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*backpedal backpedal* now that you e been called out for strange creepy behaviour that should Never be dispensed as relationship advice to anyone, ever.

Strange creepy behavior ... belief in telepathy ... made-up "evidence" ... what next?

The thing is, I've shared a large number of links I like (many which she evaluated and liked or not), I've written 1000s of posts for her, and she follows me on several forums, very likely including this. She sent me 10 new "letters" just after I posted the background info here (that goldie failed to read). She has sent me a large number of letters and short messages from a dating site, containing many of her preferences. She has shared many links and groups on Facebook.

So, it is hardly the case that we don't know each other. Rather, we know each other very well.

That's cool, then.....

As long as she reciprocates.

I don't think that is up to you to decide. Your credibility is approaching zero when you fail to correct the assumptions you've made on faulty evidence. I suppose you learned to gossip too when you become NT. Not a nice trait, IMHO.

I think goldie and fnord are just jealous. If things go well, I could end up in a very worthwhile long-term relationship. We don't need to talk about feelings. We can set up meetings at a distance (and change them, or tell we are late). If one of us get in trouble, the other will know immediately. If we visit an unknown place, we can go separate ways and find each other easily whenever we like. We will know each other's wishes and desires without having to talk about them, especially if they feel uncomfortable to talk about. If we are in a company, we could exchange information & opinions without anybody knowing, so we don't have to wait until afterward. It's a dream come true for somebody that is ND, and well worth the effort behind it.

I can very well understand if they don't want anybody else to experience this either. That would make their NT adaptions in the relationship area seem rather dysfunctional.

No, lately, we usually part ways at the train station, and then I sit at a distance and watch her train leave.



Nope. I knew she was at that location, and so did several measurements at a distance and plotted them on a map. I then told her about the location in cryptical terms in a post. After that, we have met several times at the nearby shopping center. We also walked on a nearby beach a few times during summer. We visited an event at another nearby beach.

do u think people on the spectrum should be legally banned from reproduction just curious

oh and i met my gf by her walking right up to me and talking to me directly that was it and all

I haven't had such luck. I've had to actually "do the work" to get a date. I guess my 5 foot 5 frame has something to do with that.....

No.

But I don’t think it’s appropriate to donate sperm with the hopes that you make NT’s lives difficult with a low functioning ASD child.

I really don't think the Spock guy was serious when he said that.....

Oh I get what this is doing now.

Every single guy = creepy & desperate. Simple as that. Blacklist. Goodbye. Now that dating is reduced to a finite pool of yes/no votes, those of us personally invested in the real world are pariahs.

Trouble is, this is the only way anyone ever decides if they're not single. It's 100% arbitrary, always was, has been & will be. The only legitimizing factor is when 2 or more people jump on this train of thought.

Guys being honest about our thoughts = creepy. We know that & it's the primary driving force behind 'toxic masculinity' - we're taught to be ashamed of our biology.

Your biology doesn’t make you a creep.

Your behaviour may, though.

Would you stop perpetuating this double standard? There is no female equivalent I can think of & it does nothing to reconcile anybody.

If you're purporting to be helping the rest of us, start by not dragging us through the mud.