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22 Oct 2010, 6:20 pm

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I know this girl, she's sweet and personable, and I'm not sure if she's into me, but we're comfortable enough to where I think it's not unreasonable to ask for a date. No harm in asking, right? She's muslim- she wears the burka. Can someone tell me whether it's taboo to date outside their religion? Are there any muslims here that could tell me how her family might react?

What is your religion?



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23 Oct 2010, 2:29 am

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Tias wrote:
You don't stand a chance mate.

And i know what i'm saying, my family is muslim and i'm an atheist/ or do believe god exists, just don't like god/hate god, so i'm not into any religion. But i sure as hell do know how this is gonna work out.

And it's not gonna work out well for ya.

Muslims want their daughters to be married to another muslim, usually of the same country as them.
Not necessarily arranged marriage, but that she picks someone from where the family things is best for her.

A person like you, they would see you as an outsider, someone who dosn't believe in their god so you are doomed to go to hell in their eyes anyway and etc. I mean, forget it, seriously, you could be in for a world full of hurt if you two date and her parents don't like it = /


Muslim Danish? What's your real origin?


I'm not muslim, nor do i think i'm religious, i just a few days ago began to think that god just might exist ( after becoming an atheist when i was 16 or so ) but that i surely do hate god if there is such a thing.

Either way, both my parents are Turkish, but i was born in Denmark.
I'm also the black sheep in the family, partially along with my younger sister ( since i pretty much influenced her a lot when we were little )
We both don't look turkish and don't act like turkish people either. We both like video games and other nerdy stuff.

But yeah, i know from what i've seen and heard that this guy, the OP, has no chance with that girl, especially if she is wearing one of those things on her. Then it means her parents are most likely more strict with their religion and most likely want her to marry someone of the same religion, most likely same country



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23 Oct 2010, 4:43 am

Tias wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Tias wrote:
You don't stand a chance mate.

And i know what i'm saying, my family is muslim and i'm an atheist/ or do believe god exists, just don't like god/hate god, so i'm not into any religion. But i sure as hell do know how this is gonna work out.

And it's not gonna work out well for ya.

Muslims want their daughters to be married to another muslim, usually of the same country as them.
Not necessarily arranged marriage, but that she picks someone from where the family things is best for her.

A person like you, they would see you as an outsider, someone who dosn't believe in their god so you are doomed to go to hell in their eyes anyway and etc. I mean, forget it, seriously, you could be in for a world full of hurt if you two date and her parents don't like it = /


Muslim Danish? What's your real origin?


I'm not muslim, nor do i think i'm religious, i just a few days ago began to think that god just might exist ( after becoming an atheist when i was 16 or so ) but that i surely do hate god if there is such a thing.

Either way, both my parents are Turkish, but i was born in Denmark.
I'm also the black sheep in the family, partially along with my younger sister ( since i pretty much influenced her a lot when we were little )
We both don't look turkish and don't act like turkish people either. We both like video games and other nerdy stuff.

But yeah, i know from what i've seen and heard that this guy, the OP, has no chance with that girl, especially if she is wearing one of those things on her. Then it means her parents are most likely more strict with their religion and most likely want her to marry someone of the same religion, most likely same country


I was referring to your family/parents, I know you're atheist. I am in the same boat.



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23 Oct 2010, 8:47 am

My nephew who is half Chinese was seeing a Jewish girl.

He said to me "Her father doesn't like me. Is it because I am half Chinese?"

I said "No, he doesn't like you because you are not Jewish".



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23 Oct 2010, 8:55 am

kingtut3 wrote:
CaptainTrips222 wrote:
I know this girl, she's sweet and personable, and I'm not sure if she's into me, but we're comfortable enough to where I think it's not unreasonable to ask for a date. No harm in asking, right? She's muslim- she wears the burka. Can someone tell me whether it's taboo to date outside their religion? Are there any muslims here that could tell me how her family might react?

What is your religion?


CaptainTrips222,

Good luck! I hope for your sake and hers that religious and cultural differences don't prohibit you two from getting to know each other!

Please keep us posted on your progress! Thanks for sharing your story with us!

Good Luck again!



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23 Oct 2010, 9:40 am

Who knows?

I'm not an expert with muslims but I've met some who've expressed tolerance and appreciation for many religious values. But religious values only and that was my narrow experience. Maybe she likes you but try not to disrespect her cultural upbringings. I'm not very sure though how one deals with people who are brought up very religious. I have enough trouble with christian ideologies myself and seem to get into a lot of trouble.


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23 Oct 2010, 9:57 pm

As a Christian, I am opposed to Christians dating non-Christians. 2 Corinthians 6:14 clearly states that it is wrong. Your partner will not be able to support you spiritually. Every Christian needs support from other believers. The closest relationships to you do have a spiritual impact. It can pull you away from your faith.