Who is attracted to you/flirts with you?

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You probably know what's up, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Please delete all my posts.

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Please delete all my post.

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In the current Australian labour shortage there are blue collar workers earning the equivalent to and quite often more then their white collar counterparts. Don't judge people on their bank account. I hate girls who hit on me because I have a decent pay package, my answer to them when they ask is, "why do you want to know, are you too lazy to work?". Not having a go at you personally or anything, just making a statement as to the shallowness of some girls.

Always people who I feel are really creepy and uncomfortable to be around seem to hit on me >.< Usually they are older people who ride the bus. This one guy was particularly bad, and he was talking stuff to me and trying to hold my hand, and I really don't get angry and lash out, I don't want to make a scene, but he was really being inappropriate! I look 17 or so, though I'm 25, and this guy was around 50ish, so holy crap I attract creepy pedofiles and other weirdos!!

There are a couple of young guys on the internet who like me though. One of them is really a funny case because, he's bisexual, and we have in common a crush on the same guy, but he likes me as well! Hah. So one minute he will go from complimenting me and saying I can get anyone I want, and the next, we talk about how hot this other guy is LOL. He's cool.

You took everything I said the wrong way. I'd never date someone because they are rich.
I'd have to be attracted to them first. If they are rich it's just an added bonus. I wouldn't just be attracted to some horrible millionare.

I'm not attracted to people for money, but it so happens the type of guys I like happen to be educated and often powerful.

Anyone who took these personally is a loser. Come on guys, it's one thing to be an honest working joe -- if you accept that place in life then there is nothing wrong with that. If you don't, you have the power to change it. You have control of your own destiny.

I take issue with the guys that won't try to either change their station or at least woo the girl to change her view, but instead will give a girl hell for saying something like this or just occupying another station in life. Guys like that are absolute dirt bags, plain and simple. If this girl doesn't like you for who you are, there are always plenty of others who have acceptable standards. It is selfish to attack or degrade one girl for having standards, no matter how high those standards might be -- by doing this, you are expecting that girl's happiness to take a back seat to your own, a very possessive idea.

It is not selfish to have standards and know what you want. Such is a perfectly healthy thing.

Some people need to grow up.

Phoenix, I can see people being a little offended but I'd think if someone says something like that they'd also realize that this world is full of people who have opinions and they don't HAVE to associate with everyone. I just technically finished my BBA today (last final exam) but I have lots of blue collar friends, friends who are in trades, guys who I have a heck of a lot of respect for and if they're into repairing fire or water damage, heating & cooling, electrical or plumbing, these guys are probably going to be making more than me even when I have a master's degree - they're uber NT, more classic guys than me, but I'd never consider them less intelligent (if anything I think a lot of em could score higher grades in college if they tried but it just wasn't their thing). While I'm not going to say for sure that I know what the agenda is here I think I agree with what your hinting at and if anything it's a sign that they need to get more self respect and also stop putting women above them that much that they need to sway someone's oppinion who - at least as far as she says - wants nothing to do with the dating world as it is.

No, no. No disrespect to the honest working man. I have my Masters Degree, but most my friends are blue collar (and some do make more than me). I come from a family where success is encouraged no matter where you go -- some are engineers, several are law enforcement and some are (very successful) blue collar. Anyone can be vastly successful at any level if they work hard enough and smart enough. That was purely directed at the guys who try to drag the girl down. I supremely dislike guys who start chopping away at a girl just because she doesn't want to date them. I wasn't on yesterday and when I read that crap today I got pissed.

Yeah, I think we're in agreement.

Back when I was dancing the first night at camp,this guy with moderate functioning autism kissed me on my cheek and hugged me.


-SpaceCase

Smart Women. Many of whom are physically attractive.

Pretty much exactly who I want to be.


Of course the problem is that they tend to be really far away. Generally in other countries.

And with the notable exception of one of my Instructors who was enganged, this is all over the internet so they could be liars.

And we probably couldn't know each other all that well.


But I'll take what I can get.

Im mostly to ignorant to know, but once in a rare moment, I catch a few looks and smiles.

rogal_dorn:

You, as anyone, are entitled to preferences in who you choose.

But I just wanted to add this:

I am a female, married. I used to think girls/women who asked about salary might be shallow, or even as society labels, 'gold diggers'. Now, with what I know today, I think they are smart. Money is a top topic of argument in many marriages. It may sound crass, but, money makes more enjoyment of life possible. Trips, a nice home, etc. Especially as the years go on, and the marriage may go stale, having some comforts in life (I'm not talking about furs/diamonds/big cars, just the basics) does help. A LOT.

Also if you plan to have children, providing well for their upbringing, clothing and nutrition, and schooling, is important to a family - and women appreciate such things if they're going to be mothers. So, asking about money has a practical point of view.

Also... it is a good indicator of a man's willingness to work to support his family, and that he is not lazy. Please note: I am NOT saying that a man with less money is lazy. I'm only saying that if a man has a lot of money, unless it's illegally gotten... it is not likely that HE is lazy.

No matter how far society progresses, there is still a deep need many women have, that their mate be a good provider. Other women may wish to work just as hard and not accept a penny from their mate. But I doubt that even they would PREFER a man who is not ambitious or who makes less than they do. Accept and even love, yes. Prefer? Doubtful.

Chalk it up to primal forces if nothing else... are you attracted to a pretty and youthful and fit female? Well - a good number of females are attracted to a dependable, reliable man who provides well.

I have heaps of friends that work in trades, and I totally love them. But that's what they are: FRIENDS. Not PEOPLE I WANT TO MARRY.

Often labourers are uneducated, and are just not my type. It doesn't mean I don't like them. Geez.

I am male, and I require that my future female mate be a good provider. But not to provide for me. Both of us should be good providers, or rather self-sufficient and independent. I really do NOT want to be with a women who is dependent on me and basically wants to be my parasite in exchange for sex.

So my point is, seeking someone who is financially self-sufficient or a good provider, that by itself makes sense, it helps demonstrate that your mate is competent. However, unfortunately, some people seek a good provider only because they are lazy, do not want to work themselves, and want to be a dependent/parasite.

EDIT: And I said "some people" not "some women" because men do it too. I have seen it.

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