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Is sex only for two people who love each other?
Yes and I am a man. 16%  16%  [ 15 ]
No and I am a man. 43%  43%  [ 40 ]
Yes and I am a woman. 14%  14%  [ 13 ]
No and I am a woman. 28%  28%  [ 26 ]
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30 Aug 2010, 10:34 pm

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@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/

@Pistonhead - So it's impossible to maintain any standards after losing one's virginity? I don't believe that.


Well maybe if you got to know some sluts and whores you would find that they were actually great people and then that might alleviate your fear of sex. idk


Uuum, I would prefer not to know those kinds of people. I already have pressure from my peers to have sex and it's really annoying and even if I didn't fear it, it wouldn't do me any good. Mom would render me homeless if I lost my virginity so it's not going to happen, okay? :/


Your mom would bale out on you just because you had sex? Are you absolutely sure? I ask because it sounds like you are getting a lot of unhealthy messages from home. It also sounds like she has too much control over your life.

A lot of people with Aspergers also have parents who have similar features so that explains it.


Well, Grandma kicked her youngest son out for being gay because, "he would be affecting the children." My brother and I were 12 and 13. We already knew and didn't care. I know she controls me but if I were to say anything of the sort, she'd deny it all so what's the point? I just don't want to risk being homeless because of her dogmatic Christian views. D:



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30 Aug 2010, 10:34 pm

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It makes no sense to have sex for fun, just like it makes no sense to eat for fun.


I'm going to go next door and buy a snickers just for the fun of it.



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30 Aug 2010, 10:34 pm

Well, JohnisBlind, I guess that just proves that I'm a true Aspie and you're not. :thumleft:



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30 Aug 2010, 10:36 pm

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Well, JohnisBlind, I guess that just proves that I'm a true Aspie and you're not. :thumleft:


Eating food for the fun of it is an Aspie trait?



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30 Aug 2010, 10:38 pm

Like I've said before Erisad, on the topic of sex you're just plain ignorant. Just because you use it doesn't mean you abuse it.


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30 Aug 2010, 10:39 pm

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@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/


There's technically nothing wrong with being a slut (i.e., a woman who has (had) multiple sex partners). Sexual purity isn't and shouldn't be the only virtue that defines you as a person.

But kudos for not jumping on the sex-obsessed bandwagon. :thumright:


Yes there is. If one is a slut then they aren't taken seriously about anything. Want that promotion at work? Nope. Only if you sleep with the boss because everyone knows you're a slut. As a slut, you're only viewed as a free hooker. Yeah, nothing wrong with that at all. D:


Oh, come on.

I hope you're at least not one of those people who thinks being a serial monogamist is better than being a hooker.


They're pretty much the same thing only one gets paid and has the potential for multiple partners an evening. D:



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30 Aug 2010, 10:41 pm

Good girl. Keep up the consistency and godspeed.



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30 Aug 2010, 10:42 pm

No, love is not required for sex. Some prefer the two to be together, but I do not always want love with sex.


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30 Aug 2010, 10:45 pm

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Like I've said before Erisad, on the topic of sex you're just plain ignorant. Just because you use it doesn't mean you abuse it.


That's pretty much what I've been taught. There's a lot more risk for girls when it comes to sex. The guy can f**k all he wants and never have to worry about raising a child. After all, knocking up women and leaving them is the popular thing for men to do nowadays. I know there's contraception and such but there's no 100% guarantee that it'll work. For me, if I use it I lose everything. That's why it's just better for me to stay ignorant about sex right now. :/



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30 Aug 2010, 10:46 pm

Erisad wrote:
JohnisBlind wrote:
Erisad wrote:
JohnisBlind wrote:
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@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/

@Pistonhead - So it's impossible to maintain any standards after losing one's virginity? I don't believe that.


