Any experiences with Mail order brides?

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I know of about 10 ladies from the Phillipeans that work where I do. All of which are here in the US because they married a very old, or unattractive man. A couple of the ladies are married to men old enought to be thier grandfather. They are both extremely attractive and dress, as well as talk, like a bunch of 16 year old school girls. (perhaps this is what happens when you learn your english from watchin MTV?) I find thier behavior most irritating. Their constant giggling at work makes me want to go hang myself.

I like Russian women.

Fair comment, but I personally couldn't get married to someone who I barely knew, therefore am not in love with, and then let him consummate that marriage by being physical with me, the idea just disgusts me, but other people obviously manage it pretty well otherwise it wouldn't happen.



Well, if you truly believe that this will make you happy and you will get something out of it (and so will she) then I wish you the best of luck. It's not my belief or choice personally, but then I'm not you.

The problem is, arranged marriages are not the norm today in most industrialized countries. I personally am appalled that some women would be so desperate for security that they would put themselves up for sale to complete strangers living 10,000 miles away instead of marrying the "normal" way. There is a huge possibility for these women to be exploited (although I'm sure you're a decent guy, some men out there are really sick).

I get frustrated finding a guy to date, so I know how it feels to be frustrated. I would suggest being friends first with a girl, then see if it goes anywhere.

First off...wtf with the first mailorderhusbands.net? They look inbred....

Second off....I think I found the man of my dreams in www.bridesagency.com....


Errrr...wait I hope this one isn't a criminal...

This one is funny:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9EoYfSM ... L&index=47

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it's a marriage for pure benefits.

I would look gorgeous on that site.

I couldn't do it. Not only would I feel I was forcing the woman to be with me, but also that she would leave once her tenure was up.

An uncle of mine has a Chinese wife that I'm pretty sure is mail-order. He kept quiet about it for a long time until she could speak some English. She's a nice lady.

I really couldn't imagine this working out. Firstly, that two people are compatible for marriage without ever really knowing each other first is not very likely. Secondly, if the situation goes badly, only one side is in the power. The other has to quietly and subserviently put up a front of how great the situation is, as I presume divorce would mean deportation.

I'm paranoid about getting a mail-order bride, because of the horror stories I heard. Being used for citizenship may be the least of my worries. But if I were to get a mail-order bride, I'd most likely go the South American route, as opposed to the more stereotypical ones. Russian women may be gorgeous, but most of the ones I met were emotionally cold, and I found it difficult to feel comfortable around them. So Russia is out. China is out too, despite the nice things I heard. I'm just not physically attracted to Asian women. (Don't get me wrong, I respect them as people, it's the attraction that's not there.) And honestly, if I'm going to mail-order a bride, I want to think she's hot as hell.

I did, however, have great experiences with South American immigrant women. They seemed emotionally warm, and easily opened up as soon as they felt comfortable in my presence. I also like the South American culture in general. They have more liberal social boundaries than Asians or Russians. This does not imply promiscuity in any way, it just means you have a bigger margin of error with standing too close and/or touching someone too quickly. Also, I know how to speak Spanish, which will let me communicate easily with my new wife. (However, the Mexican Spanish I know may be quite different from the South American Spanish.)

With all of the Mexicans and others living in the US illegally, it seems to me that there ought to be a decent market for brides among the population that is already hiding here.

Thanks for the recommendation. Excellent movie!! !

Following WWI, there must have been millions of available spinsters in Europe.

There was an article I read awhile ago in a magazine about a "mail order" bride where it worked out very well, but in that, it wasn't like they didn't know each other at all, it wasn't random or anything. It actually seemed an awful lot like it worked like a dating site. They may have actually met in person prior to deciding to actually do it, too. If both people are honest and want the same things, I don't think it's an entirely bad thing. Granted, you can't know that they both are, but that's true of ANY relationship. There are also plenty of horror stories of marriages between people who met at work, at school, at a bar... etc, etc, etc. If someone is well-off enough to afford a mail-order bride to begin with, I'd say that there are plenty of American women who would be happy to take advantage of them too. People are people wherever you go.

In college, there was a Pakistani girl in my class who was expecting to get into an arranged marriage. I guess family-arranged marriages are different, but she was really looking forward to it. Someone asked if she absolutely has to marry the guy her parents pick for her, and she said if she like hated him or something, they wouldn't force her.. but she also seemed to think the idea that she's completely hate a guy her parents liked that much to be fairly silly. She was quite close to her family, so I'm sure that changes things too. She had an older sister who was in an arranged marriage and was apparently happy with it.

If it's the kind of thing where you talk to the person ahead of time and stuff, it's probably a lot like internet dating sites. I think there are even some marriage sites.. usually religiously oriented, though, I think.