The Male beauty standards: Harder to get?

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Looks may sound superficial, but any sociologist will tell you that better-looking people are treated much better. Good-looking children are treated as though they are more capable by teachers and by their peers, the first impression the average joe gets of from a good looking kid is much higher, subconciously the average person is more likely to find this type of child smarter than your average peer.

The reality is that good-looking people draw more attention, they are among the first noticed in a crowd. If they don't meet people's expectations, they run the risk of getting a negative attribute attached to them.

Appearance is only one way of getting noticed.


M.

LPP, one thing I do get bothered by a lot when I think about it - its realizing that there are a lot of guys out there who could be in their mid 30's even and still look like they're in their early to mid-20's. I'm kind of in there, not quite that bad, the reason that bothers me so much is how f***ing cold it is, just in the more holistic sense that their forced into being some sort of genetic anachronisms. It doesn't help with life at all, if anything its something more of a barrier, not quite as nightmarish as the Benjamin Button idea, but I think you can get the drift. I really don't know how well or how bad a lot of guys in that situation deal with it or if they struggle with my sense of it, just that in a world were so much of 'maturity' is visual or skin deep - IMO its a very blighted life to be permanently 10 or 15 years out of phase with your own age group.

I think the issue with aspie guys is that no one cares about men. I was an aspie guy so I know first hand. In the unsuccessful world no one cares about men, in the successful world men have the upperhand. Men experience lack of sympathy towards them because everyone is born unsuccessful. This is why most homeless people are men, because someone would take in the woman. I remeber being a man and my car got broken down and no one came to help me, I was 18 years old. I was on the side of the road for hours and I had to call someone to come pick me up. Six months ago, I got a flat tire, when I was a woman as I am now, and within 3 minutes or less someone was there to help me. I would've never gotten this treatment and curtousy have I been a man.
If a girl walks down the street by herself someone would come and say "you need a ride". If its a guy, no one would say anything. There are many men who date and marry unsuccessful women (as in have no job, car, etc), but no one wants the guy like that.
I often have meltdowns in public. When I was a male and had a meltdown, at 18 people usually looked at me strange, but a couple weeks ago I had a meltdown and someone came to ask me what was wrong. When Im all by myself people ask me whats wrong, or why Im so lonely. had I been a male, no one would ask me anything. I can recall someone offering me a dollar when I was a male and waiting for my friend outside of a gas station, they thought I was a bum.
But when it comes to the successful world men get paid higher. Also in the celebrity world. No matter how good a woman is at something, the male in her range will always be a little bit more favored. Michael Jackson and Elvis will always have an edge over Madonna who is just as good.
So it equals out. My advice to aspie guys is to stop trying to change your personality and looks and get some money in the bank, because our/your social skills arent good enuff to compete with men who have better social skills. Also if you have money, you'll have an easier chance at the dating game, than the avergage guy with great social skills. Just use your asperger's to its advantage and get a great career. Yes its easier for girls who have asperger's, I would know, and we all know that, so lets not lie to ourselves. But it will be easier for you all if you became successful, because society glorifies successful men, and just give the suceesful woman a pat on the back, no big deal. and you'll also have more pretty women around, cuz thats what you guys want, and every guy wants that. Girls know men want pretty women, so the pretty ones go for the men who are successful. Shallow? well we all are. so just get your lives together finacially and you all should be fine. and teher's nothing wrong with wanting a pretty girl.

but make sure she's now using you for your money and whatnot

I like the point you make Ms Doubt, men have to demonstrate some manliness for anyone to take interest in them, and stoicism is a main feature of manliness, so men in a lower situation have no business complaining to begin with.