do you find autistic girls attractive?

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06 Jun 2010, 11:22 pm

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I refuse to date an NT girl. They are mean and demanding.

Good luck with living a lonely life then.

That's not a fair judgment either. It's not as hard as you may think to find an Aspie girl, though your chances of finding an undiagnosed one with traits are probably higher than finding an official Aspie girl. Still, same difference minus labels. And I've had a girlfriend who's a diagnosed Aspie before, and a friend of mine is a female Aspie too.

I don't think anyone is specifically looking for a diagnosed Aspie. I think "Aspie" means anyone on the spectrum, which is what I prefer.

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07 Jun 2010, 6:44 am

Tim_Tex wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

Daemonic-Jackal wrote:

Ferdinand wrote:

I refuse to date an NT girl. They are mean and demanding.

Good luck with living a lonely life then.

I don't think anyone is specifically looking for a diagnosed Aspie. I think "Aspie" means anyone on the spectrum, which is what I prefer.

I know, I was just saying that - though the probability of finding a diagnosed Aspie is lower than finding one who isn't diagnosed, there is still a chance of finding an Aspie, so the assumption that only wanting to date Aspies would lead to lonelyness is flawed.

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07 Jun 2010, 7:27 am

If I haven't said this one before, I'll be honest- I find them them sexy.

Okay, maybe that's too extreme. But still, in all honesty, I do find them quite attractive.

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08 Jun 2010, 4:20 am

I've met too few autistic women to really judge, but those I met I didn't find very attractive nor easy to connect with. These days I tend to be mostly interested in women with ADHD or BPD since I find them easiest to connect with and BPD traits even have something überfeminine (and thus very attractive) about them.

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08 Jun 2010, 11:39 pm

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If I find an autistic girl attractive, it wouldn't be just because she is autistic.

Agreed. I really wouldn't care as long as I liked the person. If you really want to know, most guys don't like to "play the game". Some people may find it fun but for me as well as most of my other friends, we really find conflict and mind games and reverse psychology to be the most aggravating thing in the world. The "fun" part is getting to know the person you're with, not trying to stress out the person you like.

I have never understood what is so much fun about conflict. If you want a challenge go buy yourself a wii. I'm not lashing out at you, but I do want to point this out to hopefully make somebody's life easier.

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09 Jun 2010, 1:53 am

countzarroff wrote:

If you really want to know, most guys don't like to "play the game". Some people may find it fun but for me as well as most of my other friends, we really find conflict and mind games and reverse psychology to be the most aggravating thing in the world. The "fun" part is getting to know the person you're with, not trying to stress out the person you like.

The problem with neurotypical women is that they actually enjoy these mind games. In fact, for most of them it is precisely the whole flirting activity that make them attracted to you in the first place. Thus : if you don't know how to flirt the right way, it's a lot harder to make them fall in love with you and unless you explicitly tell them (something they usually find very UNattractive) they can't sense you're attracted to them either. Even if you have conversations that last hours and hours, they still can't tell you like them in a romantic or sexual sense if you don't flirt.

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I have never understood what is so much fun about conflict. If you want a challenge go buy yourself a wii. I'm not lashing out at you, but I do want to point this out to hopefully make somebody's life easier.

I wish it actually worked that way, but that's just not the way the female psyche works.

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09 Jun 2010, 5:18 am

windscar15 wrote:

Be honest, guys.

I'm not saying there are no attractive autistic girls. There are certainly a lot of them that have great looks and great personalities.

Problem is, that the ones in my area are sheltered, unappealing, and very awkward.
There is one autistic girl I liked but she ended up going out with this Russian guy.

A hole is a hole.

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09 Jun 2010, 8:51 pm

I actually find them rather weird and, no I dont like them
I could BS all the girls here but I wont lol
been here to damn long and they all know my true colours

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09 Jun 2010, 9:11 pm

Ive never met an apsie girl so i cant really say

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10 Jun 2010, 12:09 am

psychointegrator wrote:

windscar15 wrote:

A hole is a hole.

That's sexist and irrelevant.

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10 Jun 2010, 2:39 am

Kilroy wrote:

I actually find them rather weird and, no I dont like them
I could BS all the girls here but I wont lol
been here to damn long and they all know my true colours

I think the problem with Aspie women is that they come off as both weird and unfeminine, while still maintaining some of those typical female irrational attitudes. For me, that combination is very unattractive.

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psychointegrator wrote:

A hole is a hole.

That's sexist and irrelevant.

I think this was just an offensive way of saying he only cares about her being female... which is understandable when it's near impossible to relate with women at all.

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10 Jun 2010, 10:18 am

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The problem is I am an Aspie female and I'm very feminine. I like to wear skirts and dresses during the summer. I'm also naive and curious and really relationship-oriented in a feminine way. I talk on the phone for hours with my NT friends, gossipping about who's going to be kissed first and everything. I don't buy those stereotypes.

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10 Jun 2010, 10:31 am

Greenmouse wrote:

When I'm referring to femininity, I'm refering to feminine behavior and attitude but not so much appearances. To me, girly women are the kind of women who have very naive and unreasonable expectations in life, who have major mood swings, who tell you "yes" when they mean no and vice versa, who prefer having conversations about nothing rather than having deep discussions, etc. Depending on your description I would say you at least parially fit that shoe, which strikes me as odd for an Aspie.

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10 Jun 2010, 11:31 am

Salonfilosoof wrote:

I have naive and unreasonable expectations in life, i am bipolar, i'm more honest than what is expected by society and I like deep conversations about theology and psychology. According to your criterias, I would probably be half-girly half-aspie!

Don't feel odd, people can easily strike me as strange for not fitting in any stereotype. I'm the girly geek, how does it sound to you?

And I really like geek guys, they are so cute to me.

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10 Jun 2010, 11:52 am

Greenmouse wrote:

I guess. It seems like a pretty weird combo to me.

Greenmouse wrote:

Don't feel odd, people can easily strike me as strange for not fitting in any stereotype.

I don't fit into any stereotype either. I'm too socially adjusted to fit in among geeks, too weird to fit in among normal people, too liberal to fit in among conservatives, too conservative to fit in among liberals, etc. Never in my life did I really fit in in any group.

Greenmouse wrote:

I'm the girly geek, how does it sound to you?

And I really like geek guys, they are so cute to me.

Geekiness can be very cute among women as well. I've always wanted to meet an older version of Lisa Simpson in fact.

Anyway, I would say you should work on getting more realistic expectations in life. I wouldn't have any problem at all with your other character traits but a woman without a sense of realism is a major turnoff for me. I'm not sure, but I think other male Aspies would agree with that.

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10 Jun 2010, 7:41 pm

Hmm if this female is AS, then yes.
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