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17 Mar 2010, 7:37 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Postures wrote:

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My shyness only makes me look brooding and scary.

Brooding guys are ALWAYS hot

Just think of Heathcliff!

Are there women like you, except in the US?

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In my opinion shyness, awkwardness and obssesions are good Aspie traits to play up. Personally I find them adorable and I'm sure there are plenty of other women who do too.

So does that mean that a very awkward approach where the guy wants to just run away and hide the whole time could still work? because that's what id be doing the whole time i tried to approach a woman (at least for when i was trying to ask her out, otherwise i'd be fine with it)

I'm sure there are plenty women in the US who find shyness etc. attractive

Think of it this way, if the girl likes you, she's just as nervous as you are in the situation. Besides "approaching women" doesn't necessarily have to equate to asking her out straight away. It could just be a way of establishing contact for the first time.

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17 Mar 2010, 7:42 am

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Well that's good because I am pretty old in goat years.

But really? Shyness, awkwardness, and obsessions are the good traits? I completely would have guessed bad hygiene, bitterness, and misogyny as the traits to play up.

Are those traits sexy, too? :wink:

If your woman is a complete vegetable with no self-esteem then yeah, those traits are sexy as hell

Seriously though, a lot of NTs are also shy, awkward and have obsessions. I am pretty obsessive and am content with solitude (for now). I'm just good at pretending I'm confident

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17 Mar 2010, 9:31 am

Postures wrote:

Seriously though, a lot of NTs are also shy, awkward and have obsessions. I am pretty obsessive and am content with solitude (for now). I'm just good at pretending I'm confident

So Postures, how NT are you really?

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17 Mar 2010, 11:45 am

I am NT

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17 Mar 2010, 7:14 pm

It's a slippery slope!

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17 Mar 2010, 7:48 pm

Postures wrote:

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ToadOfSteel wrote:

Do they find us attractive enough to approach us? Or at least give us signals we can actually understand that let us know that it's perfectly okay to make an approach ourselves? Because most aspie guys, myself included, are worried about what could go wrong...

This is the webcomic I link whenever I want to explain what goes through our minds, and I've used it a couple times in wrongplanet posts:

[img][650:173]http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/creepy.png[/img]

Ironically, the little dude's cartoon thoughts are actually what happens to me... women seem to be turned off by me...

I doubt all women are turned off by you.

You would be surprised...

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17 Mar 2010, 7:52 pm

Postures wrote:

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ToadOfSteel wrote:

Ironically, the little dude's cartoon thoughts are actually what happens to me... women seem to be turned off by me...

I doubt all women are turned off by you.

Then how come I don't get any indications that there's a woman that isn't? I don't see any indication that there's any woman at all that is even interested, nor do I get any comments by other guys saying "dude, <x> likes you!", at least since high school (and those times were just guys trying to bully me)...

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18 Mar 2010, 12:51 am

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Hey ToS~

Attraction isn't an entitlement. Some people just get more. It sucks and the rest of us are left wondering 'hey, where's mine?' It just doesn't happen overnight. All we can do is work on becoming people 'we' like being with. The rest will follow, but it can take time.

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