Why do you think a relationship will make you happy?

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I've been here about as long as you have, but I've grown tired of the general ASD discussion. Maybe it is because it is the same things coming up all the time, and the same objections are raised against mainstream "knowledge", so it feels like things are not advancing. Participating in political discussions is a total waste of time (unless you have fun doing it), because people never change their minds anyway.

I'm mainly in L&D because I don't think I've figured everything out in that area yet. Also, I've decided to first focus on this area research-wise because it is the area which has the poorest knowledge in society (and among researchers), and also the area where the most profound differences can be found.

True. NTs are reasonably intelligent and act in their own best interests in a rational way. When they're by themselves.

When you get them into a group, the groupthink begins. That's why the world's dumbest ideologies come from groups.

I don't feel I absolutely NEED a relationship to make me happy. I have seen how that attitude led to a lot of trouble for people. Being in love with the idea of being in love, so to speak, is not healthy. I would like to find someone who shares my beliefs on the big things of life and somebody who accepts me for who I am, while still believing in my capacity to grow. I don't want to be discarded, limited or overprotected because of my differences.

What I mean that most mental conditions in the DSM wouldn't exist if humans were totally groupthink-free.

The reason why a mental variation like AS is determined as "condition" is because it's a deviation from the norm - what's the basis of the norm again? on the humans' groupthink of course.
AS and its ilks and all these psychiatric labels which lack genetic and organic proofs of their existence... are mainly socially constructed.

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I think what you say could be true in some cases.

However, in many others, there is a true "autistic condition."

If you have a problem with it, take it up with Alex.

Like Red Pill forums...

I'm just going to pull this out because it's a good comment. I totally agree. It's a very balanced view recognising how humans are and how we have the capacity to grow.

I noticed the same thing. But by being biased against men, they're contributing to WrongPlanet's decline, already underway. Because if aspie men feel unwelcome on their own support site---and 4 times more men have Asperger's than women do---mods will cause men to run into the arms of the Red Pill, the very community the owner and management of WP despise. Which results in the complete opposite of the desired goal.

But if someone was racist don't you think society should point out that the attitude is not conductive to a happy functioning society?

If an aspie guy is showing attitudes that are going to cause him issues isn't it fair to point out that he s going down the wrong path. Off he's causing disruption to the communication on a forum a d hammering his own point constantly taking things off topic isn't it ok to give him a warning and ban him if he won't cool it?

Red Pill stuff is very aggressive and angry and bitter. It doesn't foster peaceful relations. Why should we as a group pretend that it's beneficial?

I went to visit the red pill forum. It's pretty dark. Made me unfriend someone I know on Facebook because he's into that stuff.

I don't want to associate with someone who thinks so little of 50% of the population.

I don't think you understand how it actually makes people feel. It's a darkness. I know you feel marginalised on here, but your words so make other people feel marginalised. Especially when you take threads that were ticking along nicely like this one off topic to drum your own biases into us.

So. I've actually had this argument with people before it's pretty dark/interesting. The truth of the matter and this is coming from someone who actually went through a red pill phase is, I consider redpill to be well, basically opening pandora's box. It shows people that they are actually inside the matrix in a sense and that well things are not as clean as they would like to think. However rather than use the redpill as a way to find a mate or relationship, I believe it's a way to weed out bad candidates. The issue isn't that red pill is mean/or dark towards women moreso it point's out that in this day in age people are mostly blinded by the idea that "game" from men and tactics from women is a natural thing.

I think both are versions of emotional abuse that lead to creating this most dysfunctional relationships you ever thought possible. Sometimes both people stay together but in today's day and age it mostly doesn't happen. I think redpill isn't meant to be angry but the people who discover it are, I think what people should take from it is that stupid people fall into stupid patterns that are abusable, don't use it to involve yourself with stupid people ( and yes it could literally be 70% of the population in there) use it to meet someone who is above it and can think for themselves.

And as a recently confirmed AS I gotta say I love this site.

Better yet, please leave us be and wait until Alex shows up and sees this thread.

I don't think PUA discussion is specifically mentioned in the actual rules. If he has a problem with it he'll tell us.

Everything you just said can also equally be applied to extremist Feminists (who are far more accepted here) and the progressive left/"SJWs".

They've disappeared in to the ether these days though. Not much of that going on. I remember a while back when there was a feminist derailing all the l&d threads.

Ok fellas, agajn....why do you think a relationship will make you happy?

Because the same way getting diamond made me happy in league. It was something I wanted to not stress over ever having to get, something I needed to get out of the way of the checkbook of life. Also, I can't stress enough people who think a relationship won't make them happy normally are sheep or follow a lot of the normal rules of social situations.

When you find a girl that falls in line with what you look for (this list should be small and reasonable people also j/s) it changes your world if you really want that. It's the same thing as good exercise for the body. A non toxic relationship is amazing and makes tons of people happy. It's red pill, or common relationships that are the ones that make you feel like you are in prison.

TLDR

Being in a real relationship with a non sheep person will 100% make you happier/happy if you can find someone like that UNLESS you have things in your life that would totally destroy it from the ground up. (Think playing a game but with a sh***y connection that drops over and over versus, you not being THAT great at playing the game)