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17 Jun 2019, 8:24 am
Marknis wrote:
I have to watch what I say constantly because I live in the Killeen-Temple-Fort Hood region. I am expected to root for Trump, be a member of the Jesus fanclub, and want the Middle East to be bombed or else I am a "socialist" who wants Bernie Sanders elected, am a Muslim or atheist, and want America to be flooded with immigrants. 
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't remember how many times I've told you this, but I'll say it again: get out if that awful place and go somewhere with some tolerance for diversity and even eccentricity. I'm speaking from experience.
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Sweetleaf
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17 Jun 2019, 2:53 pm
Marknis wrote:
I have to watch what I say constantly because I live in the Killeen-Temple-Fort Hood region. I am expected to root for Trump, be a member of the Jesus fanclub, and want the Middle East to be bombed or else I am a "socialist" who wants Bernie Sanders elected, am a Muslim or atheist, and want America to be flooded with immigrants.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't think any of those are the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. More problematic your plan to live at home forever, being miserable.
You have to do something to change your situation, or nothing will change ever. You should start looking into moving, if you hate it there and your family isn't supportive there is no reason to stay.
Yes moving is hard and you would have to probably save up some, you say you have a job so I am sure it is doable. You might need to find a room-mate, if you can't find a place to afford on your own. But you're an adult you can move to a place you like better and never even see your family again if you so choose, or you could keep contact if you want.
Also though talking on about your struggles and difficulties is not usually a good way to inquire about available singles. A better approach would be to talk about some of the things you like or enjoy or something related to what they've been talking about or just friendly chit chat, and then move into your interest in meeting someone. But not a bunch of negatives.
17 Jun 2019, 4:01 pm
Sweetleaf wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I have to watch what I say constantly because I live in the Killeen-Temple-Fort Hood region. I am expected to root for Trump, be a member of the Jesus fanclub, and want the Middle East to be bombed or else I am a "socialist" who wants Bernie Sanders elected, am a Muslim or atheist, and want America to be flooded with immigrants.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't think any of those are the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. More problematic your plan to live at home forever, being miserable.
You have to do something to change your situation, or nothing will change ever. You should start looking into moving, if you hate it there and your family isn't supportive there is no reason to stay.
Yes moving is hard and you would have to probably save up some, you say you have a job so I am sure it is doable. You might need to find a room-mate, if you can't find a place to afford on your own. But you're an adult you can move to a place you like better and never even see your family again if you so choose, or you could keep contact if you want.
Also though talking on about your struggles and difficulties is not usually a good way to inquire about available singles. A better approach would be to talk about some of the things you like or enjoy or something related to what they've been talking about or just friendly chit chat, and then move into your interest in meeting someone. But not a bunch of negatives.
I don't know how to get a roommate; I can't even get a f*****g coffee date. If a male roommate had a girlfriend, I would commit suicide.
My family and their friends are always bitching and griping about "liberals", "socialists", how they don't like how Trump is portrayed in media, and how their guns are being taken away but why is it ok for them to do so while it's bad that I want a girlfriend?
17 Jun 2019, 7:18 pm
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17 Jun 2019, 8:12 pm
Marknis wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I have to watch what I say constantly because I live in the Killeen-Temple-Fort Hood region. I am expected to root for Trump, be a member of the Jesus fanclub, and want the Middle East to be bombed or else I am a "socialist" who wants Bernie Sanders elected, am a Muslim or atheist, and want America to be flooded with immigrants.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't think any of those are the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. More problematic your plan to live at home forever, being miserable.
You have to do something to change your situation, or nothing will change ever. You should start looking into moving, if you hate it there and your family isn't supportive there is no reason to stay.
Yes moving is hard and you would have to probably save up some, you say you have a job so I am sure it is doable. You might need to find a room-mate, if you can't find a place to afford on your own. But you're an adult you can move to a place you like better and never even see your family again if you so choose, or you could keep contact if you want.
Also though talking on about your struggles and difficulties is not usually a good way to inquire about available singles. A better approach would be to talk about some of the things you like or enjoy or something related to what they've been talking about or just friendly chit chat, and then move into your interest in meeting someone. But not a bunch of negatives.
