17 Aug 2016, 6:44 am
Sabreclaw wrote:
The way I see it, school was my only chance to develop a relationship. That chance came and went. Now I'm just f****d for the rest of my life. If you've never been in a relationship by the time you're at University, you might as well just kill yourself. There really isn't anything to lose at that point.
It was completely different for me. I couldn't get any dates in school or when I was doing my bachelors degree and I only started to get some attention from girls during my masters. I got my first date on the first year of masters and a month after the graduation I got married.
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17 Aug 2016, 7:04 am
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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Sabreclaw wrote:
In my experience, there is zero chance of finding a girlfriend at university. As a maths/IT student, the classes are not designed with any social mindset. It's literally just go there and do the work, in silence. Most girls there are already in relationships, for the ones that aren't there's a huge amount of competition because the ratio of men-woman is enormous. Then there's the typical behaviour that people will either cling to others they already know, or just whip out the iPhones if they're bored. You can't just meet people in those circumstances.
The way I see it, school was my only chance to develop a relationship. That chance came and went. Now I'm just f****d for the rest of my life. If you've never been in a relationship by the time you're at University, you might as well just kill yourself. There really isn't anything to lose at that point.
The way I see it, school was my only chance to develop a relationship. That chance came and went. Now I'm just f****d for the rest of my life. If you've never been in a relationship by the time you're at University, you might as well just kill yourself. There really isn't anything to lose at that point.
Well, that was quite motivational.
As Boo would motivationally say, DON'T ever approach women you are at the very least not a mutual friend with. EVER.
This would mean you should never speak to any female classmates, because it's very unlikely that would be a success.
So only try to befriend males first, who can introduce you to women (that's if they actually know any, and since aspie men tend to struggle making friends, we only tend to become friends with nerdy/geek males who can't talk to women at all in the first place).
Only try to befriend males, even if you find it easier to be friends with women.
Yes, speak to female classmates within groups.
Honestly, I did approached girls directly before and became friends with some (but no gf), but it was in lucky circumstances:
- A girl knew my brother (coworker).
- A girl friend of a girl I am already friend with.
- In hiking trip, we both had empty besides us, I said something to her (a comment about the bus), she responded in conservative way, and she asked me to sit next to her seat (this one is the closest friend now...and I know that she has a crush on me).
- Two girls who are friends of an acquaintances I know.
Some others ended up as 'friends' on fb, but they were just ghosts filling my feed and no interaction at all beyond that; that before cleaning my list.
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17 Aug 2016, 5:05 pm
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Unfortunately since these days I prefer shyer girls and women, this may be a problem if she can't even express her feelings beyond looking/glances with a neutral face.
Dating a shy girl isn't always good. I dated a shy girl. I wanted to see her and go out with her. She wanted to stay at home by herself.Outrider wrote:
The problem is, cell phone usage now appeals to the mainstream.
Tragedy of the commons. Cell phone usage means there's no one left for me to talk to so I browse on my cell phone, then someone else sees me and thinks there's no one left to talk to so she browses on her cell phone. Infinite loop.Outrider wrote:
What I mean by this is, in the past the only people who were occupied by something, such as a book or newspaper or whatever, were the type of people to enjoy reading. Those that played handheld games like the Gameboy were the type of people to like video games.
Back in the days before Bejewled, portable gamers were a social bunch. When I was in school I was in an informal Game Boy club. When I was in TAFE in 2008 we played DS games. People playing portable games were quite happy to talk about said games as they played.The trouble with people playing Candy Crush on their phones is that the same phone is also an MP3 player. With headphones on they can't even hear you. The games are so mindless that there's nothing to talk about.
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I have no idea what to expect if I were to study Nutrition.
Expect girls who have a healthy diet and exercise. Expect girls who are slim and toned. Expect more girls than guys. Now I want to study nutrition 
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But thing is, I've heard the best way to meet other students at university is to join any local clubs or groups that are a part of the University, or are near the university and attract a large number of college-aged students anyway.
No wonder no one wants to go to TAFE. It doesn't have any clubs.Outrider wrote:
I doubt there would actually be any here.
Australian schools and colleges are very boring.
They aren't like American schools that have plenty of clubs and groups for nearly everyone.
But we have pubs. Australian uni students hang out in pubs near campus.Australian schools and colleges are very boring.
They aren't like American schools that have plenty of clubs and groups for nearly everyone.
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Most Australian Universities may have dorms, but there's no streets or anything - just footpaths to the other buildings and the parking lot.
I've been in several Australian universities that have streets and coffee outlets. The culinary school runs it's own restaurant too.Outrider wrote:
There are only a few of those here, mainly the biggest ones.
Then go to one of those ones. Perhaps there's one like that in Brisbane.Outrider wrote:
Either way, I'd be living off-campus even if there are dorms at this one, but unfortunately I've heard living off-campus makes building a social life even harder as it is much less personal than living in a dorm with others.
Don't worry. Everyone in Australia lives off-campus. Our dorms are mostly for international students.This isn't like America where every student has to live in a dorm for some reason.
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17 Aug 2016, 5:09 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
You'd be surprised how many Americans actually commute to college from their homes.
I stand corrected kraftiekortie wrote:
It's probably easier to find dates/relationships with your colleagues at work (especially if the person doesn't work in your department, and doesn't work directly with you).
How do I do that?How do I get to know girls from other departments?
How do I determine if they're single?
17 Aug 2016, 5:13 pm
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17 Aug 2016, 5:16 pm
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I don't know the layout of your office; how should I know?
I mean on general principles kraftiekortie wrote:
Does your company have a cafeteria?
No.kraftiekortie wrote:
Does your company encourage a "corporate culture?"
My company thinks the term "corporate culture" refers to a set of rules and regulations.kraftiekortie wrote:
As it stands now, your own department seems to be mostly men.
Yes but there are lots of women on my floor. All of them middle aged 
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