10 Nov 2010, 3:06 pm
nick007 wrote:
I'd like to move to another area but don't have the money or independence skills to rite now. I'd be willing to relocate most anywhere if I found someone & things got serious. Trade school wouldn't work for me because of my bad vision & motor-skills. The trades here for things related to offshore like mechanics, welding, truck-driving ect. Louisianian's been having lots of financial problems & our republican governor is planning on running for president in 2012 so he's been slashing all the social services partially health-care & education so he can afford to give tax-breaks to the rich corporations. When Bobby Jindal is not doing that; he's in other states campaigning instead of trying to fix things in Louisiana. He's a Bush wannabe 
I'm not sure another state would be that much better for me thou because I've chatted with lots of people in other states who have physical or mental disabilities & they have a very hard time finding jobs & relationships as well
I'm not sure another state would be that much better for me thou because I've chatted with lots of people in other states who have physical or mental disabilities & they have a very hard time finding jobs & relationships as well
Oh man... I didn't know La. was that messed up (just somewhat). Jindal sounds like a dream come true for the current Washington Republicans
. Most of the prospects on that side for 2012 are scary. We just got a new Republican Governor here and not too many are happy about it since the state was already turning to sh!t... Anywho...
I have to agree that other states aren't all that better. It really depends on their state government and what's more important to the politicians in power. Sadly cutting taxes and fighting affordable health care are more important right now. I'm in FL and the job treatment for people here in my opinion sucks (non-union friendly, at-will state, lower salaries. basically you have to kiss major ass and have a social personality to keep a job or get a promotion.). As for disabilities I can't personally tell you if the state's benefits are good or not. I believe there's a program here for people with physical/mental disabilities that helps them find work (FL Division of Vocational Rehabilitation).
02 Dec 2010, 11:04 pm
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03 Dec 2010, 2:03 am
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First of all the Cancer analogy is a perfect analogy for your situation... It has NOTHING at all to do with cancer.... The Mental Illness you struggle with is like a cancer to a relationship with a person who does not have those same issues. so it illustrates my point very well. BUT I do concede my point because I was being judgmental. I came out of a relationship 4 years ago with a woman VERY much like you describe yourself to be.... I guess that's why I commented and had such a passionate angle. I am not that way... and the woman I dated totally shamed herself and destroyed her kids by dating and being engaged 7 times in 4 years with three husbands in that same time frame. She had Dependent Personality Disorder like Susan Smith who had it so bad she drowned her kids in a lake just to be with her boyfriend. My ex dated guys like me who had other issues... lol not issues like hers. Maybe that is the key! To find someone Unhealthy in a similar way that you/we uniquely struggle... I know this from experience. Someone like you, finding someone who does not display those traits usually leads to "Jerry Springerville" major heart ache and frustration. Your point about being able to relate with and understand the other person seems to make sense. Especially after trying so hard to go against the mental Illness grain and be like someone society deems as healthy . I wish you well. I grew up in a home with a Mentally Ill mother so seeing kids in homes where they are affected by that mental illness really tugs at my heart. I try to "fix" instead of cope... Never was able to fix mom. Had to cope with it her entire life... It often SUCKED! I Loved her with all my heart... That's my issue... One of many! I wish you the best Nick!
I understand what you meant by the cancer analogy now. I'm really sorry about your ex & mom. Maybe you were with your ex because you couldn't fix your mom
Sorry if I'm getting too deep here.
This may sound contradictory to stuff I've said but I don't think anyone can fix someone else. We can try but we can only help if the person wants to fix themselves. I think acceptance is a big part. People should not get into relationships if they can not accept the other as they currently are because trying to force em to change will only cause problems. Sometimes a person can be helped the most by simply being accepted & having someone stand by em; that's how it is for me. I want to fix myself instead of having anyone trying to fix me.
03 Dec 2010, 2:23 am
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03 Dec 2010, 3:30 am
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hale_bopp wrote:
You said you like immature girls... and don't have standards.. have you considered dating a girl with Downs Syndrome (And NO i'm not making fun of you, I am serious) If the answer is no, then thats cool, but its just an option.
I don't know much about Down Syndrome; haven't met anyone with it. If we could communicate & understand each other OK I might would consider but I do NOT want to feel like I'm using or taking advantage of anyone; rather be alone instead
I'm not suggesting that. You seem like a caring guy so I don't think you would be taking advantage of people.. just an option.
Thanx. I'm glad some women think so. A couple people on other sites have suggested that I find a woman in a homeless shelter
That seems like picking out a dog at the pound. Someone else told me to develop a good drug connection Some people can be extremely callous I want something more real than that
03 Dec 2010, 3:35 am
nick007 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
nick007 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
You said you like immature girls... and don't have standards.. have you considered dating a girl with Downs Syndrome (And NO i'm not making fun of you, I am serious) If the answer is no, then thats cool, but its just an option.
I don't know much about Down Syndrome; haven't met anyone with it. If we could communicate & understand each other OK I might would consider but I do NOT want to feel like I'm using or taking advantage of anyone; rather be alone instead
I'm not suggesting that. You seem like a caring guy so I don't think you would be taking advantage of people.. just an option.
Thanx. I'm glad some women think so. A couple people on other sites have suggested that I find a woman in a homeless shelter
That seems like picking out a dog at the pound. Someone else told me to develop a good drug connection Some people can be extremely callous I want something more real than thatWell finding people who are so despearte for something they will have you in general is a bad idea. Drug addicts and homeless people will possibly take you for all that you're worth and skive off.
Of course not all are like that, but the desperation factor for basic needs or addictions is not a good way to start a relationship.
Have you been to any churches or youth groups? They are a good way to meet people.
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