why you are a virgin?

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18 Sep 2009, 3:03 pm

Middle-aged men (well around *here* anyway) are generally (note the disclaimer) overweight, have huge guts, are balding and/or greying, are horrendously boring and conservative, and probably require Viagra to get it up. In a word: repulsive.

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18 Sep 2009, 4:01 pm

Why I'm one? The opportunity has never arisen, aside for once. But it wasn’t in till I turned 18 when it became harder for me not to desire having a girlfriend and experience an intimate relationship. It was like a switch was suddenly flicked on in my brain, I couldn't understand why I suddenly became like this.

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18 Sep 2009, 4:08 pm

It just never happened , in a conservative and religious country like mine, I realized that most guys (around here) lose it first with escorts/prostitutes/sluts. Despite being sexually normal (like ..can be sexually turned on , do have fantasies), liberal and atheist myself , I was never eager to do it and I still so . Back to the university times, I was 'invited' several times by colleagues to go with them to brothels/nude clubs nights , I was never interested.

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18 Sep 2009, 4:10 pm

anahita wrote:

At my work one of my college and I are single (others are married) ,this single man and our boss are new in our workplace, in the first day work of my boss he impolitely said to both of us(in front of other colleges) both of you must marry! After that day I have a trouble to communicate with my single college and I can’t look at him have a very bad eye contact.(I have a ruined social interaction in general and my trouble becomes double).I am very introvert and mute, it causes others find me very special which I can’t hide it, most of the time my boss admire college(you are very good looking ,gentleman ,and every girl wants to be with u!!) today my boss said to him that there are so many of our costumers who ask about your marital statues , you have so many votaries,) actually I think he is so crazy that can say so idiotical things. In the other side he say to me you area strange girl (he admire him and abject me, I am so jealous to all of them.
This is my only wish “ to be enough brave” to tell them:

Yes this the way I am and what can you do?
You created a monster inside me
I hate you as you hate me
I don’t want to be one of you
It is the reason I will never connect to none of you(NT) in no way .

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt67972.html

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18 Sep 2009, 6:22 pm

Why am I virgin? I could list a million things. I have no friends(well, real friends anyways), I've never had any girlfriends or have been in any relationships, I'm very shy and socially awkward so I can never make anything happen, I live in a solitude, I don't know any girls who would be interested in me in that way, I'm not exactly a winner so it's not like any girls are knocking at my door. Lastly, I've never been that interested in sex to begin with. I can live without it, I already have anyways. So in conclusion, I will probably be a virgin for a very long time unless by some miracle, a girl is actually interested in me and likes me for who I am and can put up with my flaws. I'd be willing to put up with hers.

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20 Sep 2009, 6:20 am

Danielismyname wrote:

'Because I haven't had sexual intercourse with someone before.'

Seems like a simple enough question to answer.

^ my answer too...haha :lmao:

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21 Sep 2009, 1:51 am

Janissy wrote:

Shebakoby wrote:

yeah but I'm not hot anymore so there goes that idea. Men that age want 20something blonde bombshells. Not a slightly overweight former blonde. Besides, someone that much older than me, I don't think I'd like that. Too much temptation for them to try to treat me like a child.

And in THIS town? Many men that age DRINK. I do not want an alcoholic.

Don't throw in the towel so easily. Yes of course men that age want 20something blond bombshells. I suspect that a great many men of every age want that. They also want Angelina Jolie, Paris Hilton, and whatever attractive woman was on the billboard they just drove past. But it's not going to happen. They will probably try. Unless they are wealthy or have some other magnetic quality, they will fail. Those women are just a fantasy. 20something blond bombshells do not mate up with middle aged men unless there is something fairly significant in it for them that makes the middle aged men more attractive than the 20something handsome men who are actually in their league. And there usually isn't. Who is actually in the middle aged single man's league? Divorced middle aged women. Divorced middle aged women some of whom are inevitably slightly overweight and all of whom are former [whatever their hair color used to be]. You, by comparison, are younger. That matters. Slightly overweight you may be, but so are the other women who are actually in their league.

If middle aged adult men are having to settle for something other than 20something blonde bombshells, it's not going to be me. I have certain 'immature' characteristics and quirks that would surely turn them way off. They'd sooner go for the mature ones that don't like Transformers, and don't insist on watching Cartoons.

And also I must add there is NO way I'm getting with a divorced man. I don't want to deal with the ex. And I sure as hell don't want to deal with kids that are not mine. Brady Bunch material I am not. Kids tend to get resentful of new people in a parent's life and there is no way I am having any of that.

