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11 Apr 2015, 11:16 pm
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
You have to create your own trends.
............That is, IF you can. You can always try but if you're not persuasive and charismatic, it's unlikely to catch on. Trend-setting is done successfully by people with social influence and/or people who have the intuitive knack for recognizing what people respond to.
If you want women to make the first move, your best option is online dating. IRL it is relatively rare. Anecdotes about a woman making the first move don't disprove my point. Possibility is not the same thing as likelyhood.
Hate to break it to you, your chances of being approached by a woman online aren't much better than your chances of being approached by a woman irl (if at all).
11 Apr 2015, 11:36 pm
Gauldoth wrote:
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
You have to create your own trends.
............That is, IF you can. You can always try but if you're not persuasive and charismatic, it's unlikely to catch on. Trend-setting is done successfully by people with social influence and/or people who have the intuitive knack for recognizing what people respond to.
If you want women to make the first move, your best option is online dating. IRL it is relatively rare. Anecdotes about a woman making the first move don't disprove my point. Possibility is not the same thing as likelyhood.
Hate to break it to you, your chances of being approached by a woman online aren't much better than your chances of being approached by a woman irl (if at all).
Hate it break it to you, but nearly 10 years of experience proves otherwise. I've gotten 10 dates on OKCupid in the last 4 years(including a srs relationship with someone I met there last year that ended but in any case she sent the first message)and in every instance, it was the woman who transmitted the initial message and not I.
In person that's a different story. Women who approach me in public places usually just want to chat or are simply flirting with me and nothing will come of it either way.
12 Apr 2015, 12:06 am
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
You have to create your own trends.
............That is, IF you can. You can always try but if you're not persuasive and charismatic, it's unlikely to catch on. Trend-setting is done successfully by people with social influence and/or people who have the intuitive knack for recognizing what people respond to.
If you want women to make the first move, your best option is online dating. IRL it is relatively rare. Anecdotes about a woman making the first move don't disprove my point. Possibility is not the same thing as likelyhood.
Hate to break it to you, your chances of being approached by a woman online aren't much better than your chances of being approached by a woman irl (if at all).
Hate it break it to you, but nearly 10 years of experience proves otherwise. I've gotten 10 dates on OKCupid in the last 4 years(including a srs relationship with someone I met there last year that ended but in any case she sent the first message)and in every instance, it was the woman who transmitted the initial message and not I.
In person that's a different story. Women who approach me in public places usually just want to chat or are simply flirting with me and nothing will come of it either way.
Hate to break it to you, but you're talking out your rear end. But hey, guys who stumble upon this thread, don't take my word for it. Go to OkCupid or some other site like that, set up a fancy profile with a nice photo (or as nice a photo as you can get, depending on your atractiveness) and an interesting, in-depth bio... then, after three years have passed and you still haven't gotten a single message, come back and talk to me.
Seriously, if you go on a dating website, count yourself if you even manage to get a woman to reply to YOUR approach.
Also, messages from other guys propositioning you for gay sex don't count.
12 Apr 2015, 12:24 am
12 Apr 2015, 12:42 am
Gauldoth wrote:
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
You have to create your own trends.
............That is, IF you can. You can always try but if you're not persuasive and charismatic, it's unlikely to catch on. Trend-setting is done successfully by people with social influence and/or people who have the intuitive knack for recognizing what people respond to.
If you want women to make the first move, your best option is online dating. IRL it is relatively rare. Anecdotes about a woman making the first move don't disprove my point. Possibility is not the same thing as likelyhood.
Hate to break it to you, your chances of being approached by a woman online aren't much better than your chances of being approached by a woman irl (if at all).
Hate it break it to you, but nearly 10 years of experience proves otherwise. I've gotten 10 dates on OKCupid in the last 4 years(including a srs relationship with someone I met there last year that ended but in any case she sent the first message)and in every instance, it was the woman who transmitted the initial message and not I.
In person that's a different story. Women who approach me in public places usually just want to chat or are simply flirting with me and nothing will come of it either way.
