30 Nov 2010, 2:22 am
Shadi2 wrote:
I'm sorry about the difficulties you had to go through as a kid, but glad the outcome was positive and as you said you learned to explore your mind and people (etc), it must be traumatizing to be put in a bag and beaten too 
, maybe that's why you can understand what others are going through better then a lot of people, but it is also because of the way you reacted, not everyone would react in a positive way. Think of bullies for example, their reaction to their difficulties is the opposite of yours (assuming they have some issues at home or otherwise).i
, maybe that's why you can understand what others are going through better then a lot of people, but it is also because of the way you reacted, not everyone would react in a positive way. Think of bullies for example, their reaction to their difficulties is the opposite of yours (assuming they have some issues at home or otherwise).iHey Shadi!
Being traumatized everyday, it would really wear off eventually, I learned to get angry and fight, not literally but i mean fight to stay sane or something like that.. But I wasn't all positive I was bad too, I was even a bully, I was a street hoodlum, I get it to fights, I did drugs, all the sort of troubled teens did but I also became student council president to youth city councilor all at the same time, I wrote for the city school journals to help other teenagers cope with difficulties that I know too first hand. I wanted to live all the lives I could live, went to places not just geographically but places or areas of my being that I could go to but not as in depth as you guys could have gone.. That's when I know I don't like people sad or down, because I know how that feels. And then maybe I matured and realized whats important. Yeah, I don't know, but that's how it went.. hyperlexian wrote:
NcNbl, i have nothing of import to add, as i have no experience with aspie men.
but i wanted to say welcome to WP! and i love reading your posts. you're fun.
but i wanted to say welcome to WP! and i love reading your posts. you're fun.
Hi Hyperlexian! Nice to hear from you again!! !
And thank you!! Awww yeah I'm this crazy guy that crashed your forum hehe.. 
nthach wrote:
I think an aspie male/NT male relationship is going to be much harder even though gender roles in a gay relationship are flipped around. Aspies don't like showing emotions, and as an aspie male, I don't like much talking about how I feel to other people unless I can trust you. And I'm willing to say it's going to harder to establish rapport as well, the brain of an aspie male is based around logic and there's a firewall between the logical and empathetic portions of our brains.
Hey nthach!
Thanks for the insight. I know trust me, i know hehe.. You could also add distance to that. I also have problems when I was in relationship with girls from being too logical and rational and intellectualizing matters more than they could, I could also seem detached and I like my alone time too more than a regular NT that they're used to. But with this guy, I could understand and I think he understands me too. I just really want to be the bestest and most rightest friend or person I could be for him to the very least. I'm aware that this is very different and promisingly difficult but I'm willing to go there, I think I have much love to give and in me that so far is bigger than any difficulty I might face. Plus, I'm not interested with anyone else and I got to have a lot of this wonderful things because of him or because I knew him so, I can't just let go of something that is this good. Sorry, that was sickeningly cheesy hehe.. Anyways, so yeah.. that..
I really wish I could survive this though.. hehe..
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30 Nov 2010, 8:42 am
NcNbl wrote:
Shadi2 wrote:
I'm sorry about the difficulties you had to go through as a kid, but glad the outcome was positive and as you said you learned to explore your mind and people (etc), it must be traumatizing to be put in a bag and beaten too , maybe that's why you can understand what others are going through better then a lot of people, but it is also because of the way you reacted, not everyone would react in a positive way. Think of bullies for example, their reaction to their difficulties is the opposite of yours (assuming they have some issues at home or otherwise).i
, maybe that's why you can understand what others are going through better then a lot of people, but it is also because of the way you reacted, not everyone would react in a positive way. Think of bullies for example, their reaction to their difficulties is the opposite of yours (assuming they have some issues at home or otherwise).iHey Shadi!
Being traumatized everyday, it would really wear off eventually, I learned to get angry and fight, not literally but i mean fight to stay sane or something like that.. But I wasn't all positive I was bad too, I was even a bully, I was a street hoodlum, I get it to fights, I did drugs, all the sort of troubled teens did but I also became student council president to youth city councilor all at the same time, I wrote for the city school journals to help other teenagers cope with difficulties that I know too first hand. I wanted to live all the lives I could live, went to places not just geographically but places or areas of my being that I could go to but not as in depth as you guys could have gone.. That's when I know I don't like people sad or down, because I know how that feels. And then maybe I matured and realized whats important. Yeah, I don't know, but that's how it went.. I appreciate your honesty, it takes courage to admit this (about you being a bully, drugs etc), you obviously know better now, and I guess as you said your experience can be useful in helping others who would go through similar problems. And eventho I really hate bullies, they probably do need help too if we want them to realise how much harm they can do. Unfortunately some of them may never care tho, I don't know if you have heard of Sophie Lancaster, but her murderers, and the mother of one of them, was even laughing about it. I talked with her mother's best friend a few months ago, she told me her boyfriend (who survived the attack) couldn't even get out of the house, he was still terrified. This was extreme bullying and I don't know if those guys will ever realise how horrible what they did is.
Stopping myself again, I am so off subject, sorry again
30 Nov 2010, 1:06 pm
Shadi2 wrote:
I appreciate your honesty, it takes courage to admit this (about you being a bully, drugs etc), you obviously know better now, and I guess as you said your experience can be useful in helping others who would go through similar problems. And eventho I really hate bullies, they probably do need help too if we want them to realise how much harm they can do. Unfortunately some of them may never care tho, I don't know if you have heard of Sophie Lancaster, but her murderers, and the mother of one of them, was even laughing about it. I talked with her mother's best friend a few months ago, she told me her boyfriend (who survived the attack) couldn't even get out of the house, he was still terrified. This was extreme bullying and I don't know if those guys will ever realise how horrible what they did is.
Stopping myself again, I am so off subject, sorry again
Stopping myself again, I am so off subject, sorry again
Lol no, it's okay, don't sweat it..
Well, those weren't a secret or something I would deny, I could just even tell people those hehe.. And some people know me just by those too hehe.. I kinda have heard literally but not really on my attention just really heard it from the news when i wasn't looking, like that.. Well some people like those murderers are just so caught up with their very small consciousness and reality that they have and are not really aware of the rest's. Now that's really bad and what's worse is that they may not realize those at all too because they would fail or refuse to look at the bigger reality that there are other people in this world and not just them.
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