Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough

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He didn't say he ACTIVELY WANTS to check out other women. He said: if other women walked around topless, it's not weird if he checks them out. He would be lying if he said he did not.

If I say Justin Timberlake naked on the beach I would check that out too. Jum.

Then find a doctor Robert that will do a section,regardless if you need it.
Have a catheter,be split open,have major surgery,and IV's,run the risk of infection,baby born before it's ready,the "cesarean shuffle",where you are afraid to stand up because the staples may pop out and your guts fall out on the floor.Fun.yeah.Plus no pain killers afterwards because that comes thru the breast milk.More expensive,longer hospital stay.
Some women are large even before they have a baby.Some are small even after having a child.

And Michael Jackson had problems with his appearances,look how that turned out.

@Misslizard A swimsuit covers private areas like genitals and female breasts. For him to say that was, for all intents and purposes, similar to if I were to say I wanted to gaze and leer at other men's junk.

But be honest, you would leer at other mens' junk on the right day wouldn't you? If yes, how is it any different from a guy checking out a woman's breasts or ass?

To be frank, once a couple are dating their eyes don't stop functioning and their interest in the entirety of a gender doesn't vanish. It's human to stare at features you find attractive in another person. But what matters is of all the people on this Earth, he chose you and prefers how you look.

My boyfriend and I were over this before. I would GLANCE. I wouldn't stare for a long period, compare it to his, and fantasize about yhe guy later.

If he didn't tell you assuming he is doing is really what he does, and there are no particularly obvious signs he prefers other women to you (less interest in sex than usual, distancing himself from you, paying less and less attention) then you are simply projecting onto him behaviour you assume he is doing in order to justify how you feel. It doesn't solve anything.

Do you cover your eyes when you go to an art museum?
The human body can be beautiful,male or female.
Venus De Milo,Statue of David.
And if Shemar Moore walks by me topless,I'm gonna get an eyeful.Hell yeah!! !!

Ok, as you instructed me I've seen your pic. You look pretty and yes you have about the same cup size as I do, I see here. You have a beautiful feminine figure as in your pose, your legs and the shape of your butt are really pretty (I hope I don't sound too much like a lesbian now. For the record: I am straight as a line). Do not focus so much on that one single part of your body. This will make you feel uncomfortable in your own body and it shows. People who look like they're not comfortable with their own body are considered unattractive because in general it is reflected in their body posture and the way they move.. If you want people to find you attractive, make sure you feel comfortable with yourself. If this helps: A lot of super models as for your idol Taylor Swift, they are mostly pretty flat chested. Still they are considered extremely beautiful women. You will agree with me on that?

If you still feel self-conscious about your breasts: I seriously do not think that padded bras make such a difference when you take them off. They do not make your breasts bigger, but emphasize them a little more and make them look a little firmer. It is not that you have suddenly giant hooters and when you take your bra off you end up having nothing . Maybe you should consider buying one. I really wear them all the time and although I still feel flat mostly, I feel more comfortable when wearing them. But do not wear them if you don't feel comfortable in them... As I said, comfort is key.

Last edited by Maigheo on 10 Feb 2013, 3:50 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Those are PICTURES and STATUES. It's not the same as leering at a REAL PERSON walking by and thinking "Wow, I want to f**k her, her tits are so much bigger than my gf's!" and going home and fantasizing about it while you're with your partner later.

Whatever. Miss know-it-all teenager insists she's got it all figured out and it's all everyone else's problem. The only messages she likes are the ones that say men are jerks for liking boobs and how pretty she is.

Good luck with that.

And no, most men don't fantasize about other boobs when with their woman - they're too busy appreciating the boobies right in front of them. Quit insulting all men everywhere with your paranoia.

How many times do you need to be told you are merely assuming this about your boyfriend? And if he does fantasize about an imaginary woman now and again, women do the same about men. If you have very conservative values about such a thing then I would suggest finding someone else that shares such values. Having said that, the chances are your bf probably shares your values and this has been (excuse the pun) all blown way out of proportion. I don't mean to invalidate you but it seems no answer, no scenarion, no solution will make you feel assured other than you having massive tits and/or thinking the worst about a guy you're seeing that's only crime was to stare at a pair of tits.

Exactly. This girl just sounds crazy.

I go by a look but dont touch policy whenever im with a woman I know shes gonna look at other men from time to time and it doesnt bother me and I look at other women from time to time and it doesnt bother her. It sounds like insecurity issues and trust issue otherwise.

yeah, i agree. i don't go staring at other men, my boyfriend doesn't go staring at other women - even if they are scantily clad. and i am by no means perfect!! ! when a pretty woman with big boobs gets on the bus, the men aren't all transfixed and slack-jawed or something; most hardly even glance. but it's like... she's not hearing what people are saying.

She's just assuming that men's minds work the same as hers.



Seriously, is that not exactly what she's accusing guys of doing?

Pwned.