Hate to break it to you, but you're talking out your rear end. But hey, guys who stumble upon this thread, don't take my word for it. Go to OkCupid or some other site like that, set up a fancy profile with a nice photo (or as nice a photo as you can get, depending on your atractiveness) and an interesting, in-depth bio... then, after three years have passed and you still haven't gotten a single message, come back and talk to me.
Seriously, if you go on a dating website, count yourself if you even manage to get a woman to reply to YOUR approach.
Also, messages from other guys propositioning you for gay sex don't count.
12 Apr 2015, 12:44 am
Bondkatten wrote:
Seriously, what is the point of comparing the struggles of men and women? It is ridicules, we all have our problems or we would not be here on Wrong Planet. And don’t forget that dating/love is not simple for anyone; I doubt it is without problems for NT.
We all carry around a heavy baggage of experiences (good and bad), which influence us. For example if someone grows up with an abusive mother/father they will probably have problems. It happens that for instance a child of an alcoholic finds and marries an alcoholic. Sometimes we get stuck in old patterns.
Anyways I’m a woman with Asperger’s that has a partner, I have my experiences and I don’t know how it is for a man with Asperger’s . But I also don’t know how it is for another woman with Asperger’s since I have not lived their life; I can only live my own life.
It is silly to try to make other peoples experiences insignificant, because you cannot possible win anything by doing so (the only “win” that I can imagine is that it helps you to hold on to your beliefs of a dark pointless, chanceless world, so why even try since you are doomed to fail anyways…)
If you go around spreading hate and unhappiness then how can you possible expect to get anything else back in return?
We all carry around a heavy baggage of experiences (good and bad), which influence us. For example if someone grows up with an abusive mother/father they will probably have problems. It happens that for instance a child of an alcoholic finds and marries an alcoholic. Sometimes we get stuck in old patterns.
Anyways I’m a woman with Asperger’s that has a partner, I have my experiences and I don’t know how it is for a man with Asperger’s . But I also don’t know how it is for another woman with Asperger’s since I have not lived their life; I can only live my own life.
It is silly to try to make other peoples experiences insignificant, because you cannot possible win anything by doing so (the only “win” that I can imagine is that it helps you to hold on to your beliefs of a dark pointless, chanceless world, so why even try since you are doomed to fail anyways…)
If you go around spreading hate and unhappiness then how can you possible expect to get anything else back in return?
The name of the thread is "Why is Aspergers unattractive?", I simply pointed out that while that's technically true, it only applies to males, and that Aspergers has relatively little effect on women's attractiveness. And that's the truth.
As I said before, I refuse to say that it's all simply on an individual basis and that gender has no effect on it when it VERY CLEARLY DOES. You want to know what it's like for a man with Aspergers? Well, then let me tell you: it's a lot harder than it is for you.
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Nah, it wasn't propositioned for gay sex that often, and even when I was, I never accepted it.
12 Apr 2015, 12:47 am
Gauldoth wrote:
Nah, it wasn't propositioned for gay sex that often, and even when I was, I never accepted it.
Sorry Gauldoth, you're not my type. Get over it.
12 Apr 2015, 12:48 am
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Nah, it wasn't propositioned for gay sex that often, and even when I was, I never accepted it.
Sorry Gauldoth, you're not my type. Get over it.
No, I'm the type of guy who likes to speak the truth.
12 Apr 2015, 12:52 am
Gauldoth wrote:
Nah, it wasn't propositioned for gay sex that often, and even when I was, I never accepted it.
Gauldoth wrote:
Also, messages from other guys propositioning you for gay sex don't count.
Stop hijacking the thread with your homoerotic fantasies about me. There's a LGBT for this sh*t.
12 Apr 2015, 12:54 am
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Lazar_Kaganovich wrote:
Gauldoth wrote:
Nah, it wasn't propositioned for gay sex that often, and even when I was, I never accepted it.
Sorry Gauldoth, you're not my type. Get over it.
No, I'm the type of guy who likes to speak the truth.
Stop hijacking the thread with your homoerotic fantasies about me.
Easy there, Joseph Stalin. No need to let this escalate. You got called out on your bs by someone who wasn't towing the socially-accepted/acceptable line. Just deal with it.
12 Apr 2015, 1:13 am
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