Hale_Bopp's "tear apart my okcupid profile" thread

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Isn't that...how it works? Who else would you be in a relationship with?

Someone who turns out to be wrong?

I'm pretty good at picking up vibes, and reading between the lines by looking at a persons actions and their words. Attraction might be there at times, but a personality match is certainly not.

"Human females?!" I actually laughed out loud!

I caught that, too. I was wondering if he thinks his chances would be better with, say, a Klingon female. The main thing to remember is if she throws things at your while you recite poetry, you ARE doing it right.

You're kind.

When I read that I was thinking rabbits and sheep. Hence the face I made.

f****n new-Zealanders!

On THAT note:

Q: Why did the Scotsman wear a kilt?
A: The sheep can hear zippers.

You would think. But I come to realize a lot of people go into relationships for wrong reasons.
Some people would have a relationship with anybody just to avoid being lonely.
One WP member was considering going out with a girl who he thought was dumb just so that he can appear "normal" to others.
I think people who are sure that they are in a relationship with the right person are actually very rare.

The online dating market demands that guys must be 7 out of 10 in looks or higher even if they want to get a 6 or 7 woman. Online guys who are a 5 or 6 out of 10 in looks are not wanted by females who are on the same level attractiveness to them. Online the 5 or 6 out of 10 guy may have to settle for a 3 or 4 out of 10 woman on dating site that he does not really want. When there are 2 or 3 times more guys on a dating site than women, online dating is much harder for the average guy than approaching in real life. Online dating does not matter because anyone can create a profile and claim to be who ever they want to be.

Here's an idea, stop rating people's looks out of 10 and telling them who they should be paired with. Everyone has different preferences.
Sadly, online dating is a sausage fest and people are ruder to guys than they would be in real life.

If it doesn't work, I'd try to meet people the normal way.

I conducted an experiment to see how dating sites work and how many first contact messages each account would receive within 3 days. I claimed to be both male and female and used a range of different levels of attractiveness photos and ranging from detailed to minimal. Profiles are solely judged on photos, not profile content. Average to attractive females received hundreds of messages from guys. I got no first contact messages from the average and below average male accounts. You would be a fool if you signed up for a paid membership, if you are an average looking guy, when women are looking for Mr Perfect.

That's because women don't need a dating site to get an average or below average guy. If they want one, they'll just go and talk to hundreds in the street until they get a yes. They're looking for a very niche specific person who appears to be what they're actually attracted to. I'm not saying it's going to work, but tbh, most women go on a dating site with the fantasy of finding Mr perfect for them, whereas in real life things like personality and confidence and mutual interests come into play, as well as physical chemistry meeting people.

Most guys I've liked in real life I wouldn't have taken any notice of on a dating site.

Hence why I wouldn't recommend dating sites at all. Personal preference. If they aren't working, move on. Yeah, they suck. But complaining about them and continuing to use them is a waste of energy.

I deleted my NZ dating account because that site was useless, and all my other accounts except ok cupid, as it appears to be the best one.

Not all women (and not all men) find the same look attractive (I have both a gay male friend and a het female friend are is totally into the 'bear' look, which I don't get at all), and on average women and men don't see the same things as attractive.
for example:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/artic ... women.html

^this is about female faces, but the same difference in 'what is the best' probably applies to male faces as well.

TL, DR: guys, if you don't think that you're attractive, try anyway; just because you're not a 'manly man' doesn't mean that women in general, or even just a few women, won't be attracted to you.

@HaleBopp, wrt. the OP: have you tried reversing the order of the first and second halves of your opening statement? The first part reads a little like a CV, and you're not there to apply for a job.

both of you are right, though the odds that 100 women can all end up with the 25 perfect guys(expand numbers to more realistic) is impossible. There isn't enough of those perfect guys as men to women are kinda even ratio. I do find it funny though that for some women the type of guys the go after continue to use them for one night stands, so they complain but still go after those high standards. IDK maybe for some of those perfect guys they don't have enough time(work and hobbies take up alot) so they only want temporary sexual release? I don't know though if i was rich i'd like to do studies into it.

as for me Dating sites is the only way I'll ever meet women, so a slight chance is better then no chance. but i won't ever pay for it, why would i pay them to still fell sad, only exception would be if i could pay $2 once to see the people who liked me on okc, even then from what i gather they far away, also a few of them have deleted shortly after(fakes I'm guessing to try to get me to pay?)

lol

I dunno…if you were rich, you'd be entirely too busy to worry about doing studies!

Ah, what the hell, I guess I'll do this... can't hurt to get some input from people I don't already know:

www.okcupid.com/profile/Pabaleebo