Janissy wrote:

I must admit you are absolutely right that a middle aged man will probably do some age-based patronizing. But is that really so bad? It would be annoying sometimes, but it is impossible to be in a relationship without ever being annoyed. And there must be some who aren't alcoholics. Just drinking doesn't make you an alcoholic. Being a slave to it is what makes the alcoholic.

It would drive me crazy. I have a serious issue with being treated like a child. My parents do it. No way in hell will I let a potential partner do it.

No, 'just drinking' doesn't make one an alcoholic...but getting drunk frequently does.

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21 Sep 2009, 7:22 pm

Because I fail to connect with people.

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21 Sep 2009, 7:50 pm

Shebakoby wrote:

They'd sooner go for the mature ones that don't like Transformers, and don't insist on watching Cartoons.

And also I must add there is NO way I'm getting with a divorced man. I don't want to deal with the ex. And I sure as hell don't want to deal with kids that are not mine. Brady Bunch material I am not. Kids tend to get resentful of new people in a parent's life and there is no way I am having any of that.

I need female friends like you in "real life."

\m/

My nephews adore me, because I can relate to them. They tell me that I can't really be 41, because I act like a kid. They're absolutely right. When I look in the mirror, what I see doesn't jibe with the person I am within. How the hell did this happen? I was *supposed* to stay 5 (or 12, or 16) forever, ffs.

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21 Sep 2009, 8:16 pm

wigglyspider wrote:

Henriksson wrote:

I'm not interested in the whole 'sex thing, in fact I'm quite appalled by it. However, I would like a relationship that lasts for a lifetime.

Dude, marry me.

edit: oh no wait, don't, I just saw your profile. We'd never get anything done. *epic procrastinator*

lol

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21 Sep 2009, 8:29 pm

Shebakoby wrote:

Janissy wrote:

Shebakoby wrote:

Janissy wrote:

Shebakoby wrote:

the most basic being the overwhelming pre-emptive rejection from guys. And by pre-emptive rejection I mean, the way they treated me all through the years made it clear that I wasn't going to get anywhere with them. Not that I tried, after puberty.

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When you say "all through the years" are you talking about childhood? I just ask because you said "not that I tried, after puberty". Just for the record, boys are supposed to reject you before they hit puberty. It's a natural developmental phase. I think you should try again, if you are up for it. I've written too many posts pleading with men to not categorize all women according to experiences they have had in the past. This applies to women not categorizing men, too. There is no such thing as pre-rejected. Just as all women are individuals, so are all men. Those you have known are not predictive of those you have yet to meet.

It started in the childhood years. It CONTINUED after puberty. And since it was every single boy that I encountered in school, you'll excuse me for generalizing.

And this was two different sets of schools.

Why would I try after puberty if all the boys AFTER puberty hated me and made it abundantly clear?

You're an adult now. Men are different from boys. Give them another try. Here's a girl-tip (hopefully not too NT girly). Give older men a chance. Men who are older than you will automatically give you attractiveness bonus points just for being younger than them. You are 36 (I looked). Turn your eye towards the middle aged men. Yes, the single ones are probably on the rebound from a divorce or are confirmed bachelors, but that doesn't mean you are pre-rejected by them. The fact that you are younger than them is a bonus in their eyes- truth! And your inexperience is not percieved with the negativity that it would be if you were a man of the same age.

actually guys wanting "blonde bombshells" is such a cliche and often untrue stereotype.
some prefer brunettes, some prefer redheads.

and you don't have to be a "bombshell" for people to find you attractive. looks are only half of the equation.

for example plenty of girls your age are still finding people to be with. it's a fact. it's not impossible.
my mom's like 40 and she found a few boyfriends after my parents got divorced. the current one's working out nicely.

and wanting to watch cartoons and stuff, and being silly isn't going to put the nails in your coffin either.
it can be pretty cute haha.
my stepsister's like that and she just got married not too long ago.
so i've thwarted your second excuse.

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22 Sep 2009, 12:51 am

Partly because I'm shy, partly because I move so darned slowly. I think in terms of months or maybe years of getting to know a woman first, while normal guys think, talk, and act in terms of days or even hours.

No sane woman has the patience for me.

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22 Sep 2009, 2:00 am

Quote:

Paris Hilton

Eeeeeeew! No.

Quote:

Angelina Jolie

Hmmmmm? No. But she's a fellow pilot and a philanthropist so I'd love to meet her some day.

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22 Sep 2009, 2:03 am

Because I never had a girl to begin with. I really want to experience these sexual things with someone I love, but I don't think I will ever be able to...

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22 Sep 2009, 9:16 am

Would prefer to be in love, but realize how difficult it is to meet someone you love inside and out even for neurotypicals. In the meantime, only interested in casual sex with very attractive women.

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22 Sep 2009, 7:26 pm

I'm a virgin because I can't find a girl who wants anything to do with me. :cry:

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