What arouses you?

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anachronism - not anarchism



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Cheerfully,
Wallourdes

I did not see a request for charm in the original question. It begged only an answer. I answered briefly, directly, civilly and honestly, with wry humor obviously lost on you, but without resorting to childish sarcasm, insults or self righteousness. At what charm school did you learn those endearing qualities?

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Yes, Moog - humility does come under the category of excellence of character! Moog, I had no idea you were a man until I checked out your profile details. In the last few months I have stayed away from the forums because the negativity and bashing gets old real fast.
With all seriousness I can honestly that I always enjoy reading your posts because they are infused with wit, compassion and intelligence.
Thanks for your posts!!

Please explain what you mean by restriction. Thanks!

I think all of these things are hot in a guy except hands that could crush my own!

My fetishes
Foot Fetish
Leg Fetish
Hair Fetish (Head hair, not body hair)
Smaller breasts (A-C cups)
Tattoos
Piercings.

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Kaybee,

I wholeheartedly concur. In this life everyone has their chosen paradigm when it comes to making love (their attitudes, motivations, etc.). Obviously, procreation is one reason why people make love - to have children.

When I was 24 years old I was sexually revolutionized by an ex boyfriend (Peter the Great and yes I still call that today) who taught me that what makes a person a good lover is when you are more concerned about someone else's pleasure than you are your own (with the caveat that you both care deeply for one another). Because he approached making love like this with me - he inspired me to reciprocate. And quite frankly, he changed my life and my attitudes about making love through his actions. Unfortunately, we broke up and then I moved 2,500 miles away clear across the country. But even today - many years later I think of him fondly and I am eternally grateful to him!

It is unfathomable to me when I hear that some men or women don't want to make love with their partner - then why the heck are you involved with them in the first place. For me, it is a natural progression that if you care about someone enough to commit to them (dating or marriage for that matter) - then you should want to be intimate and maximize their pleasure because you care about their needs!

Just my thoughts!!

Ooh, I like you

Don't let negativity keep you away! It's only negativity.

I thought an anachronism was a time travelling spider?

Wombat,

Thank your reply! I am sorry to hear that you stated "you used to be that man." If you are serious, I hope you find your way back!

As I am familiar with the medieval romance canon of Chretien de Troyes (English was one of my majors at Rutgers), I can relate to the knight/damsel in distress paradigm you mention.

Personally, I don't want (or never have for that matter) wanted a white knight to idealize me (put me on a pedestal of sorts). Perhaps, the idealized is the operative word here. And if something is "idealized", chances are it is unattainable and not grounded in reality.

I view a viable romantic match as a man who is a partner with whom I am compatible intellectually, spiritually, physically, ethically, etc. More specifically, in these modern times, I think that stereotypical conventional male/female roles have been rendered outdated.

I think a relationship is a partnership in which no one party gets everything they want - but both parties get some of what they want.

I don't want someone to take care of me or make me happy. I honestly believe that two partners should take care of each other to the best of their ability. Moreover, I don't think that anyone can or should have the responsibility to make their partner happy. Perhaps,
a successful romantic relationship is a partnership that is mutually beneficial for both parties. If the primary reason two people are together is economic, where is the romance? I believe the reason for being with someone is because you want to be and choose to be for the right reasons (as in you are in love with your best friend, your lover and your life partner who has your back and you have theirs without exception)!.

And lastly, I don't expect anymore out of a relationship than I bring to the table!

What arouses you?

Unbridled integrity.

Property/-ies enhanced with bold applies to me. We're 9.0909...% compatible. Wohoo!! !

(Yeah, I exaggerated. Though no offence intended. )

Shouldn't Prince Charming know how to darn his own socks, stitch his own shirts, and bind his own wounds?

If I wanted someone who needs me for every little thing I'd pump out a baby, thanks.

Right on sister!

Great answer!!

common interests... it makes me feel like I could actually have a connection with someone...