anna-banana wrote:
sunshower wrote:
Interestingly, I don't know if I could marry someone who was "loose" with money and also has little of it (1+1 = me supporting their lifestyle). In the same extent, I could never take and live off someone elses money because it would be completely wrong.
yeah I'm not saying what is wrong and what isn't, only that I think it's human nature that eventually the person who "sponsors" the other person somehow would want to use this as an argument to make them do something they wouldn't want to do. so I imagine that such a situation would be extremely uncomfortable for someone independent. I guess I haven't met many females who wouldn't mind a situation where they are not equals.
True - I'm being a bit judgmental and black and white to state that. On further contemplation I would say that people could compromise on these issues according to who was responsible for looking after the children, and if people with different means married each other it would be ok so long as the person with the lesser means wasn't leeching off the person with the greater means.
I agree that stability is very important - you don't want to marry someone who is a compulsive gambler or drinker and will gamble/drink all your money away. You don't want to marry someone who can't also work/support a family by some means because then the responsibility falls too heavily on your shoulders (unless the people who marry are in the same situation with regards to being unable to work, and thus responsibility won't fall fully on one side).
At the same time though, I do fully think it's very important that the woman partner in the relationship pulls her weight and also works to earn money to add to the combined income (or individual incomes depending on preference), with the exception being in having children - if the partners come to a compromise where one partner stays home to look after the children and either doesn't work, or cuts their hours back to part time/works from home, and the other person takes heavier responsibility for the monetary support. Looking after children, especially when they're young before they go to school, is very important because children need that emotional support and attention.
What my mum did was that she first quit her job, but then after we started going to school she started a business from home, and at first only opened two days a week, then as my brother and I got older she expanded the business, employed extra staff, and got a shop premises - open 6 days a week.
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Into the dark...
26 Jun 2009, 6:09 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LU13MRtS ... re=related
You could make that arguent about looks. If you are physically attracted to someone isn't it the same thing in a way.
