Anyone here find intellect an attractive qaulity?

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It is not just about her intellect or her looks, it is also about her personality in general. It doesn`t help if she is really smart or really hot if she behaves like an @sshole towards other people. When it comes to intellect, I think the most important is that she is not dumb. Average intellect is quite ok, but I prefer that she at least have some intellectual interests, that she is capable of having a meaningful discussion and doesn`t use her entire time shopping fashion-clothes and reading gossip-magazines. Of course, I would prefer that she had more than average looks, but in the long run, that is not enough to keep a relationship going. Then other qualities are more important.

Although I must confess I could live with a girl who was a bimbo, a smart girl (who was also girly at the same time) would be (for me) my best choose.

If you think of Sarah Sutton's Nyssa (out of 'Doctor Who' back in the 1980's) or Wendy Padbury's Zoe Herrot (also from 'Doctor Who' abet in the 1960's) then you'll have an idea as to my type.

However when I was looking for a girlfriend I did also look for a childlike, loving and bubbly outlook and nature which were the most important things for me.

Even If it meant that I'd be going out with a 'bimbo' the fact that she was smart still racked high on my list of criteria.

In short I like my girlfriend best, when she has done herself up well (which she normally does) and does not go round acting like a child (but is still happy) but will look at me with those loving and trusting eyes I know and love so well.

Balance is key for me with everything for me


Goodbye Till Next Time

Walked into that one.

Intellect is my top priority.
Actually, second after sense of humour.

If he can't make me laugh we're not compatible. >.<

no. i do not think intelligence is beautiful.
i can admire intelligence but i can not "love" it.

i love innocence. intelligence is a major corrupter of innocence.
innocence is so beautiful and i wish to protect it from the wily world of manipulation and selfishness that is the hallmark of sentient greed.

i love animals because they are who they are without pretense or contrivedness.
animals can not lie. animals have no hidden agendas. animals are on the floor of existence and i always trust the glint that is reflected in an animals eye.

i do find exceptional intelligence in humans "interesting", and i like to explore it, but my soul charged "love" is only freely available to eyes who are free of deception and falsity.

i love humans that are very basic and who do not stage an act designed to appeal to me.

they are very rare, and i feel that i must take them under my wings and shelter them from the bitchery and maligned influence of the world of high iq's that would wish to pollute their minds with a sense of skepticism.

it does not matter how smart you are, you can not calculate the totality of the universe, and even if you could, i would not feel a special feeling of reverence toward you.

i would feel that you are above me, and i only love those who lie under my wings.

Why do you do this crap man? You talk in ryme,metaphores, all that crap. Just like little_tigger. There is nothing wrong with that. However, you might want to veer away from that if you want a women.

She's a keeper

He already has a girlfriend and many people here appreciate his "crap". Can you say the same for yourself?

I understand the world mostly through metaphors. So the more metaphors a person uses, the better I understand him. b9 uses more metaphors than anyone else on Wrongplanet and so I find his posts the easiest to understand.

Different people like different things.

Last edited by Janissy on 19 Dec 2010, 3:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

For realz.

I would also definitely go with B.

Anyway, I also want to state my opinion that it's usually the intelligent who want smart women, whereas it's normally the dumb ones who are intimidated by them.

I find certain areas of intellect attractive, though if a woman has strong intelligence in the areas where my own brain seems to be over-developed (technical, visuospatial intelligence) it actually takes away from her attractiveness. I would tend to feel that neither of us really gain anything from each others' brains, and that we would both be much stronger with people who complement us more. Though for certain kinds of sexual flings, having a more similar mind might be a plus.

And with this you not only need to consider the area of intelligence, but also the way of thinking. I find that a lot of intelligent people are more organized and literal in their thinking than I am. This means that they can lack creativity, and even more importantly, patience for more fanciful or intuitive ideas. On the other hand, these people might be able to help me think more practically, so I have a slight love-hate relationship with them.

But I am starting to realize just how much I expect to be valued for my own intelligence, in relation to what I value in others. I have always been loved for my mind, yet in some ways always have had a sickly body (though in some ways I've also had a really healthy body, as I've always spent quite some time outdoors exercising). Sometimes I feel a little like a mind looking for a body to pair up with or even "inhabit", if that makes any sense.

I had a really dull bf once - it lasted two whole weeks. He was insufferable.

Eventually looks give way as well as a lively sex life, so you've got to have someone who can hold their own in conversation.

I was about to post how girls able to match my (ridiculously overcomplicated) wit always have turned me on, but then I saw this:

Now I'm confused. As a life partner, I certainly don't want a clone of myself. But I don't think a smart person is necessarily an obnoxious I-want-the-last-word career-obsessed type

Ideally, I'd hope for someone who understood my jokes. So far I've only met two people my age that really did, one of them moved to Germany and the other is a guy.

I do.

You're giving women a very narrow range of possibilities here. An intelligent person doesn't necessarily have to have the characteristics you list in #2. Nor does a person of average intelligence necessarily have to think of herself as a follower. She could very well assume she's the boss, especially if she's an idiot. A big dummy can do all of #2 and a genius all of #1.

Marriage is a partnership and trust me, you want someone who can pull their weight and help you when you're down. It's a life of give and take and helping support each other - power is always in flux. People are much more complex than what you've listed, regardless of their intelligence.