Im a aspie who never even had a girlfriend and im 17

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yes but women don't really compare in the sense because, well they don't have to do all the work, as the saying goes
they can just look pretty and get hit on

I don't wear make-up, or have a nice hairstyle - I just have a standard hairstyle. And I don't think I'm that attractive, and I give off negative vibes (well, according to other females), but NT men still seem to fancy me. I was once texting 3 men at one point, and they were all asking me out, but I had to take my pick and tell 2 of them that I wasn't interested (and they were disappointed). But the one I went with is the one I still have now. And he's a NT.

I wouldn't be too bothered if I didn't have a relationship. It's all this finding the right job lark what is stressing me out big time. Having a man is the last thing on my mind, to tell the truth. But I can't keep him away.

Well, I've had a birthday since I last posted in this thread. So now I'm the 28 y.o Aspie who's never had a girlfriend. I feel unique, I gotta say, even among Aspies, because it seems a lot of you have had relationships.

I am 34 and never had a girlfriend and I don't think this makes me a bad person. Sex is not everything you know.

This thread emphasizes what I've believed for some time about WP: many people here - like the OP - only have very mild version of Aspergers, that probably causes few, if any, real problems, except, maybe, having a quirky little hobby or two.

Many, many, NTs haven't had a girlfriend/boyfriend at 17. In fact, a significant number of NTs - those who are overweight, spotty, shy, psychologically damaged, etc. - haven't had a girlfriend/boyfriend at 27.

For example:

http://neverhadaboyfriend.org/about/

When I was 17 I was so disconnected from reality that I didn't know what a girlfriend was - seriously - and, as this was 1983, I was obviously undiagnosed.

Luckily (if that's the right word) I 'fell into' some relationships in my twenties, by faking being normal and being in the right place at the right time. So, yes, I've had some great sex, and I've had girlfriends that other men wished they could have, but I never felt I was 'there' emotionally, only physically.

In fact, I've never made an emotional connection with a woman, i.e. romantically. Until a few years ago my AS was just too severe for this to be possible. I hope it's not too late for me now.

So 17 year-olds diagnosed with very mild Aspergers, who are in the same boat as most NTs, need to get some perspective!

I turned 38 in July 2010, and I'm still single without a girlfriend. I'm a special decent chap. Most of my NT-peers are married with or without children.

I've known some of my peers have humiliated me for still being single, but they don't understand I'm an aspie. But to hell with any NT-or aspie woman, who doesn't want me as their boyfriend/my first-ever girlfriend .

Internet dating websites are fake and profit out of people's loneliness.

I was 21 before I had my first kiss'

funny thing was I got to 2nd before I got to 1st
some game of baseball lol

lots of NTs didn't have a gf at 17. I used to worry about never having had a gf in my mid twenties, but then I got a job, some self esteem, had a gf and realized it was no big deal really. You will get there too eventually.

I'm 17, but I never really care much that I've never had a girlfriend. I'm going into marine biology, and I feel I won't be able to go anywhere with a wife and family, unless I end up marrying another biologist(highly unlikely). I think it would nice to have someone other than family who cares about me, but if I never get in a relationship, I won't complain. I'd love to have or adopt kids(world doesn't really need more people) too, but, again I won't complain if that never happens.