This is what I hate most about my AS.
techstepgenr8tion
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NeantHumain wrote:
Both of these types of men sound awful. I am completely repelled from the first type of person and just uninterested in the second type. Both types are, of course, low on emotional intelligence and depth.
Well, unless there's something you haven't told us about yourself just be glad that your attraction doesn't swing that way
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
NeantHumain wrote:
Both of these types of men sound awful. I am completely repelled from the first type of person and just uninterested in the second type. Both types are, of course, low on emotional intelligence and depth.
Well, unless there's something you haven't told us about yourself just be glad that your attraction doesn't swing that way
What I mean is, even in normal (i.e., not romantic) social settings, I tend to avoid people of both types out of mere indifference or outright repulsion. Do women really box men into just two categories like this? I know a lot of people (men and women alike) somehow get the idea that I'm one of those ultra-conservative, religious, straight-laced types when I am much less so than they assume. This could play a small role in why I don't attract women (or at least not women I'd be interested in).
About the repulsion thing, doesn't anyone almost get sick (rather disgusted and annoyed) when around flamboyantly religious, clean-cut types?
I also tend to think the more urban-street-culture-oriented types who just like to party, goof off, and do drugs are, well, stupid (no offense to anyone). Much of their behavior seems to be the result of a lack of thought, yet they somehow dominate the youth culture and set the standards for socializing (at least if you're younger than 30). MTV, BET, and most other youth-oriented commercial activity are pretty much made for them.
techstepgenr8tion wrote:
Being one of those guys I'm not so sure about that, if anything I think there's two other types of guys who will always do better than me regardless of how much I might be able to ratchet up social skills, prove my maturity, my masculinity, or whatever:
1). The AS guy who's ultra straight-edge, dresses the part, looks the part, and pretty much the classic nice guy going for the classic nice girl
2). The guy who's all about the superficials, low emotional quotient, little or no depth, real cheeseball sense of humor
1). The AS guy who's ultra straight-edge, dresses the part, looks the part, and pretty much the classic nice guy going for the classic nice girl
2). The guy who's all about the superficials, low emotional quotient, little or no depth, real cheeseball sense of humor
I fear that I have been perceived too often as type #1. I act nice because I genuinely am, but I certainly wouldn't want to go with a "classic nice girl", because I would require an intellectual equal in any form of relationship (someone with whom I could regularly discuss ideas and theory with, rather than normal (boring) "social story" bull****). Being "nice" would obviously be beneficial, but not a requirement (but I still wouldn't want to date a "b***h").
