Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough

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And that's why I broke up with him. I wasn't attracted to him. I didn't strung him along and leer at other men and compare them to him like guys do with women. "My girlfriend is flat chested, but I guess she's okay and better than nothing." I didn't act like that. I realized I didn't like him and broke it off quickly.

PM me a pic of your chest, I tell you if they're good or not.

I am a boob expert.

No. Showing them to another guy (except a doctor during an examination) bare is cheating. Plus I already know they aren't good. My boyfriend said society will say a lot of s**t I shouldn't take to heart but I can't help it.

so then, here are your options:

a. he likes women with small breasts best of all, or he likes yours because they are attached to you, or he likes all breasts and doesn't care about size. in which case: no problems here.

~OR~

b. he likes women with big breasts better but he settled for you (just like you did to that guy). in which case: you have a problem. potential solutions:

1. break up with him because you are obviously second best.
2. stay with him because you don't think you deserve better anyways. meanwhile, continue to make mountains out of molehills.

tastes are individual, and only he knows what he prefers. anyways, you are not believing him no matter what he says. that is a pattern here. we told you for almost 20 pages that men have all different tastes but you are choosing to ignore us too. seems like you don't believe anybody who tells you something that runs counter to your deeply-held beliefs, even if that new information is to your advantage (and even if that information could save both your relationship plus the money that a boob job would cost).

Cosmetic breast enhancement is surgery and can decrease the overall sensitivity of your breasts, making it harder for your guy to turn you on and harder for your guy to bring you to climax.
The same amount of nerve endings ( hopefully ) are spread over a larger area, and thus your sensitivity there is decreased.

"Making mountains out of molehills"... Sounds like what I need :p He says mine are perfect for him so I guess I shouldn't have a problem. I guess the problem is me and what most men seem to like based on every poster, men's commercial, etc. with a woman, having a woman with good boobs.

And if you need a 2nd opinion, I got a A in Biology once

^^^ That would be true for B if the only thing he loved about her was the boobs.

What if he loves everything about her and chose to stay with her even if he has a small preference for larger boobs? Wouldn't that make him a BETTER boyfriend, rather than a jerk "settling" for her?

Considering the accusations he's been putting up with, I think he's been a dang hero for sticking it out this long!

Don't say "A" - she's sensitive enough about it!


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...That are surgically enhanced or airbrushed

Lolz like Keira Knightly. She's a beautiful successful woman who doesn't mind having small breasts but even so, they were airbrushed on a magazine cover to her surprise.

Stop comparing yourself to women in the media!

no, because then he would be settling for someone he isn't attracted to. she would be an exception in his mind, and he'd be likely to jump ship at the first "better prospect" that came along, probably someone with bigger boobs.

Even if they ARE airbrushed, what does that mean? That good boobs are best and wanting somone with small ones is perverted and weird, and having small ones is sad and pitiful.

I'll say it again - loves everything about her (including the boobs) even if he has a small preference for big'uns.

He went outside his normal preferences and found something he still liked anyway. This does not mean he'll automatically jump on any girl with bigger boobies, nor does it mean he's "settling" at all.

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WHAT?Wanting a women with small breast is perverted???????
You think you are sad and pitiful?????
Talk to a woman with no breasts,a cancer survivor.
You will see a strong sexy survivor.
If you think your breasts define you,then add more to your brain.Let that define you.
Smart is sexy,self pity is not.

I didn't say that's how I felt. I said that's what society and the media seem to want us to believe.

it depends on the situation. the situation you seem to be referring to is covered more clearly in my choice a.... he likes yours because they are attached to you. in that situation, he loves her and the breasts are not too relevant, or maybe he has come to love all breasts.

but in some cases, people do "settle" (like what the OP did) for people they are not as attracted to, then break up or trade up as soon as someone better is available. it's a potential consequence of dating people that they are not as attracted to - they may end up setting for someone that doesn't really float their boat. it happens.

Are you going to fall for what the media wants you to believe?

Like I love business and all, but those companies, magazines and media images that give sexual images seem to have a target audience of prepubescent boys. Most grown men would say that they look for other things in a woman, like a fun personality, humour, or intellect. Wouldn't you be insulted if someone told you that all women are just interested in [insert media portrayal here]?

But I get the sense that you're smart enough to question media images. So I'm not quite sure... Listen to Noam Chomsky or others who criticize the media for more reasons why it gives people a distorted sense of reality. You're not alone in having a bad body image because of the media - a psych prof of mine did a study on it. Women in general tend to get lower self esteem after seeing beautiful, thin women in the media. In fact, it is a major trigger of eating disorders in women. Just be wary of it by educating yourself on how these women got to look the way they do and by building your sense of self esteem.

It sounds like you may have body dysmorphia. I don't know. It's been twenty pages and you're still not convinced, so it's best to sort these things out with a counselor.