Well maybe if you got to know some sluts and whores you would find that they were actually great people and then that might alleviate your fear of sex. idk


Uuum, I would prefer not to know those kinds of people. I already have pressure from my peers to have sex and it's really annoying and even if I didn't fear it, it wouldn't do me any good. Mom would render me homeless if I lost my virginity so it's not going to happen, okay? :/


Your mom would bale out on you just because you had sex? Are you absolutely sure? I ask because it sounds like you are getting a lot of unhealthy messages from home. It also sounds like she has too much control over your life.

A lot of people with Aspergers also have parents who have similar features so that explains it.


Well, Grandma kicked her youngest son out for being gay because, "he would be affecting the children." My brother and I were 12 and 13. We already knew and didn't care. I know she controls me but if I were to say anything of the sort, she'd deny it all so what's the point? I just don't want to risk being homeless because of her dogmatic Christian views. D:


Well you need to consider the degree to which you have internalized values about sex which aren't really compatible with your beliefs.



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30 Aug 2010, 10:48 pm

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Well you need to consider the degree to which you have internalized values about sex which aren't really compatible with your beliefs.


Sometimes I have no idea what you just said. Now is one of them. D:



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30 Aug 2010, 10:49 pm

Erisad wrote:
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Like I've said before Erisad, on the topic of sex you're just plain ignorant. Just because you use it doesn't mean you abuse it.


That's pretty much what I've been taught. There's a lot more risk for girls when it comes to sex. The guy can f**k all he wants and never have to worry about raising a child. After all, knocking up women and leaving them is the popular thing for men to do nowadays. I know there's contraception and such but there's no 100% guarantee that it'll work. For me, if I use it I lose everything. That's why it's just better for me to stay ignorant about sex right now. :/



I think you are thinking from a standpoint of irrational fear. If a man knocks up a girl the law says that he is required to pay some sort of child support or stay with her.



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30 Aug 2010, 10:50 pm

JohnisBlind wrote:
Erisad wrote:
JohnisBlind wrote:
Erisad wrote:
@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/

@Pistonhead - So it's impossible to maintain any standards after losing one's virginity? I don't believe that.


Well maybe if you got to know some sluts and whores you would find that they were actually great people and then that might alleviate your fear of sex. idk


Uuum, I would prefer not to know those kinds of people. I already have pressure from my peers to have sex and it's really annoying and even if I didn't fear it, it wouldn't do me any good. Mom would render me homeless if I lost my virginity so it's not going to happen, okay? :/


Your mom would bale out on you just because you had sex? Are you absolutely sure? I ask because it sounds like you are getting a lot of unhealthy messages from home. It also sounds like she has too much control over your life.

A lot of people with Aspergers also have parents who have similar features so that explains it.

My mom's overbearing on me, I'm planning on moving out after I'm done with school and I land a decent job to be mostly self-sufficient.

As for the OP - it depends on your definition of "love". I live in the hyperliberal Bay Area, and sex is EVERYWHERE. I wouldn't mind a friends with benefits situation before I go off looking for a serious relationship.



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30 Aug 2010, 10:52 pm

JohnisBlind wrote:
Erisad wrote:
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Like I've said before Erisad, on the topic of sex you're just plain ignorant. Just because you use it doesn't mean you abuse it.


That's pretty much what I've been taught. There's a lot more risk for girls when it comes to sex. The guy can f**k all he wants and never have to worry about raising a child. After all, knocking up women and leaving them is the popular thing for men to do nowadays. I know there's contraception and such but there's no 100% guarantee that it'll work. For me, if I use it I lose everything. That's why it's just better for me to stay ignorant about sex right now. :/



I think you are thinking from a standpoint of irrational fear. If a man knocks up a girl the law says that he is required to pay some sort of child support or stay with her.


LOL. That's not true. My father avoided most of the child support payments and didn't receive any flack for it. Men don't have to do a damn thing anymore. So go ahead, knock up every girl you see because it's not like you have to be responsible or anything. D:



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30 Aug 2010, 10:52 pm

I don't know why guys are arguing with Erisad. Have you seen her picture?



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30 Aug 2010, 10:53 pm

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I don't know why guys are arguing with Erisad. Have you seen her picture?


What is that supposed to mean? :x