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06 Jul 2010, 5:32 pm

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Well, people have never done anything physically to me, thankfully. I've been interrogated about my non-existent love life though, bombarded with questions like "Ever had a boyfriend yet?", "Who do you like?", "Who was the first person you liked?", "Are you gay?", "Have you even kissed someone yet?" etc. Usually by other girls, sometimes by boys. It makes me extremely uncomfortable, because I've never had a relationship yet, and don't want one, because it's middle school and no one's really mature yet. It's not even any of their business. Unfortunately, having no relationship means you're gay to them, which isn't the case. One more year of these people, and then off to high school. I heard it gets better in high school, is this true?

Ah, the questions. I found that generally if you ignore that it stops because they get bored. Anyway, high school, yes and no. It is better in that the majority of the student body is more mature than they were in middle school, especially the girls. I had a high school teacher once remark about how he was surprised any girls survived middle school at all because they're so mean to each other. However, there will always be those people who mature slower. Those are the ones you have to watch out for.

Thanks for answering my question :] I have tried ignoring it, and that works for the most part; they're beginning to lose interest. However, it still come up from time to time, and it always flusters me.

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Once two girls who were friends of some "friends", who turned out not to be real friends, added me to msn and pretended to want to date me. They told me they would suck me off at the same time, and I could have two girlfriends at the same time. They went on about this for a month. Even harassing at school telling me they "loved" me and what not. They told me the things that would drive them crazy, and so on, but they were just doing to get a laugh.

That's horrible! I've never had anything that bad; the closest thing I had like that was the two boys on MSN, and they were probably just bored and haven't messaged me since. I hate it when people try to mess with those they consider 'below' them. How did you get them to leave you alone? Did you say anything or did they just get bored?

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06 Jul 2010, 8:16 pm

Probably but I never fell for the bait and just assumed they weren't serious to begin with.

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07 Jul 2010, 3:24 pm

When I was much younger it happened a couple of times. This sort of crap really only happened in middle school for me and not really since.

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07 Jul 2010, 3:30 pm

Yay for truth or dare! Only way a girl you were with 2 years earlier who hates your guts will come up to you and tell you she wants you back. I didn't buy it though.

A little off-topic but that's not even the worst I've ever had to deal with. On a church youth group trip, lick Chris' elbow or the bottom of Bryan's shoe....yeah they picked his shoe. After that all dares involving me were off-limits because they were too cruel (for the girls...not me).

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07 Jul 2010, 4:07 pm

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Yeah, I've had similar experiences. Not the exact same as the one you mentioned above, but similar. I don't know why people like to bully so much. I mean, I know that teachers and the like say that they bully to make everyone feel 'small' like them, but I feel 'small' all the time at school thanks to them, and I don't bully others.

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07 Jul 2010, 5:03 pm

yes... my bus rides home in elementary school and middle school were full of this. at first i didn't get it... and was the laughing stock of the entire bus... then it just became painfully embarrassing and i opted to walk home instead

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07 Jul 2010, 8:14 pm

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It was like that for me the first time this happened; I said yes, because I wasn't sure what else to say, and my friends told me to accept his request. Then, two days later he told me and the entire class it was all a dare and that he'd never go out with someone like me under normal circumstances. Everyone had a good laugh, except me. Since then, I quickly refuse all requests to 'go out'. I doubt I've broken any hearts though, because most of the boys that try to pull this have never spoken to me except to ask for a pencil or make a rude comment.

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08 Jul 2010, 6:13 am

When I was between 11 and 14 at school (I left after that) this used to happen to me all the time, all the most popular girls would take turns in asking me out as a joke or a p*ss-take.

They got a lot of very unpleasant comments in return.

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08 Jul 2010, 9:09 am

Yep, happened to me in what was then called junior high ( now middle school). Back in 1978 there was a girl who feigned an interest in me. She displayed false affection towards me for the benefit of her friends. Stupid me went along with it, knowing all along her intentions were never real. It just felt good to walk hand in hand with a girl. As she eventually realised that I knew her affection for me was fake, she stopped playing her game. A few years later in high school, she walked home with me and apologised for what she did. I forgave her.

Later that year she dropped out of high school because she was pregnant with her boyfriend's baby. She was 15 years old.

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08 Jul 2010, 10:34 am

A couple of times in college.

One night freshman year, some girls got drunk and knew I liked one of them. Invited me over. Tried to attack me. One big sick joke.

Then shortly after that, another girl one night sent me a message saying I was cute and was being all really nice. But never would admit to who she was. So I thought it was a joke and got pissed off. Then it got played off like I was the jerk.

Sophomore year I had some girl saying her best friend slash roommate thought I was cute and wanted to go out with me. Saying she was really shy and I should make a move for it. But, she had a boyfriend at the time. That ended up one big blowup situation as well.

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08 Jul 2010, 10:49 am

Quartz11 wrote:

Sophomore year I had some girl saying her best friend slash roommate thought I was cute and wanted to go out with me. Saying she was really shy and I should make a move for it. But, she had a boyfriend at the time. That ended up one big blowup situation as well.

That happened to me and it was my first girlfriend

But I don't think anybody felt it was a joke.....I'll probably never know for sure. She wrote me a letter saying her absentee boyfriend had come back and that she loved him....she asked me not to get in touch with her again because she didn't want me to get into problems, and because her mum would ground her if she found out about me. Sounds plausible but maybe I was just used.

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08 Jul 2010, 12:04 pm

Yes but only in middle school. I rejected them outright because they weren't my type anyway, which made them look lame to their friends. Depending on the mood I was in, I would say "no thanks" or completely rip them to shreds. My friends started to defend me after a while. "Come on dude, leave her alone. She's too good for you anyway." They were right anyway.

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08 Jul 2010, 1:14 pm

many many times. i'm to the point where i just ignore girls now, because i really don't have time to play the game. since i can't discern people's intentions, i just avoid it altogether.

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08 Jul 2010, 1:41 pm

I'm surprised to hear people as adults have experienced this. Wouldn't think at that point it would matter very much. Your world expands from a few hundred (your school), to millions. People come and go so quickly from your life that nobody has time for these kinds of jokes.

Right now, if a woman I'd want to get with asked me out, I would go for it without hesitation. It's not like she could do anything to me that would last. And for my sake, if I do hesitate, I might never see her again and have blown a good opportunity.

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08 Jul 2010, 11:51 pm

Some guy at the factory that I used to work at, asked me, if I wanted to marry him, as a joke. I was really grossed out. I was 21 at the time, and he already had a girlfriend, that he got pregnant, who was about to have her baby, any day.

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09 Jul 2010, 10:14 am

deadeyexx wrote:

What happened to me really doesn't matter anymore, it was over 30 years ago. It exists as an anecdote in my life now. I've been married for 20 years now and have children of my own. If I were single, I'd probably have the same mindset as you and take the risk.

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