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01 Jan 2017, 4:55 pm

Stop mansplaining Boo /sarcasm


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01 Jan 2017, 4:56 pm

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That's understand and I have similar thoughts.

But you should accept this is highly likely to be a deal breaker for many guys, including some of your crushes.


That's a shame. For me, a woman wanting kids is a deal-breaker. She could be absolutely flawless in all other areas and I'd still reject her without hesitation. No kids! :evil:


Why not make yourself infertile? Via surgery or...if you can't afford that, something else...

If she's 'absolutely flawless in all other areas' that would mean she'd still be interested in you even after finding out you can't have kids, correct?

- No smart alecness or attitude intended. Actually curious.


Uh... maybe don't take "flawless" too literally. I just meant if she was a solid partner but refused to back down on the whole kids thing.



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01 Jan 2017, 5:22 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Stop mansplaining Boo /sarcasm


Man debating a woman = mansplaning.

Woman debating a man = no problem.

/sarcasm.

lol



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01 Jan 2017, 6:15 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Not wanting a boyfriend is completly different than wanting a boyfriend yet not getting one.

Therefore those who don't want a bf shouldn't be counted.

Please know the difference - it is huge.


Everyone counts, we all deserve respect. Please do not patronise me.


It has nothing to do with respect or patronizing - it's about logic: "willingly not wanting a partner" and "wanting a partner but failing to have one" are not the same level of struggle at all, that if you consider the former as a form struggle.

The first type are content for being single forever, but the second type are not at all....how this can be the same?


Yes there is a difference, but for the purposes of this thread the op asked if anyone else had never had a boyfriend and mamafrankie hasn't and therefore can be counted. The op doesn't say if she does or does not want a boyfriend in the first post so we can't know the meaning.



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01 Jan 2017, 6:15 pm

Anyway, to be fair, let's request a clarification from WantToHaveALife:

WantToHaveALife, does the bold part include the women who are single by choice? Or are you referring only to the ones who are struggling to have a boyfriend?

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No offense and don't take this the wrong way, but it kind of makes me feel better whenever i hear of women that are in their 20's and beyond who have never had a boyfriend than the other way around, because it seems women are far less at risk than men are at being perpetually single because women don't have to be the initiators. Any women in their mid-20's and beyond who have never had a relationship before



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01 Jan 2017, 7:50 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Anyway, to be fair, let's request a clarification from WantToHaveALife:

WantToHaveALife, does the bold part include the women who are single by choice? Or are you referring only to the ones who are struggling to have a boyfriend?

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No offense and don't take this the wrong way, but it kind of makes me feel better whenever i hear of women that are in their 20's and beyond who have never had a boyfriend than the other way around, because it seems women are far less at risk than men are at being perpetually single because women don't have to be the initiators. Any women in their mid-20's and beyond who have never had a relationship before


the struggling part, because it seems women are less at risk of being single that long because women don't have to be the initiators



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01 Jan 2017, 11:41 pm

There are some women who are involuntarily single.


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02 Jan 2017, 7:52 am

So I was right, the OP isn't referring to the single women by choice.

The context is clear if you think about it; the OP is asking if there are as many women as the single guys who never had a gf here on L&D - any active member here knows very well that these guys aren't single by choice.

Opposite to the Women's forum where there are plenty of women who state they're single by choice and happy for it, there's no abudance of "I don't want a girlfriend" guys with the same attitude on L&D.

So my argument was correct.

That what I mean by "not to be counted" = single women by choice should not to be counted as equivalent cases to the guys who are involuntary single.

Because the two cases are completely different.



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02 Jan 2017, 8:05 am

Absolutely correct Boo! You may now commence gloating!


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02 Jan 2017, 8:16 am

^ Do I win a cookie?



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02 Jan 2017, 8:23 am

Yes.


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02 Jan 2017, 8:24 am

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02 Jan 2017, 8:25 am

Me, but never really wanted one either.


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02 Jan 2017, 8:30 am

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02 Jan 2017, 1:58 pm

Boo is typical of most men - always has to be right.


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02 Jan 2017, 4:57 pm

Yeah. Funny how most men care about facts.

Men always have to be right.

The man who designed the breaks on your car always has to be right because if it he gets it wrong, you'll crash.

The man who designed the wings on a jetliner always has to be right because he if gets it wrong, you'll fall out of the sky.

So why are men always obsessed with getting things right? Accuracy is so overrated don't you think?


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