Anyone here just want a girl for affection?

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26 Dec 2010, 11:26 am

^ Yup, exactly my point.

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26 Dec 2010, 11:29 am

a lot of guys here seem to try and use the mask of "they only want affection" to, I guess try and appear more desirable

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26 Dec 2010, 11:31 am

Well if you already have a boyfriend or girlfriend or don't desire one, you can easily take affection for granted, but if you feel lonely you don't.

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26 Dec 2010, 11:32 am

Asp-Z wrote:

Well if you already have a boyfriend or girlfriend or don't desire one, you can easily take affection for granted, but if you feel lonely you don't.

I don't feel lonely

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26 Dec 2010, 11:33 am

Kilroy wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

Well if you already have a boyfriend or girlfriend or don't desire one, you can easily take affection for granted, but if you feel lonely you don't.

I don't feel lonely

That'll be why you think it'd be boring then - you can take it all for granted because you feel you have it.

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26 Dec 2010, 11:47 am

have what? I don't need it to be happy

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26 Dec 2010, 11:51 am

Kilroy wrote:

have what? I don't need it to be happy

You have enough to satisfy the extent of your need for it. Obviously, if that were not true, you'd be lonely.

Either that, or you are lonely but you kid yourself you aren't, as I used to.

I don't know you so I can't make a judgment either way. We can assume the first statement is true because we have no reason to believe otherwise.

So, if you have enough affection (no matter what "enough" is for you), you won't care about it because you don't desire more than you have. However, if you have less than you feel you need, it makes sense to desire more.

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26 Dec 2010, 11:56 am

no one knows how to make themselves happy, they want everyone else to do it for them

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26 Dec 2010, 12:02 pm

Kilroy wrote:

no one knows how to make themselves happy, they want everyone else to do it for them

Humans are social animals by nature, whether us autistics like that or not.

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26 Dec 2010, 12:03 pm

still not the woman's fault if she don't like you
and so, so many blame them just the same

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26 Dec 2010, 12:11 pm

Kilroy wrote:

still not the woman's fault if she don't like you
and so, so many blame them just the same

See my post on the other thread, since we're discussing the exact same issue on there now.

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26 Dec 2010, 12:12 pm

oh right, the one with the lame as hell graph

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26 Dec 2010, 6:58 pm

Kilroy wrote:

oh right, the one with the lame as hell graph

I've never heard anybody describe Maslow's hierarchy of needs in that particular way.

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26 Dec 2010, 7:03 pm

well I like to be different I guess

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28 Dec 2010, 9:21 pm

Yes, I really only want a girlfriend for affection and not for sex or anything like that. I'm not a testosterone-driven monster like most NT males are. I want to care for my girlfriend and for her to care for me as well. I want her not to be a burden, asking for clothing and stuff, and I'd not want myself to be a burden for her. I want to be good friends with my girlfriend, good enough that we can tell each other everything and comfort each other, be there for each other.

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28 Dec 2010, 9:24 pm

oh yeah cause the aspie males are soooo innocent

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