aside from sperm, what good are men?

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We, men are more beautiful which makes every day more beautiful.

Well what I am hearing somewhat frequently from the females is that besides providing sperm, men make ok slaves. If they have basic handyman skills.

The troll has been ban-hammered out of here.

I've been asked out three times in my life.

1. First guy: My age and handsome, but I rejected him because I had been hanging out with a guy who my sister set me up with and I wasn't sure where that was going because he was sending me mixed signals.

2. Second guy: Same situation as with the first guy. The tragedy here though is, I knew this guy before I met the guy my sister fixed me up with, and he did not ask me out at the time. He only asked me out after we crossed paths years later when I was with the guy my sister fixed me up with. I wish he had made his feelings known to me when we had met the first time.

3. Third guy: About 20 years older than me by my estimate. I rejected him because I did not have sufficient attraction to him to overcome the generation gap and, differences in our lifestyles.

So there you have it. And that's why I think it's such a delusional perception that some guys have of women being constantly approached and asked out by guys. It's completely inconsistent with my life experience. I've only been approached by 3 guys in the 20 years I've been allowed to have relationships.

As for the guy my sister fixed me up with, we only work as friends.

men and women both can make good fertilizer if they are plowed into the dirt surrounding their recalcitrant village.

On a site full of people who have trouble recognizing sarcasm, you didn't think it would work?

Those are literally asking out but don't guys often initiate talks with you, especially online?

I studied in a male dominated field and while I talked enough to my classmates, it seems that none of them regarded me as someone to date. There was a guy who I thought might like me, and so I eventually gave him my contact information and told him to contact me if he ever wanted to go out sometime, but he never did.

Years ago, I gave one of those dating websites a try. I didn't get more than a few messages..some of them were from people with whom I clearly wouldn't be compatible (I didn't have filtering turned on because I wanted to be open minded) and none of the conversations ever went anywhere. The guys just stopped responding so I guess they decided I wasn't their type.

I'm not trying to sound pitiful or anything like that, it's just the fact of the matter that I don't generate much interest as a girlfriend or potential wife among men.

^ That happens when we lack attractive qualities for the most of the opposite sex or to be more accurate, we don't have the qualities that turn on most of the opposite sex (sometimes it differs greatly by demography).
It's an ugly truth that we often hide from it by overanalyzing, but I've learned to accept it.

and I don't think it's related to autism - I mean some ladies here complain that they always get attention from men.

Yes, you are right, I apparently lack some quality that men find attractive, or perhaps possess some quality men find unattractive. Some women radiate femininity, and some of them don't, regardless of how they dress, or their mannerisms, and I guess I'm one of the ones who just don't, and there really isn't much I can do about that. I just don't have that feminine glow and I can't pull off girly.

I realize we're a minority, but some men love this. I've always been very attracted to women who don't wear makeup or whom society considers "plain." Maybe it is very hard to find guys like me, but we are out there!

Truth is, that humans are not really that individualiatic as you may think when it comes to what is considered attractive.

Ever tried to approach different demographies?
For example, in my case, Asian girls find me extremely masculine , aftican girls do find me somehow attractive but with most demographies of Caucasian girls (except north africa)...not really, not at all.
I found out this staggering difference on tinder: when I set location in mixed areas, I got matched only with asians and africans, but never with caucasians.
Locally I match almost only with the Filpinas and Indonesians working here.
When I switched my photo with a fake one: of a guy model with six packs doing volley on the beach.
I got the total opposite effect:got matched with like 100 caucasian girls in one day but none was african or asian.

So I was puzzled, so I decided to test this further: on a different app (skout) and setting my real location, on this ap a guy can send chat requests, the girl can either accept the chat request or blocks the guy; you can know she blocked you if her name disappears from the list.

so I set two accounts: one with my real photo, and another with a fake photo (a guy with six packs sunbathing, hairless, has a very masculine looks) and in bio I claiemd to be a gym trainer.

And I set location as local and I virtually sent all girls online chat requests, Lebanese and Filipinas/Indonesians (it can be done fast), then with my fake account I sent chat requests to the same girls

.... and waited.

The results?

On my real account:
*ALL* Lebanese girls that I requested disappeared (meaning they said No) and *all* Asians replied.

On the fake account:
I expected that all of both will reply but to my surprise:
*All* lebanese girls replied, and only one Asian replied - all other asians disappeared. And that one Asian girl didn't respond further.

Scary, is it? As if there's a different hive mind over each community telling its members what to find attractive and what's not, and they all abide by it.

^ To bypass the captcha bug, remove all " in your post.

Men are probably more reserved, usually, about expressing their feelings than women. Women tend to be more demonstrative about expressing things like empathy/sympathy.

It doesn't mean men don't have feelings. It doesn't mean they lack compassion. It doesn't mean they lack empathy

Sometimes, being a good friend means encouraging people to try to move on from their problems (without being in denial), rather than becoming immersed in their problems.