or "troll" with people IMO, when he wasn't being listened to or taken seriously. As much as I appreciate the moderation here, it's not like XFilesGeek acted any better.

Can we continue the subject of this thread with an another ? Because I want to be helping with somebody else with my own difficulties about the first thema of this thread.

@oreillomon: boo is right, i am ethnically italian, though it's not my first language. i also speak spanish and portuguese. combined with english (because there are so many french words in english), it's enough for me to read french, as long as there's enough context for me to guess (i do need to guess the meaning of a lot of words, and i also need to look up some words in the dictionary). i also know a few basic rules that help (like how french ch often corresponds to c in other languages, or how s from other languages is often dropped in french, or how the ^ accent represents a letter that isn't there anymore in modern french, and so on)

on the other hand, understanding spoken french (especially quebecois!..) -- not an easy task!

No. I believe a member has been treated pretty unfairly, and I'm not going to keep that to myself.

I can help with pleasure with french, and be helped with my english. I understand than french quebecois is different from french from France. I practice everyday my english, so being able to learn a much more with others correspondents can be great.

Smudge, I talked about my own post about my reasons to being alone. Nobody noticed my post, and I wanted to talk about my owns reasons.

Orieliomon what would you describe as your main obstacle in finding a partner?

Personally I find communication difficult. I am never sure what the right thing to say is. What I want to say to a man I have feelings for is "I really like you". But I've had problems in the past with misunderstanding situations and I always feel like I have to be careful because of this.

By reading the others posts, I was asking myself if I was the exception for having difficulties to find a partner. I don't consider myself as FA.

My main difficulties are about to find a partner with same valours as me. I wish to be cultivated and be able to find someone with talking about cultural things, but because of my past and my family's valours, I need to find myself how to cultivate myself. You see, I am a pet lover, and my main dream is to write. The others austistics peoples and others neurotypic man seem to like video games, but personnaly, there are not my valours. Now, I try to learn at my best what I couldn't in the past by myself, and nobody helps me. The cultivated mans have already a women with them.

I played a lot video games in the past, because I had real difficulties to communicate. I wrote a post about my past on this thread, because my past haunt me. My mother had difficulties to read, so she couldn't understand what I need as I was a child and didn't help me with my Asperger. That's not her fault, I am sure. But now, I have difficulties to find a partner because of my difficulties when I was a child. I try to learn what I want really, philosophy by exemple, buying what I need to learn by myself, because my family can't understand my valours.

I came on this forum for finding someone else to help me to find solutions, because I couldn't do all the job by myself.

Also, I came on Wrong Planet, a english forum, because there is not a lot of autistic forums in french. So I had difficulties to communicate a lot more, before to practice long months my english. I have difficulties now, but I can communcate in english and find others peoples. That helps me a lot about writing.

I have a lot of difficulties about learning somethings by myself, because I wasn't helped a lot by the past. I learn at mys best, and progress rapidly, but I need to be help with somethings, as by callygraphy, because I can't understand myself. Another exemple, I had difficulties to organise my texts and how I speaked. You see, as I was a child, I was diagnostic as a child with language difficulties. That's probably because little of my mother, but that's really not her fault.

I can tell a lot of others things, but finding a partner is not easy and I need to learn a lot of things about communication also.

Hm76 I see that you are content on your own and don't view a partner as a need. Do you think that you would like a partner at some point or would you prefer to stay single?