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18 Jun 2019, 9:02 am

"beggars can't be choosers"



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18 Jun 2019, 9:03 am

^ But did he even say that he can be a chooser?

The OP is not a child, he surely knows that he can't get anyone remotely similar to a model.



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18 Jun 2019, 9:12 am

I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women tend to fall for a guy based on personality & intelligence, and not looks. My last BF was by no means conventionally good looking: pot belly, glasses, shortish, balding, 14 yrs older than me. And I was crazy for him. Fat or hunky, any guy projecting insecure, self loathing thinking isn't appealing. That's where to start.



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18 Jun 2019, 9:16 am

red_doghubb wrote:
I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women...
Correction: Some reasonable and smart women...

Even the smartest and most reasonable women I have ever met have admitted to getting all 'aflutter' at the sight of a fit and well-proportioned young man.



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18 Jun 2019, 9:17 am

Fnord wrote:
red_doghubb wrote:
I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women...
Correction: Some reasonable and smart women...

Even the smartest and most reasonable women I have ever met have admitted to getting all 'aflutter' at the sight of a fit and well-proportioned young man.


Most. Fluttering's got nothing to do with "want as a partner".



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18 Jun 2019, 10:06 am

red_doghubb wrote:
Fnord wrote:
red_doghubb wrote:
I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women...
Correction: Some reasonable and smart women...

Even the smartest and most reasonable women I have ever met have admitted to getting all 'aflutter' at the sight of a fit and well-proportioned young man.


Most. Fluttering's got nothing to do with "want as a partner".


Any reasonable and smart man, should realize that it’s much better to go for a woman who find him very sexually attractive; otherwise it’s a recipe for cheating or being dumped like a hot potato once she finds someone closer to her sexual fantasy.
Those men who believe in the stupid myth “men’s looks don’t matter to most women” have bought into this common false belief that their looks don’t matter at all and it’s ok if the woman doesn’t find them much sexually attractive (this false belief is common among women too), this never ends well.

Talking from experience here.

Read about Tinder statistics, check the tinder experiments on the net, it is the DEFAULT dating app nowadays, what more proof do you need?



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18 Jun 2019, 10:13 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
red_doghubb wrote:
Fnord wrote:
red_doghubb wrote:
I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women...
Correction: Some reasonable and smart women...

Even the smartest and most reasonable women I have ever met have admitted to getting all 'aflutter' at the sight of a fit and well-proportioned young man.


Most. Fluttering's got nothing to do with "want as a partner".


Any reasonable and smart man, should realize that it’s much better to go for a woman who find him very sexually attractive; otherwise it’s a recipe for cheating or being dumped like a hot potato once she finds someone closer to her sexual fantasy.
Those men who believe in the stupid myth “men’s looks don’t matter to most women” have bought into this common false belief that their looks don’t matter at all and it’s ok if the woman doesn’t find them much sexually attractive (this false belief is common among women too), this never ends well.

Talking from experience here.

Read about Tinder statistics, check the tinder experiments on the net, it is the DEFAULT dating app nowadays, what more proof do you need?


This is absurd!

What happens when looks fade?

Hopefully, y’all want someone with more depth than that.



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18 Jun 2019, 10:15 am

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What happens when looks fade?
Isn't it amazing that people's looks begin to fade at about the same time their eyesight begins to fade too?



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18 Jun 2019, 10:17 am

I've known women whose looks haven't "faded" even as they reach their 70s and 80s.

I've also known women who have better looks in the 50s than they did in their 20s.



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18 Jun 2019, 10:23 am

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What happens when looks fade?


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18 Jun 2019, 10:25 am

I’m saying that if looks do fade, hopefully, one’s partner isn’t going to run out and have an affair.

People can make be attractive in other ways. It doesn’t just come down to physical appearance.



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18 Jun 2019, 10:27 am

magz wrote:
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What happens when looks fade?



LOL



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18 Jun 2019, 11:57 am

red_doghubb wrote:
I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women tend to fall for a guy based on personality & intelligence, and not looks. My last BF was by no means conventionally good looking: pot belly, glasses, shortish, balding, 14 yrs older than me. And I was crazy for him. Fat or hunky, any guy projecting insecure, self loathing thinking isn't appealing. That's where to start.


I have seen girls with boyfriends who either look like Humpty Dumpty or are stereotypical "neckbeards" but they seem to be in the extreme minority in the area I live in. Fat redneck and hip-hoppers tend to have fat girlfriends. Why don't I go for those two? Well, both of those kinds of women want a "Christian man" and both are anti-intellectual.



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18 Jun 2019, 12:11 pm

Marknis wrote:
red_doghubb wrote:
I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women tend to fall for a guy based on personality & intelligence, and not looks. My last BF was by no means conventionally good looking: pot belly, glasses, shortish, balding, 14 yrs older than me. And I was crazy for him. Fat or hunky, any guy projecting insecure, self loathing thinking isn't appealing. That's where to start.


I have seen girls with boyfriends who either look like Humpty Dumpty or are stereotypical "neckbeards" but they seem to be in the extreme minority in the area I live in. Fat redneck and hip-hoppers tend to have fat girlfriends. Why don't I go for those two? Well, both of those kinds of women want a "Christian man" and both are anti-intellectual.


How would you define an “intellectual?”

You generalize people to an extreme extent. Most people don’t fit neatly into specific categories as your posts seem to suggest.



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18 Jun 2019, 12:25 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
magz wrote:
Twilightprincess wrote:
What happens when looks fade?



LOL


That is sooo funny!


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18 Jun 2019, 12:38 pm

Twilightprincess wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
red_doghubb wrote:
Fnord wrote:
red_doghubb wrote:
I know some men choose not to believe this, but reasonable and smart women...
Correction: Some reasonable and smart women...

Even the smartest and most reasonable women I have ever met have admitted to getting all 'aflutter' at the sight of a fit and well-proportioned young man.


Most. Fluttering's got nothing to do with "want as a partner".


Any reasonable and smart man, should realize that it’s much better to go for a woman who find him very sexually attractive; otherwise it’s a recipe for cheating or being dumped like a hot potato once she finds someone closer to her sexual fantasy.
Those men who believe in the stupid myth “men’s looks don’t matter to most women” have bought into this common false belief that their looks don’t matter at all and it’s ok if the woman doesn’t find them much sexually attractive (this false belief is common among women too), this never ends well.

Talking from experience here.

Read about Tinder statistics, check the tinder experiments on the net, it is the DEFAULT dating app nowadays, what more proof do you need?


This is absurd!

What happens when looks fade?

Hopefully, y’all want someone with more depth than that.


For a 30-40 people, it doesn't fade, I am talking as a 37 years old guys, I am sure the way I look at relationship would change after 20 years or so and so my hormone levels.