Het' bloke here. I've read few of the posts in this thread but I can never understand how personal health can be conflated with genetic determinants.
I'm short. If I'd kept fit between 11 and 19 and eaten a bit better I'd maybe be an inch taller, but still a short height. I don't have a great face, or an interesting face, or a face with much nuance to it. I played little part in having unremarkable features.
I exercise well, eat well and groom myself (come to think of the latter, I need to sort out this hair a bit!). I want to look decent as I age, be healthy enough to do the things I want, live long, and live a healthy enough lifestyle to maximise any positive things about my body. I am proud of what I've made with it.
I'm never going to be 6'4 with a brilliant jawline, but what I've come with genetically is me and that's the only thing I'd be OK with. I also want to present it well and keep it oiled. I wouldn't call fat itself a choice the majority of the time, but modicums of personal upkeep do partly come from choice whereas I will never be able to help my height any more than my skin and hair. What's more an athletic physique comes from a well-maintained lifestyle and healthy living can be common ground in a relationship. I greatly resent how much my height plays a part in me being eligible, but the most I let out about it is saying things like this once in a while and I usually prefer to spend my time making good of what I've got. Some people wallow so much in self-pity that it takes up all time and energy they could spend on taking the world on.
I wouldn't rule out dating a fat woman, but fat people I find attractive have been very, very few and far between. I don't like extra flesh like I'm not keen on a lot of loose clothing, unnecessary wires, whatever. Some of the best parts of my life involve sport, running and walking. I know they're not in the dictionaries of many slimmer people either and it's just a shame we hold such a sentiment of otherness to exercise. Some things I don't like aesthetically (a lot of slap), some things don't match in lifestyle (maybe she's hardly home), and flab usually fits in both with me. Conversely, I like thin women. Athletic runners' bodies are the best in the world to me.
'Spec to those dealing with weight problems. Oh! And for the record a woman's height wouldn't bother me, as for ugliness I have limits like almost anyone else but my idea of what's beautiful frequently doesn't agree with others. Like almost anyone else.