I don't know how to get a roommate; I can't even get a f*****g coffee date. If a male roommate had a girlfriend, I would commit suicide.
My family and their friends are always bitching and griping about "liberals", "socialists", how they don't like how Trump is portrayed in media, and how their guns are being taken away but why is it ok for them to do so while it's bad that I want a girlfriend?
Well I know there are plenty of adds on craigslist, and there may be other sources for ads like that where someone is seeking a room-mate. Or maybe you could find a place you can afford on your own...I suspect rent may be cheaper in your area than here in Colorado.
Also no ones saying its bad for you to want a girlfriend, but you can't just keep your life on hold waiting for one...as you can see that hasn't been working for you has it?
17 Jun 2019, 8:26 pm
Sweetleaf wrote:
Marknis wrote:
Sweetleaf wrote:
Marknis wrote:
I have to watch what I say constantly because I live in the Killeen-Temple-Fort Hood region. I am expected to root for Trump, be a member of the Jesus fanclub, and want the Middle East to be bombed or else I am a "socialist" who wants Bernie Sanders elected, am a Muslim or atheist, and want America to be flooded with immigrants.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't have a very consistent social network, no one in my regular life I tell about my struggles to knows anyone single (I always hear about friends setting up their friends but it's never happened for me), and I don't keep up with pop culture, celebrity drama, reality TV, and Fox News. These things are largely why I don't have a girlfriend and feel like I am doomed to forever singleness.
I don't think any of those are the reasons you don't have a girlfriend. More problematic your plan to live at home forever, being miserable.
You have to do something to change your situation, or nothing will change ever. You should start looking into moving, if you hate it there and your family isn't supportive there is no reason to stay.
Yes moving is hard and you would have to probably save up some, you say you have a job so I am sure it is doable. You might need to find a room-mate, if you can't find a place to afford on your own. But you're an adult you can move to a place you like better and never even see your family again if you so choose, or you could keep contact if you want.
Also though talking on about your struggles and difficulties is not usually a good way to inquire about available singles. A better approach would be to talk about some of the things you like or enjoy or something related to what they've been talking about or just friendly chit chat, and then move into your interest in meeting someone. But not a bunch of negatives.
I don't know how to get a roommate; I can't even get a f*****g coffee date. If a male roommate had a girlfriend, I would commit suicide.
My family and their friends are always bitching and griping about "liberals", "socialists", how they don't like how Trump is portrayed in media, and how their guns are being taken away but why is it ok for them to do so while it's bad that I want a girlfriend?
Well I know there are plenty of adds on craigslist, and there may be other sources for ads like that where someone is seeking a room-mate. Or maybe you could find a place you can afford on your own...I suspect rent may be cheaper in your area than here in Colorado.
Also no ones saying its bad for you to want a girlfriend, but you can't just keep your life on hold waiting for one...as you can see that hasn't been working for you has it?
I wouldn't want a redneck or hip-hopper to be my roommate, though. Both demographics have called me a "p****" or "fa***t" too many times and I can't stand the smell of cigarettes and beer (My older brother has made me hate beer completely) as well as the country and rap music their respective demographics like.
Someone here (Luhluhluh) has told me to give up wanting a girlfriend and I can't let go of it because the depression I suffer from took root when I was 17 but I didn't have a girlfriend while my siblings and most of my male classmates had one. I also can't stand seeing couples wherever I go and that's largely why I don't go to the gym very often; I have gone recently but I hate how the "tough guys" can talk to the girls while I am told I can't.
18 Jun 2019, 4:00 am
18 Jun 2019, 7:58 am
cyberdad wrote:
So Marknis, would you be willing to drop your standards and approach a girl who didn't quite look like a model?
You would be opening up your opportunities
You would be opening up your opportunities
I am not aiming for women who look like super models. I find women on the geeky/nerdy side more attractive but most women in my area are not either of those things and the ones I do know tend to already have a boyfriend or are married.
18 Jun 2019, 8:12 am
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