Why do people have sex outside of marrige?

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There are different personality types out there - there may be one human species, but plenty of psychological subspecies exist.

Based on my (highly lacunary) knowledge of the Myers-Briggs test, INFJs are the most passionate about marriage and most devoted to being in a stable, lifelong relationship. They make up their minds about whether a person is good or bad for them quickly and wish to jump into relationships immediately afterwards, with minimal courting. I'm a lot like that. I absolutely hated the ideas of casual sex and dating, but Western culture did creep up on me, causing no end of conflicts between my feelings and the apparent need to "accept reality". I found it a relief to realize that I'm not completely unique in terms of my feelings.

There are people who, by nature, cannot comprehend the concept of true love, just as there people who, by nature, cannot comprehend altruism, college-level physics etc.

Sex before marriage should be allowed but people just need to be in longer relationships.
But really the only thing that needs to be gone(IMO) is casual sex and one night stands...

Sex is healthy, most definitely. It's good for you. I'm not married, just engaged, and I have a daughter with him. I don't know if I'll ever actually get married. I'm also not religious, so it doesn't make a bit of difference to me.

Because it's fun.

...flat out - that is why we humans have sex

Why wait for anything society says, such as marriage. Sex is part of expressing love. Plus as some others have said, if you're not sexually compatible then you need to know that before getting married. The key is to take precautions.

I've only been with 2 guys - one is my husband. I did it because I wanted to. I dont regret it. I agree with test driving before marriage. Some people are TERRIBLE in bed or have crazy fetishes. Best to find out ahead of time that the idea of getting peed on doesnt turn on your spouse, right?
I've been married 5 years now and it isnt all its cracked up to be. It's terribly exhausting.

Cause they want to, and no one's being hurt by it?

Why wouldn't they?

1.} Sense of openness

2.} Escape

3.} Social bonding

Agreed.

We work too hard. Americans have a reputation for being lazy. Not true. We pour more of our lives into our work than any other nation on Earth.

We are stuck in an endless earn-spend cycle. (Also see above.) Then we die. What's the point in chasing the dollar then? Go out and smell the roses, see a play, read a book, find someone who loves you.

What's the story with breasts anyway? Why is that such a taboo? Why can't we have topless beaches?

Everyone has sex. EVERYONE. The only difference is people's attitudes toward sex. We've demonized it, due in no small part to Christian Evangelicals. So that turned everyone into hypocrites!

There's something really bizarre injected into the male/female relationships here. It goes way beyond the manufactured drama and the phony conflict. I can't even put a finger on it. Dating American women is just sooooo draining. My last GF was Korean. Oh my that was nice! I also dated one German woman and that relationship too was like a load got lifted off my shoulders.

Americans love conflict. Just look at all the reality TV. It should really be called 'Conflict TV'. People sniping at each other constantly. How's that entertainment???? Sad just sad. (I like to watch BBC and also we get Canadian TV.)

Football is dumb. Too violent, and teaches young boys how to be aggressive. They in turn grow up into men who resolve their differences with violence.

People getting arrested and sent to jail for small amounts of pot. WTF????? The cop that made the arrest, the prosecutor, and the judge, have probably all used drugs at one time or another. Hypocritical a**holes. Let people have fun legally. Because they are doing it anyway.

Incessant advertising. Blatant lies and deceptions on TV and radio 24/7! LEGALLY! Full 20 minutes out of every hour of TV programming is some middle aged white guy in a suit and tie asking for my money. f**k off.

USA is a cultural void! I love the European museums and the architecture! But over here nothing is ever made unless it will make lots of money for the owner. When was the last time that a local theater group was mentioned in the news? Plenty of Lohan coverage though.

I'll stop here. You get my drift. What a sh***y place.

You know, the funny thing is that many people aren't even allowed to marry people that they'd actually want to have sex with.